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I was raped and I don't know what to do?
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I was raped quite recently, and I just don't know what to do! :((( what's worse is it was my boyfriends best friend and he doesn't know :( I told him I was raped and it took all of my strength to do that but he doesn't know it was his best friend and we still have to do things with him like go to town and stuff. I don't know what to do :((((
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Also I'm scared that if I told my boyfriend how he would react?
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My boyfriend has left me =( He was furious and stuff and he doesn't go near his friend anymore but I lost him =( I just with I never told him. I caant tell anyone else incase I lose them =(
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What do I have to live for. I feel like there's a demon inside of me tearing me down bit by bit. =[
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29 26I used to be very sympathetic to the woman who cried 'rape' until I was accused of it because she wanted to find out where I was. I don't feel that rape discussion should be on this site, it should be addressed by the police, lawyers, and counselors.
I support all the steps in the process to prosecute the person and also imprisoning people who submit false police reports. You don't know how damaging the accusation is even if the person shows proof that couldn't have done the 'attack'.
What do you mean?
Quit comparing your situation to hers. Your making this about you and you need to stop.
We do not know the circumstances to your situation and at best it is one side to the story. Too many women are accusing others of rape because they feel they are wronged. They have a few drinks and do something they wouldn't normally do if they were sober. They agree to it at the moment but feel like crap the next day. That's not rape, that regret. Now if you were raped, you should go to the authorities. Fill out a police report, talk to counselors, etc. Like I said, this shouldn't be on GAG.
I disagree with this answer. It's up to the police and courts to decide if he should be punished by law. however if the asker want's to talk about it here that is a good thing. If you have issues with being falsely accused of rape make your own thread about it. keep it out of this discussion as that is a separate topic.
'courageous' Anonymous User , Did it cross your mind that being raped is far worse than being accused of rape? I hope no one rapes you, not ever.
when I was 16 I was raped by my boyfriend best friend and at his party while my boyfriend was out of town he beat and raped me as well as threatened me he still continued to threaten me for 5 mnths after I told boyfriend at the time everything and he didn't believe me he believed his friend his friend said that I wanted it and that I totally came on to him and it was consensual when it was not it was heartbreaking for me not only was I disgusted in his friend but the fact that he could believe him.i know my ex knows the truth now a whole 5 years later but I doesn't replace the damage done I know exactly how you feel it will get better.hang in there the best revenge is to be happy ! my ex felt like he couldn't protect me and felt betrayed he was confused about everything and in denial about everything its a faze hell eventually come around ,but if he is mad at you for his friends mistake than you deserve better from 1 girl whos been there to another :)
You can recover from rape. I have. It is hard but if you stick it out you will be stronger than before. I don't know where you are from but I am sure there are rape crisis centers near by. These people are professionals and can help you through this.
Your boyfriend was a psycho, and apparently - birds of a feather flock together. That goes for the best friend, of course.
New and better reasons to cling to life will come by, you just have to get up and if you can't or don't want to get him back, just cut them out of your life and carry on.
I was raped to I was my ex boys best and me and my ex was going out when it happened.. So I know how you feel but you half to tell your boyfriend the truth don't hide it if you tell him he might stop talking to his friend.. Its not cool when I got raped I got preg that how I lost my boyfriend then I told him.. He was pissed but he did something about it.. You need to say something so it won't happen again
i'm sorry that happened to you! I feel for you so much sister. you should never have to be around that waste of life again! he should be rotting in jail ASAP! you have to tell your boyfriend it was him. find the strength to speak out against what happened to you. that guy is the worst of all the deceptive slimeballs, your Boyfriend probably has no idea the type of person he is. there is nothing that you did wrong so don't be ashamed! he is an extremely dangerous individual and needs to be locked up. most likely he will do this again, to someone else and odds are he has probably done it to many women before you.
there are parts of the first video in the second one but just know your not alone! Its an awful thing that's happened to you!
Rape is an unbelievable thing, I'm so fortunate because I haven't been affected by it in any way so far in my life. I'm sorry to hear you have. I saw you told you boyfriend and things have been difficult I just want to let you know it can only get better. unless of course that ugly f***er rears his head again, or his d*** if you know what I mean.
My little sister (ok best friend but I think of her like a sister) has been raped twice. Go to a hospital and get checked for disease, your the victim here so there's no reason for you to be ashamed of what happened its not your fault. Second you need to report it to the police but chances are if you don't have bruises you won't have a case, Somewhere along all that you MUST and I mean you MUST tell your boyfriend but tell him the police said they would take care of it and that he shouldn't do anything to his friend physically. Also if your boyfriend breaks up with you over something this big then do no, I repeat do not blame or think less of yourself, would you really want to be with a man who can't stick with his woman through thick and thin?
