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I just did a porn shoot...
Anonymous
Ok, so I'm a model professionally. Work has been TERRIBLY scarce. So I started looking for jobs, and ended up booking a "maxim style" project. When I actually got there, it turned out to be hardcore porn. I've never done that sort of thing before. They had 14 girls, and the scene was supposed to be a party scene that eventually becomes an orgy. They told me I didn't have to do anything too sexual, but I would make more money if I at least flashed my t*ts. I refused, and instead ended up more like a prospector/commentator then actually participating in the sex acts. One naked guy did start humping me ( I had clothes on), and I just ran away laughing, spilling beer all over the place. They tried really hard to pressure me to do more, but I wouldn't do it. But I didn't just leave because I really needed the money.anything like that again... Anyway, I made friends with some of the other girls. A lot of them di this stuff for a living, and they say they hate every minute of it but they need the cash. One girl says she can only do it if she's had some drugs before the shoot. Most of them lose they're boyfriends because of it after a while, or say they can't get dates when guys find out what they do. One girl was an escort on the side and said that after the guys had sex with her, they'd call her a whore and act like they were disgusted by her. She just quit having boyfriends all together. I think she sort of resents all men because of this. My question is...why do guys like to look at porn, but get all weirded out when it comes to actually seeing the girls in real life? These are real people with feelings, and that's kind of hypocritical, isn't it? The only girl who's Boyfriend didn't have a problem with it was because he worked for Playboy.
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23 41they say they hate every minute of it but they need the cash. One girl says she can only do it if she's had some drugs before the shoot. Most of them lose they're boyfriends because of it after a while, or say they can't get dates when guys find out what they do. One girl was an escort on the side and said that after the guys had sex with her, they'd call her a whore and act like they were disgusted by her. She just quit having boyfriends all together. I think she sort of resents all men because of this."
Only people having a very unrealistic view of what's going on will expect it to be otherwise than what you tell here.
You just " forgot" one thing: as much as they hate the job, they love the cash even more. They could be a (poorly paid) cashier at Walmart or serve at MacDo. Yet they still stay in that porn job. Why?
its sad but that's the way it is. those girls ARE USED and that's the truth of the matter. we want them in our fantasies but that's all.
Guys like to look at porn because it is entertaining.
All the women I know watch porn? We girls just don't like to admit it, but we do watch it quite frequently :) There just isn't a whole lot of porn that stimulates a woman's mind, but it's still out there...
why would anyone who likes porn hate porn actresses? I for one love the hell out of porn stars and don't understand why everyone has to be embarrassed about sex. being in porn, especially regulated porn (blood tests and so on) is entirely respectable as a means of income. guys who treat women who have sex for money like "whores" have security issues, in addition to being self loathing. these guys are nothing but filthy hypocrites with guilt issues being translated to "disgust" and a holier then thou attitude towards the girl HE JUST PAID to have sex with. think about that. if he's actually disgusted by the girl he just paid to have sex with, he must have some deep seated issues with himself. the prevailing sociological opinion towards sex in this country forces women who like sex to associate with assholes and hypocrites. if you do porn, there is NO REASON to be ashamed. try to find an actual set with medical records being taken, etc. that you don't just frigging walk in on, it would be a much more pleasant high paying environment. good rule of thumb is, if you can mistakenly walk in on it, its probably a shady operation
Not really. Everyone had their blood tested.The company was pretty legit; they just didn't get into detail in Craigslist
Guys can be immature sometimes. It's also the box of social convention that we are all brought up in, in our culture. The double standard.
Guys get laid and their Champs!
But the Girl that got him laid is labeled a whore.
It's not fair and it sucks!
I am older than most here and I can admit that at one point in my youth, I saw things like these guys but as soon as I matured and learned to think for myself, I cut that crap.
In fact I was drawn to your post because iit said "I just did a porn shoot." I was intrigued and I wanted to hear from a girl who has been a part of that scene.
Unlike the guys you mention. I find it fascinating and I am extremely turned on by women who are so in charge of their sexuality.
I have heard some stories like this where the girls claim to hate every second but I have also heard the opposite and very often it has to do with the companies that are creating the porn.
The less reputable names tend to be the ones that allow the girls to be treated less than professionally.
To wrap up, I would never look down upon a woman for doing porn. I tend to see them as sex Goddesses who hold the reins of eroticism.
I do porno movies but I find them enjjoyable. its all a matter of opinion
New Zealand would allow a 16 year old girl do porno work?
