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I like being a "slut"! So why do people have a problem with this?
Anonymous
If you look at it this way. Everyone wins. I get sex, the guys get sex, and the future girlfriends get more experienced partners. So what's the big deal with people ridiculing and hating on sluts. We play our part in society. When you think about it we don't really hurt anyone. Most sluts know that guys don't want sluts as girlfriends and wives. We're not stupid, but we do know that men are men and they like sex. And guess what we like sex too. So it works out fine. And whenever the guy wants a relationship with a girl he likes I'll back off and sleep with other guys who aren't in relationships.
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161 213I don't have a problem with sluts. You're your own person and you can do whatever you want. As long as you stay the hell away from my boyfriend :)
why is it the slut responsibility to stay away from your boyfriend instead of your boyfriend making the right decision? It bothers me for people to teach other people to run from problem instead of addressing it.
mmike0 although you're absolutely right that it's his responsibility to stay away, men are notorious for f***ing anything on offer so to him a slut is a sure thing and nobody need find out. So if he can get away with doing it, he will. Eg: my man wouldn't cheat (he says) but if a slut puts it on the table for free - no strings - it'd be hard for him to say no.
Of course it's his responsibility to make the right decision. That doesn't mean that I'd enjoy a slut trying to hit on him anyway though lol
No I've said no plany of times and raring felt tempted. Look at it this way, girls who give it away more freely sift out the weaker men from the pack. You wouldn't want to be with a guy you think is cimmited to you but is haveing sex with other women, possibly exposing you to stds?
Ya, no problem banging as much as you want. As far as 'slut' goes, those who say that term are just AFCs (average frustrated chumps) who cannot get laid, or put too much value into sex.
Yeah, it's a negative term. I don't see a girl being 'easy' either - she's just sexually adventurous and more of a sure thing into taking to bed. When a guy plays these cards (telling a girl he wants to have sex with her tonight), they don't call him 'easy' - they say he's got balls, confidence, and not afraid to approach a girl he's very attracted to.
So if a girl came up to me and said she wants to do me, I either say 'yes' or 'no' politely. I only do it with girls I'm attracted to, and I'm sure they'll bang me only if they find me attractive as well.
So don't worry, no ones a slut. Just sexually open-minded, and willing to have more fun with a guy.
I've done more research on this topic since then, and I've changed my views over. It's NOT a good thing to sleep around. So please forget this statement I wrote because it was terrible :(
I couldn't agree with you more! I just love sex! When I was younger my friends said I should have been a man as much as I love having sex! and like she said...it just makes the girl more experienced! Have fun and enjoy life!
Did you get a "misterious burning sensation" xD ? Or did she do the "I want a baby!" after you were done :) ? Sex is nice... as far as sluts go I never hate on them but I will always approach them in a rather negative way. I can be friends with a slut but I often won't sleep with one just because I know of her past.
"Just sexually open-minded, and willing to have more fun with A guy."... you mean have more fun with MANY guys... the reason why I find someone who sleeps around annoying is because I would really like to stop the spread of disease. I find it a little irritating that some people are so irresponsible about it that they infect themselves and then others... hello it's gross and not okay imo! That being said, have as much sex as you want with people you know, and people you know are clean!
its funny you agree with this crap, and so sorry to be such an ass. lol. but have yall ever heard of stds?...just sayin.
I strongly believe all girls have an "inner-slut" just begging to come out. Most of us, though, keep it hidden.. That is, until we find a special person to share it with. Instead of having sex with a different guy every weekend with no sign of a connection other than physical, most girls choose to find a guy and then build a foundation with him. We need to know we're respected by that guy, that he cares for us, that he loves us. THEN, the inner slut can come out to play.
You may find pleasure in having one night stands with random guys, but it is so much better finding one person you can share that slutty side with. Share your deepest, darkest sexual fantasies with him and nobody else; and on the outside, you may come off seeming innocent, and most importantly RESPECTABLE.
That's not an inner slut..It's letting your wild side come out,not slutty.
Interesting. To be fair, if you're happy with how you are... go for it.
I actually feel sorry for the "sluts" of the world. I am currently in a happy relationship, free of sex, and I can dress appropriately because I am happy with myself in decent clothing. I have too much self respect to be wanted by a man who wants a girl in tight clothes and way too much make-up. I want a man who will love me if I wear some tacky outfit just for the fun of it, or if I go for a day without make up and my hair is a mess.