Tell your Boyfriend exactly what happened. He would want to know what sh*tty friend he has.
I'm scared how he would react, what If he got really mad at me, or what if he left me. I'm really scared.
Your the last person he'd be mad at, if he left you he'd be the D-BAG Lord. You ABSOLUTELY have to tell him what happened, that sh*t will eat away at you.
I know but we've been together for only a year and a half and they have been best friends for yearss.
Anonymous is exactly right. It is going to be hard, but you need to tell your boyfriend exactly what happened. If you don't, your boyfriends mate is not only going to get away with doing this to you, he will also always be around. This will mean that you won't be able to move on. I wish you all the luck in the world. No woman should have to go through the ordeal of being raped.
If he is a good man he wouldn't care if he knew his friend for 30 years, if my best friend of 30 years did that to my girlfriend of 1 day, gay p*rn would be illegal after what id do to him.
I told him. He was really mad, he chucked some stuff then left, he's been gone for hours now, he won't pick up his phone or reply to any of my texts, I don't know what to do or where he is? I'm really scared :(
he was mad at the friend right? not you.
I don't know, he was just really mad, I don't know where he is and I'm worried about him
hes clearing his head, this is good. He's deciding what action to take, MOST LIKELY HES NOT MAD AT YOU, he has a better chance of blaming himself for his chice in friends, I am sorry you have to go through this, but it is for the best.
he just came back in with blood all over his face, I don't know what happened to him but he went straight to the bathroom and he's been there since he came in
ASK HIM WHAT HAPPENED
I did he said this "he hasn't got all what he deserves yet" I take it this means he went... to him
yeah, most likely. Calm him down as much as possible or it is very possible he may KILL the guy and if your age is accurate you should bring the authorities in to this.
any update, is everything OK?
He hasn't told me anything else. I've asked him but he won't say anything else about it. He's trying his best but I'm really worried, I need to go and find out what he did to the guy.
What should I do? Should I just keep my mouth shut or go talk to the guy so I know what my boyfriend did to him?
Tell your boyfriend that if he doesn't give you awsners you'll be forced to ask him what happened.
How is everything?
I don't know, he's not telling me what happened.
Do you know if he's even alive?
oh god I don't know, I'll have to go over there to find out. :(
with at least 2 guys of coarse
I went over to his house with a friend (a guy), and he was there. He looked pretty injured. its been a few days since my boyfriend actually went over so I think things maybe healed up a bit. Anyway he started to shout at us both, I don't want to list the names he called me but there was 'used goods' I thought I saw someone else who said that on here but I don't see it anymore. But that really hurt, cause its pretty much the perfect way to describe me now. :(
The dude is just pissed at you for getting the sh*t beat out of him. On the brightside, the terrible friendship between your Boyfriend and this guy is over, most likely for good. And noy you can begin the healing process. The next move is yours.
hopepfully, things are still pretty messed up with me and my boyfriend. I can't feel safe.
He can't be mad at you?
No I don't think he's mad at me. he's just nad, I think he's mad at his friend and also himself. He's not in a very talkative mood but I just wish he would speak to me about things cause I don't feel any betterthan before I told him..aka sh*t. :(
Hes probably wondering where he went wrong in choosing his friends, don't worry time heals all wounds you'll be better in no time
mate sorry to burst your oblivious little bubble but rape lldoesnt go away over night. She's gonna have this with her forever, here's a saying 'bruises fade, but the pain and memories stay forever'. Her boyfriend needs to get his act together, that's guys still out there. She won't be able to sleep, she won't feel safe on her own anywhere, again sorry to burst your oblivious bubble but havong someone pin you down and force themself inside you. won't go away over night
i agree but hopefull she can get better, realize its not her fault
@ update: Your boyfriend is a TOOL
I can understand why he left. I'm a mess :(
If he left you because you got raped, he's gotta be one of the biggest asshole boyfriends I've ever heard of, I mean cmon
I don't think it was because I was raped it was because I can't get over it. It was recent, I needed some time. I don't think he understands, I can't be fine overnight. It was too much for him :(
your better without him, its for the best.
It's not for the best, I'm by myself now =[
but, you don't have a sh*tty friend and a sh*tty boyfriend to worry about. If he didn't try to comfort you and realize that its not your fault, he's a tool.
I totally agree with you! None of what happened is your fault! It's very important that you don't forget it, it's not your fault, and it's not your fault that you react the way you do. It's normal that you need some time and support right now. And if your boyfriend doesn't show enough understanding you're better off without him. I'm really sorry that this happened to you!