Good point
Because porn is all about fantasy. When the fantasy becomes reality, and that reality is in the form of a human being--not an untouchable sex goddess--they're unenchanted. It's f***ing ridiculous, the way men are today.
Yes, it is a sucky double standard. Just add it to the list of things men expect of women but not of themselves. Oh, and fyi, I don't hate on men but I do see that men's ego's are fragile. I have read posts on here where people are involved in FWB or no-strings casual deals but if the girl has another guy on the side, it's classified as "awful" but, of course, the guy can be sleeping around and it is expected.
Guys are afraid you are comparing their penis or their performance to another man's. Most are unlikely to be able to handle dating someone who does this for a living.
Personally I find the fact that guys act like FWB or casual sex is fine but in their minds they consider the girl who does it to be a whore or a slut or just not relationship material. Not many girls will end up in p*rn, but a lot of girls are now exposed to the temptation for casual sex, and they might want to keep in mind what the guy is really thinking about them.
dont do porn if you want a real relationship end of story
Honestly, it depends on the porn. I don't think the same way of girls who do artistic nude modeling as I do of girls who do hardcore. But basically when a guy is looking at porn he's looking for a fantasy, it is escapism just like video games, movies or anything else. It is a way of hiding from a lack of actual sexual fufilment, for a single person that's okay to a certain extent, but it can be extremely destructive to any relationship. And even for single people, it can become a crutch for a sexually unfufilled life leading into a spiral of lonliness, depression and self hate.
Looking at porn and looking down on women who do porn is hypocritical on some levels, but just the same as a girl wouldn't want to date a guy who slept around and had a lot of one night stands a guy feels the same way.
Personally, I think it is no different than an other crutch addiction like booze, if it hurts people in the end. Porn is not a substitute for a real relationship. It's a habit I'm trying to kick because I don't like how it makes me feel about myself.
There are a lot of guys who actually date pornstars, I read an intense article on it. They say they don't care because the sex and things they do for work, isn't intimate. It's work.
if you don't want to be a porn model the don't do it.
This p*sses me off about men as well. I just don't understand why they feel as though just because a girl has sex for money suddenly they don't deserve basic human respect. I really don't get it, not at all.
Who in the hell do they think they are judging women like that. It's things like this that make me realize the superiority of the female sex. Empathy is very much a modern, civilisated, evolved emotion, and it is very lack in many men.
Yeah agree, their totally using these women as sex objects. then have no respect for them after
Well, I'm a guy and it really p*ss me off to hear some guys call her a whore and act like they were disgusted by her after she had sex with them. What a f***ing retard moroms! Yous hould never treat a girl like that no matter how prostitute she is.
About the dating a porn star, I mean unless is just for sex, is really hard for most guys to deal with that.
Madonna / whore complex
It is okay in their minds to have their fun and use the women for pleasure but they don't want the mother of their children or anyone they give their heart to to be that type of woman.
Truth of the matter is . . . because as hot as a guy thinks it is, he doesn't want the ONE he is with to be with others (men or women). Yeah, many guys do look at porn, and sometimes do fantasize about having porn-like experiences, but are afraid that the porn experienced woman he gets with may either have too much of a sexual appetite and go off with someone else, or that they will just go off f**king someone else because if they have done it more money, they have sold a part of themselves that is supposed to be, well, unsellable.
You are absolutely right. These people are every bit a person as anybody else. But the fear of the casually having sex with someone else (without regars to who they are with) is a thought most men will not chance to have.
For every choice/action, there is a consequence.
Unfortunately when you make the wrong choice for the right reason (such as a paycheck) the end results will not be favorable.
I could never see myself being with someone who performed sexually in pornos. I couldn't image that I could ever satisfy them physically. Plus, I know I would never be as hot-looking as any of the guys from those pornos.
Yes, it's very hypocritical and it's employing a double standard. You're correct they are real people with feelings and deserve no less respect than any other girl who isn't a porn star or an escort. Some of the sweetest girls I've ever met were escorts.
Men who use porn aren't in a relationship with the woman. They are looking at her image for the purpose of sexual gratification and it doesn't much matter to them who she is as a person, what her dreams and fears are, whether she was sexually abused in childhood, or whether she has to get high in order to do her job. It completely dehumanizes her. In a relationship, you are involved with the person, and it matters what they do with their bodies. I could NEVER be with a man who wouldn't mind if I was with other men sexually (for money no less), posed naked for other men, etc. It's the difference between being loved by a man and being sexually used by a man. And I can only imagine how hard it is to get your dignity back after doing something like this. If it is hard for a boyfriend to accept, imagine how hard it would be if your future children ever found out...