If a guy looks you up and down does that mean he only wants you for sex?

Only wants you for sex? Can it ever mean that he may actually like you and want to get to know you? I’m a 21 year old girl in university, never dated or had a boyfriend, although I’ve been told I’m “really pretty/cute” etc. by guys and girls. Still not many guys approach me, maybe 5 that I can remember, while a lot just stare. Anyway, whenever a guy gives me the once over (looks me up and down in a lewd way) no matter how attractive I initially thought he was, I suddenly get turned off and the thought of doing anything with him disgusts me. I guess being sized up makes me feel threatened and uncomfortable, so I write these guys off as being horndogs, not people actually interested in me. I respect the ones that approach me more than those that just stare. Is this a fair assiment of guys? How can you tell if a guy is interested in you as a person, or just looking for a good time?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I once looked my best friend up and down.

    It's because the dress she chose for her prom was gorgeous, not because I'm sexually attracted to her or anything.

    Like I said, she is my FRIEND, and nothing else.

    So, to come back to your question, it doesn't necessarily prove that he only wants sex from you. It just shows that he liked what he saw, as in you would go to an art museum and look a painting up and down, because you find it to be marvellous. It doesn't mean you will go buy the painting, does it? It's just so beautiful that it caught your attention for a little longer than it's supposed to.

    Back to the real world, it doesn't mean he sexually desires you. It means he realized how beautiful you are, and unless he has telepathic powers, he has no way of knowing if you are his type "as a person" before he approaches you, so the initial trigger is ALWAYS looks.

    Do you ever rememeber getting to know a person BEFORE approaching him? It's sort of impossible, so what you INITIALLY judge a guy on (in terms of spiritual attraction a.k.a. liking) is his looks.

    So, when a guy looks you up and down before he approaches you is an "initial check". He can't check whether you are a nice girl, or whether you are "his type", or whether you are *insert any characteristic here*, so he does the only thing he actually can do before approaching you: Checking your beauty.

  • All answers are at the second post. check that one. =)

Most Helpful Girls

  • I think you need to loosen up a bit. Get some experience with guys and you won't be so freaked out by every little thing that they do. Guys are not as socially conscious as girls are, so they sometimes do things that seem very primitive and crude. But remember- guys are visual creatures. So if he's just looking at you briefly, be flattered. If he's staring though, just walk away.

  • He might want sex but that's not the only thing he might ever want from you

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  • Sure why not

    DONT DOUBLE POST

    • i tried to put this question in the behavior category but IT KEEPS CHANGING IT. And p*ss off, your answer sux.

    • Well usually what I do is give a sh*t answer, get a few laughs, then give a deep and really useful answer. But okay, I'll p*ss off, I'll be the bigger person here and just walk away *incredible hulk walking away theme*

  • Sure, why not

  • exactly the same for me.

  • Pump and dump. If he's a real asshole, he will ghost you out of dosgust and try to come back and hit it when the itch needs scrsrching again.