I hate how people think those of us who aren't the biggest fan of sluttiness, are just sore because we don't "get any." For your information, some of us just choose not to, because while sex may be great-and I'm sure it is- I want it to be with one man who I will love and be with for the rest of my life. I want to be able to fully appreciate my husband and never compare him to a previous lover.
thatt's fine do you. idc
People have problems with it because they were raised a different way, they may be a little insecure and jealous and lastly they think that there better than you for being more proper. Honestly I don't care, it's your life and you should live it the way you want to, personally I wouldn't sleep with u, but I don't think less of u.
seriously you want to bed every man there is and then end up a lonely old hag? Honestly I don't think anyone would want to be lonely -every woman would like to have a relationship at least every woman I have met so far!
Well not me. and who says I'll be lonely? I'll have friends. I plan on traveling when I'm old
Friends is nothing compared to that one person wholl hold you at night when you will need that the most - trust me there's a difference a friend no matter how close can't do that!
Girls are so pathetic. I don't want or need anyone to hold me close at night for a good nights sleep. I actually prefer sleeping alone. which is why after I'm done f*cking them I peace out
Im pathetic sweetheart there comes a time when after sleeping alone for so long you fade out and there is nothing around you but a cold dark wasteland of eternity. But I'm pathetic OK no prob I tried you want to peace out no prob but it just shows you have no respect for yourself or your gender and your just giving me a bad name - its your call but whatever good luck to you
People are so old fashioned! it's my body
Let me guess you're one of those guys who will sleep with as many girls as possible and be praised for it, but if a girl does the same thing people want to kill her. double standards man. so effed up, and I was talking about normal girls not me
Actually. I've slept with one girl. it was a hookup. that's it. I don't need you telling me what I have an dhavent done. or WILL do. f*** off question asker
Sure and if you had the opportunity to sleep with countless other girls you wouldn't sure;)
Nope. I only do girls I like. I'm a good guy
I don't know a single person who would sleep with ANYONE. God. I know a lot of people, both girls and guys who've slept with a lot of people but most of those people, they were actually attracted to. No one would go up to some fat, ugly, acne all over face person and ask them to sleep with them.. Wow
Technically you are hurting people by spreading diseases, and yes, by admitting your a slut you most likely have one, if it doesn't show now it will because some take up to ten years to show any signs of infection so ya and I don't want a guy that has f***ed a slut because then I'm pretty sure he has something, id rather have someone that's clean, not used up. Be how you want to be but don't expect people to like you for it
sluts make the world go round
Maybe your world, not mine :)
every "slut" does not have a disease. It disgust me that people equate sex with disease that's not true!
where in there did I say every...I missed it :) and I don't equate sex with disease, I equate countless sexual partners with disease :) there is a very big difference
Honestly, I see your point.
I think the main problem is with the girls that don't respect the exclusive relationship structure, and attempt to seduce and have sex with guys who are "committed" already.
I personally don't like so called "sluts" but that's because I'm a Christian and believe that a mand and woman should be exclusive to each other.
That's a really hard standard to hold in today's society 'tho. XP
You're right. Sluts deserve other sluts.
Omg, finally someone who has the same morales that I do!
I've never quite understood people who don't like us, have to bash us all the time. Like you said, we play our part in society and when we do want an actual relationship, were well experienced. :D
And let's face it, w/o us, guys would be miserable all the time. And as long as were smart about it, then it's all win-win
OK girls where do I find a slutty girl, I don't judge them at all, I just want to get some practise in for when I have a serious girlfriend that way I can be skilled. Also do "slutty" girls get into commited relationships, to go from multiple guys to 1 is a huge leap.
well for me being a slut, got my confidence and some of the guys I slept with actually became my boyfriend. its all how you cope with how you live the sterotype. wether its just for sex, and only sex. or you are looking at the same time
actually.. sluts have no morals
I personally love sex but only with someone that I truly
care about. But whatever makes you happy is what
you should do. To each their own and just be safe
about it is all. I do agree that its not my business
what other people do in their sex lives... it doesn't
concern me. Just hope you're all being safe with it
and not blindly spreading diseases.
