Echoing every male in existence: Stop complaining about this and ENCOURAGE IT!
That said, culture is a funny thing (I am going somewhere with this, just hang with me). Men compete with other men for the attention of women by their looks (partially), their attitude (again partially), and status (money, attention, etc etc). They all have something to do with it, but emphasis isn't on just one of these things.
Now on the other hand, women generally compete for the attention of men with their looks, their attitude, and their sexuality. It's considered extremely hot (for men at least), to see two girls engaging in some kind of sexual behavior, and even if a woman has no interest in other women-she may engage in the activity just to get the attention of men. Hell, if you're in college chances are 95% of every woman there has engaged in some kind of same sex act, if only mildly making out.
Though research has shown that almost everyone is at least some degree bisexual (Kinsley scale, look it up), chances are that has nothing to do with it. At least, that's what I'd say because of the photos involved.0 0 0 1They didn't want me to look at the pictures so obviously it wasn't to get attention. same when they were making out, they did it on their own.
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I honestly don't know why males encourage this behavior, like it's no big deal. A girl making out with another girl is no different than a girl making out with a guy, regardless of what a girl says her orientation is.
I don't see why if a girl gets freaky with a lot of guys, that makes her a slut, but she gets a free pass if she's doing the same thing with other women.
Bottom-line is that it doesn't matter whether she's bisexual or not. If she's in a monogamous relationship with you, she needs to behave that way and not cross barriers with friends, whether they're male or female. I'm not saying that you should make her ditch her best friend, and I wouldn't suggest that even if the friend were a guy. I'm also not saying that just taking those pictures in itself crosses any line.
But you have a right to set that line when it comes to promiscuity, and if I were you, I'd make the line gender blind. Don't go overly jealous, just make rules about what you're comfortable with.0 0 0 0I completely agree with you. I told her that cheating is cheating no matter the gender.
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A totally straight female would not engage in these activities, however, whether or not being "straight" is "normal" is a ridiculous presumption. What is normal anyway? Do ALL females have to like penises exclusively to be normal? I think that is a pretty abnormal expectation to have. So did the Founding Fathers, apparently, since the "d*** clause" was not written into the US Constitution...
What was written into that great document was :
"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness."
I think your girlfriend is pursuing her happiness...0 1 0 1No problem.i do not think being gay is a wrong thing. if she is I just wish she would come clean.
Just because girls make out and all that doesn't mean they are bisexual. I'd be willing to say that just about ever girl you have ever talked to has most likely made out with one of their friends before. Some girls actually do joke around like that, personally I would get turned on by some of that lol. But I am bisexual and I know it. If she tells you they were just messing around then they most likely were. Girls kissing other girls is normal. Girls are curious and sometimes they do it so that they can "learn to kiss".. They are most likely just best friends.. But who knows, you could just be a lucky guy lol..
0 0 0 1We are all 23 years old. they aren't kissing to learn how to kiss. doing what they do in a bathroom or a dark room when they're by themselves isn't even being done to get attention. it seems very homoerotic to me.
Around that age is when most girls start trying more sexual stuff with the opposite sex. It doesn't mean they are bisexual unless they are in fact getting arroused by it. It she says she isn't then she isn't bisexual.
Dude, your girlfriend is way gay! I have friends(girls), and I would never ever make-out with them or take nude shots with them. That's just gay beyond all words. In the least, I agree with everyone else, she's a cheater and she's gay! Hm...it seems like you're most worried about her being a lesbian, when you should be more worried about her cheating on you, which by the way you let her get away with. And seriously all the signs of her being gay are layed out in front of you. Anyways, ditch her before she hurts you anymore or confuses you any further. Good luck!
1 1 0 0I have no issue with her being bi , just as long as she doesn't act out on it.
Well obviously she is acting on her bisexual feelings for her friend while you two are in a relationship. So, why stay with her?
You're right...after we talked about it she told me it would be a stupid think to break up with her for. but not true right? it's a legit reason
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9 7I've known chicks like this- It's certainly worrisome as far as I was concerned! I mean if she's willing to take pics of her and her friend's genitals, where does she draw the line you know? It's like if I wanted a girl who was all about showing off her naked body to other people , Iwould have dated a stripper!
1 3 0 0Good point., where does she draw the line. told her I had no problem with her being bi just as long as she doesn't act out on it but she denies being bi. she does have.
Wow. I think it's pretty safe to say that the evidence speaks for itself. She may not be lesbo but it sure sounds like she's bi. If you want to believe her then by all means go ahead. But making out with a girl friend while the lights are off is not exactly my idea of "showing affection". Personally I think she's lying but that's just my opinion.
1 1 0 0Lol why are you complaining again?
0 1 0 1You're an idiot
she cheats on you... its simple. she makes out with girls that's cheating. if that is just there way of being friendly I need to get me friends like that.
0 1 0 0What's your opinion on the pictures? even if she says it was innocent fun, it seems like those things lesbians do before they know they're lesbians
I am bi and for my self I have never taken photos like that. but I do know of girls who have. and there are two explanations 1) your girlfriend is bi/lesbian/undecided so she took up an opportunity with a friend. 2) they are into each other and and want each other. or really there is a number three but if she never wanted you to know then its out, that being she wanted to turn you on. I think you should have a real talk. and if she can't be serous leave her.
Also, they were both drunk..but that doesn't make it right either, right?
you should have asked for a threesome.
0 1 0 0I am not looking for a threesome!!!!
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