Is it unreasonable to not want my boyfriend to watch porn even if we haven’t done anything yet?

We have been together for less than a month and I know he has watched porn. Is it unreasonable to tell him I am uncomfortable with that in our relationship even though we haven’t done anything sexual yet? I just think it’s so unrealistic, immature and disrespectful.
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  • No ,. Not even, but you have to be prepared for his answer either or.
    Can I ask you is it because he's watching other girls or is it because he's masturbating watching other girls.

    Have you ever watched it have you ever watched it in masturbated have you ever watched it with him.

    I can tell you this most guys. That are in relationships, and watch it, it's because they're. Girlfriend or wife is at work doing something but she's not around... And in that moment he might be horny and he knows that this is the quick and the easiest way to get off and fix that..

    It's not because they're fantasizing of the girl that they're seeing. But if they do he's picturing you or fantasizing that you would do something like that to him.

    But anyway none of the above is any of my business I think you should be able to talk to your boyfriend about anything you want to I don't know if it would be wise to put demands on him I think it would be better if you told him how it made you feel

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  • It's not unreasonable to tell someone what you do or don't like. I think it's silly to have an issue with it in the first place but that's my opinion. It's ok to express your opinion. What's not ok is to demand that someone adhere to it.

    Let him know how you feel, but be ready for him to say this is simply a form of entertainment that he enjoys and isn't going to stop.

    You have 2 choices at this point. Either accept this part of him and everything that means and continue to build a relationship with him.

    OR

    Do not accept this part of him and find someone else.

    Trying to make him change for you means you want someone else anyway. You don't want the man you're dating. You want him to be someone else who doesn't do the thing you don't like. So why stay with him? Find the man you actually do like and try with him.

    Good luck finding a man that doesn't watch porn though

Most Helpful Girls

  • No it's not unreasonable to want that but it's also not unreasonable if he doesn't agree

  • I wouldn't date any creep that watches porn. Have some self-respect.

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  • Make it complete and forbid him jacking off too... 😂 😂

  • Most men watch, and even with sex in their life, and you want him to not watch without sex?

  • yes.

  • It’s not unreasonable to ask. It is unreasonable to expect him to change. It’s neither your right nor your responsibility to control him, or anyone else save your children.
    This is how boundaries work: you set a boundary. Either he changes and you’re BOTH happy or he doesn’t and you leave. He has to be happy about the change too. Otherwise he forms a resentment. Resentments are poisonous to the soul and they destroy relationships.
    So what you really have to ask yourself is “Is his use of porn a dealbreaker?”.

  • Yes, it is. It doesn't affect you. Get over whatever bullshit you were taught.

  • You can always tell your partner how you feel about anything. That's what communication in a relationship is all about.

    • Wise Tom 🦉 as always wise atom ⚛️ atom tom

  • No it isn't an unreasonable request.

  • Yes it is. You’re trying to control his life. I’d run away if I was him

  • Telling your partner how you feel isn't unreasonable, but expecting him to not watch porn definitely is.

  • No porn and no masturbation either. You're the only one that should be touching it if your dating.

  • Hmm that's a reasonable question and fair. The downside though is if he's a legal adult, you're a legal adult, and he's watching porn on his own privately of legal porn, as all humans have needs and fluid build up... what's the problem again? 😞😞😞🤔🤔🤔

    • Because to me I just would add, it "seems" like he's merely using it for either to get off, biologically as all humans, or for variety... I mean I guess he's not nothing else and minimal imagination... I mean you don't want us GAG men and women to say "why isn't he using" lol

  • As relationship develops yes. Not at this point. If you are entering this with eyes wide open you KNOW he's not going to change, right?

  • You can express ur feelings but it is his choice what to do. As you know all younger guys masturbate frequently and he probably likes to watch porn when he masturbates. Has he talked to you about it at all?

  • If you are not having sex with a young guy then you should expect him to watch porn.

    On the bright side that makes him less likely to cheat on you.

  • Well if you think it's disrespectful , which is kinda understandable cuz he's technically looking at other girls.. then it's not so unreasonable..

  • You expecting him not to watch porn is like him trying to stop you from having natural mental fantasy.

    Men fantasize visually, and porn is simply entertainment. It has NOTHING to do with you.

    you watching a bullshit chick flick and thinking “aww I wish he was like that” is you having an unrealistic, immature and disrespectful expectation based on your mental fantasies. This is no different.

  • Yea lots of guys watch every once in a while. Unless he's watching it 20 times a day all day. That's a problem.

  • Porn is mainly used as an outlet for sexual release. He isn't getting any from you.

  • Completely unreasonable

  • Never unreasonable. Only if he’s uncomfortable (he shouldn’t be), and you force it.

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