I'm a mistress, why do guys have them?

[Anonymous]

i met a guy at a bar a while ago and he took my number and we've been talking everyday since. when he added me to Facebook, his Facebook gave me the slight impression he had a girlfriend. after doing some serious snooping turns out he's like 6 years older than me, pretty wealthy, engaged and living with a woman and yet he talks to me like I'm potentially a love interest. i know what I am to him. a mistress. what do I mean to him? like why bother talking to me all day and doing nice things for me if you just want me for sex? is that all it's about for him?

[Anonymous]

Basically yes.. I am a mistress too. He wants to have it both ways. The questions is are you prepared to be a number 2 in his life?

[Asker]

But he doesn't know that I know he has another woman. yet. will he tell me or will I have to confront him? how is it being a mistress for you?

[Opinion Owner]

He may or may not tell you. If he doesn't I would confront him. My guy has a girlfriend and three kids but they are in Europe basically I have had him for myself for the past year. He says he loves me that he wants us both. He is pretty upfront with me. Which is cool. I know what to expect but I am not sure that's what I will want in the future. Its fine for now.

[vice-chix]

Just remember... if you do decide to become #2... there is a lot of baggage that goes with that. Not just the sneaking and the lies... but the fact that he hasn't come clean with YOU regarding his conventional life makes me wonder why you are afraid to ask him. The truth is... if you are going to be #2 and he really wants you to be ... honesty is clutch because the #1 relationship is no longer based on that. He is hiding himself from everyone in his life right now.

[Clair]

Who are you women that are mistresses? So disrespectful to yourself, and your fellow women!