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Is it true that men still want to marry a virgin?
Anonymous
I was wondering if you guys still think that you should sleep with girls, yet expect to marry a virgin? Is it because you want to be the only one who ever sleep with the girl or because this girl is most likely to stay faithful? I have read that engaging in premarital sex can cause someone to seek extramarital affairs.
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Thanks to all who answered my question. I have some good insight in this matter now from male perspectives. thank you.
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What Girls & Guys Said
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I think it would hurt too much to lose my virginity to someone who had already slept with someone else.
To her it would just be another experience, but for me it would be something special.
I think non-virgins would be more likely to leave me and to compare me to past relationships.
If her expectations are even half as bad as the ones posted on this site then I know I won't live up to them and I can't compete with past sexual partners.
I don't want to think about her past partners, I don't want them to come knocking around.
I don't want her to think about her first time if it's not with me.
I want to forget the world and just feel in love.
I am a jealous man, as any man should be.
A man's wife should be his own and no other's.
I see you're a man of culture as well
omg this question again, i'm a virgin and i'm already tired of this lol
yeah most of them do
I read these replies and i think what a load of bull from some replies. First, plenty of girls can stay a virgin and still fool around you dont need a vigina to please a man, nor dont you need to have intercourse to please both of you. Not being a virgin won't MAKE you fool around. On the other hand being a virgin might have you wonder later stages in your marriage how would sex be with someone else? Ever thought you guys can be more than boring in bed than a virgin with no xperience? Some guys think they know just what to do and VERY few actually do. Yes we girls talk, ESPECIALLY the married ones. I have virgin married friends and 'deflowered before marriage' virgin friends and let me tell you the virgin ones are SOmuch more curious of whats out there than the other ones. SOME men are still living with cavemen mentallities and have NO clue on what they think they know about women hahaha... really.
You say they are curious, I don’t doubt that. Good for them, however have they cheated and destroyed the marriage? I try not to judge so harshly. Typically harsh judgement of people is a reflection of something personal.
I'm personally a virgin who is marrying a virgin.
Do I think I'm a better human being for it? No, but I'm sure not going to marry someone who's been around the block and/or acts like the town bicycle.
And yes, premarital sex DOES lead to drastically increased rates of divorce.
I (a virgin) would greatly prefer the future mother of my children to also be a virgin (like the vast majority of my friends do). Simply because it would be nice to be the only man that has been with her intimately.
If she wasn't a virgin, it would really suck that I gave her all of my life, my time, my money, and my future when other guys just fucked her like no there was no tomorrow without having to compromise any of their own resources. And that after she's done fucking left and right with jerks she has decided to settle with an idiot that will finally take her seriously.
But realistically speaking, in this day and age it would be extremely difficult to find a virgin over 21 years old so I would probably settle for somebody who has had only a couple sexual partners and assuming those men were in serious relationships with her.
But unless somebody like that comes along I have no desire to get married, and if doesn't happen by the time im about 26-28 i will give up on marriage focus on dating short term relationships with no intention of ever marrying.
LOL... truth bro... i agree with you!!! same condition here...
I'm 30 and a Virgin, yes we do exist!
@IAMnotSTUPID I'm 30 and a Virgin, yes we do exist!
good to know there are men who have my way of thinking.
I will only marry a virgin (if God willing I ever get married). I'm a virgin myself, and I'm saving myself for marriage due to my faith. I want us both to mature together sexually, and do not want to have to compete with some ghost of the past, or worry about STDs. I value sexual purity, and cannot bring my self to trust someone who "made some mistakes" in the past (Who's to say they won't make the same "mistakes" when they're with me?). Although this isn't the only thing I look for in a woman, this is my preference, and I make no apology for it.
I'm 30 and a Virgin, they exist.
I will not date or marry a woman that isn't a virgin. Too many sluts out there.
Some probably do, but I think most don't really care as long as she's clean and is capable of being faithful. And I don't think there's any correlation between women being virgins at marriage and their likelihood of cheating afterward. The world is FULL of virginal brides who became adulterous wives. I doubt that premarital sex causes people to seek extramarital affairs any more than premarital chastity does.
Of course “virgins” can and have cheated. Marriage is a gamble, but just like gambling if you don’t know how to bet, you are more likely to lose. If you can count cards you increase your odds. To say there is no correlation between divorce rates and the number of partners one has had? It seems a tad intellectually dishonest or naive. I’m sure a lot of people wish it weren’t so. Does anyone think it easier to get over a breakup each time with a new partner? There is a reason for it.
A virgin is more likely not to have (undesirable) STDs. However, if I'd had sex with multiple people to begin with, I wouldn't expect my fiance to be a virgin.
It is generally a good idea to have sex with your fiance to be sure you are physically compatible and, for that matter, are compatible in that you are interested in the same things. For example, I once dated a girl that would do heavy petting but would not get me off and didn't think I should get myself off either! Now that was incompatible, not to mention painful!
Yes, its true want to marry a virgin but I don't sleep around. I want to be the one and only, who rocks her world.
Why did I get a thumbs down? I'm a virgin and would like to be with another virgin. Is that so wrong to ask?
And compare that to my thumbs down responses where I said I don't want a virgin. The people on this site are dumbasses.
Yes, plenty of hypocrites and but hurt people these days.