Well you can do what ever you want. I know one reason I don't/won't sleep around is because it can effect my future. How I see it, what if I meet this really great girl one day, she's my ideal of perfection but she won't even give me the time of the day because I have a reputation of sleeping around, I don't want that to happen. I don't want to miss out on what could be a life time of happiness for a moment of pleasure. But those are just my views.
So long as you don't use it as a currency and you don't think male sexuality is icky, then by all means, have a blast! Unleash that libido!
We need more straight girls with high libidos.
I wouldn't date a slut but I have nothing against you. If you're happy, who am I to say you're wrong. cheers.
I don't believe in having double standards, and I definitely believe in living life the way you want to, as long as no one gets hurt. I wouldn't call you a slut because I think that's a degrading thing to say, but it's totally fine to be a woman that enjoys sex. Men aren't the only ones who enjoy it, and if they can go around with whoever they want without getting crap for it then you should be able to too : )
nope
Actually she is a slut.
lol, very persuasive
She openly admits that she likes being a slut. So yes it is very persuasive.
Just because she says she's a slut doesn't mean everyone thinks she is. For example, you do while I clearly don't . We have different definitions of what it means to be a slut. Why do 'you' think she's a slut? Answering that would be slightly more persuasive than just saying that she is one because she identifies as such.
Well it's totally up to you, but I do feel you're labelling yourself as something quite negative! Could you praps stop calling yourself a 'slut' and describe it differently. You like no-strings sex, that doesn't actually make you a 'slut', I take it you sleep with guys you are attracted to, not any old guy just because he's there and up for it - that would be a 'slut'! As long as you practice safe sex and are okay with what you do right now and don't knowingly sleep with married men or something then I see nothing wrong with it! Just stop putting yourself down and calling yourself that word!
to me it doesn't matter what a girl does with her body.
Sluts are just s.t.d carrying sex toys. No guy wants a girl who has been ran through 2 much.. and soon enough your going to have a kid with guess what! someone you barely know or don't like and why you ask? because your just a slut... a sex toy. Instead of a beautiful barbie doll your just a blow up doll. That's why you could never have a true wealthy gentleman who respects your rights ,needs, and desires such as myself. nuff said.
first off I use protection. EVERYTIME second if get pregnant I'M GETTING AN ABORTION! third don't want a gentleman, just a guy with a big d*** who know how to use it.
you can catch 3 stds herpies hepatatis b I think and some other kind even if you use condoms
if you murder a child you chose to risk having you are the most evil self-centered type of person in the world. You are party to genocide. You make me sad
there is nothing wrong with liking sex but why not just stick withone person.. like a friends with benefits.. no strings attatched.. its almost like being a hooker without getting paid.. can't imagine poppin 20 d***s ...yes you could get pregnant ..and stds and hiv regardless of protection.. why take that chance?
What a great discussion. So many opinions.
"People should, in my opinion, judge you based on your personality and the way you treat people. Not who you f***ed on saturday. It's ridiculous."
Very true. If someone wants to have fun with their body, then YAY! Orgasms galore! It's such a guilty pleaser, that, for the most part, shouldn't even be considered guilty. I went through an period where I slept with a whole bunch of dudes within a short period of time. Do you know how hard it is to find someone who's actually good at f***ing? Even hot guys aren't always good. Pick and weed, I say:) I actually ended that charade with my husband. Too good to let go, and a great personality to go with it.
Sex reminds me of what it is to be human. It's such a simple thing and people get upset about it. If someone gets an STD,it's their fault for being forgetful! Sex is very different for each individual person. Some can wait, and some just don't want to wait.
Luv!
I hang out with girls who have sex and can't see myself spending time with girls who don't.
Honestly, outside of STD concerns, the only guys who have a problem with this are ones who judge girls and play the "nice guy" nonsense their silly idea that "respecting" a girl means pretending to not have any sexual interest in her when it is really their fear of getting rejected so they act like all their silly attention games have nothing to do with her looks.
The only real issues is when settling down, to make sure all ties are cut off with the guys lusting. A guy can't date a girl who has a cell phone going off of horny guys seeing if she's around.
It's this whole "purity" nonsense that girls play to try to make themselves seem attractive when they don't realize that it gets to a point where they're in a relationship neglecting not only their boyfriend, but their own sexual desires as well.
Humans have a nasty habit of becoming involved in matters that are none of their buisness, such as abortion, ultimately nothing they can say will or can change your ways. Sadly many people can't accept this and they go on trying to convert people to "purity".