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Is it wrong of me to not want my boyfriend to jerk off?
mujerbonita_89 Xper 3
Is it wrong of me to not want my boyfriend to jerk off? I told him I really didn't want him to jerk off because I'm always willing to give him one if he needs a quick fix if we're not doing anything sexual. I also told him I don't care if we're arguing or mad at each other or regardless the situation I want him to know ill always be there to give him his fix if he needs it, I don't want him jerking off besides we live together so I'm always available. Well as of late he's been taking his computer with him in the bathroom with him and it takes him a while until he gets out. I really didn't care until I started surprisingly giving him head and he's barely cumming. I asked him about it and he denies it. I don't know what to think because first I don't want him looking around on the internet for diff naked women so he can jerk off when I'm hot and I live with him and second why jerk off when he can get it anytime and mind you he's not a sexual person and I am... Am I just over thinking everything and too uptight or something?
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35 67YES, it is VERY wrong of you to ask such a thing. Do you not masturbate? give it a go, when you have a few times come back and tell us how you would feel if your Boyfriend asked you to stop, that he preferred it if he was the only instrument of your pleasure.
I know what I'd have said if my boyfriend asked me to stop, I'd have told him to stop being a controlling maniac!
Well the thing about jerking off is the guy doesn't want to think about it and they don't want to worry about you getting off or anything. they are in it for themselves at that moment. well he isn't going to tell you about it because he doesn't want to start anything with it. and you know its a normal thing that he had probably been doing for a long time before you. and I think you need to calm down about it and tell him you can accept it. because he is only human and just because he is looking at them women doesn't mean he doesn't love you or want you. You need to calm down about this matter he would never do anything to hurt you and he would never be with any of those women over you. so there's nothing wrong with what he is doing. To me it sounds like you are just very insecure about yourself which isn't fair to him, you know?
"Just because he's looking at other women doesn't mean he doesn't want you or doesn't love you" Are you stupid?
First thought that comes to mind is how great it is of you to be willing to help out at any time, especially a quick fix.
Second is that he may be denying you pleasure if he's not ready to go when you are.
Third it does sound a little demanding of you as to what or what he can not do, but this is different it's not like saying NO you can't go play cards tonight. One could understand if you were not home & the mood struck him.
Fourth if you like watching porn then watch with him and try some finger/oral fun even if you do a little of yourself & a little of each other.
Simply ask him why he prefers that over you. A little solo time is OK but if this is an on going thing talk about it.
Yes its wrong
its not wrong at all. my girlfriend doesn't want me to masturbate and to be honest she's the only person that can make me have an orgasm. its not wrong at all. I think I should be the only guy to satisfy my girlfriend and she should be the only one to satisfy me!
What if he just likes jerking off? What if it's an important part of his sex life? Guess what: that's up to him, not you.
A more responsible approach would be to discuss where his masturbation would fit into your sexual relationship. But if a girl were to just tell me: "You can't masturbate anymore. I don't like it." I would think, "Psycho control freak--deal breaker. We're done."
I would think you wouldn't want him to get to that point.
I agree with you, its kind of weird irrational thinking. Honestly, what harm is he doing by maturbating, nothing. Seems more to me like the girl more of an issue then he does, control issues.
So true!
I wouldn't go that for, she did say that the boyfriend masturbation is sort of f'in up the sex which could be somewhat of a problem
I'm not sure I believe her. She doesn't have too much to say about what's wrong with the sex, and a LOT to say about what's wrong with the masturbation. I'm guessing she just threw in "and the sex is bad" because it's what a lot of girls do when they feel like being mean.
Its something guys are just going to do. Deal with it. Sorry, just the truth.
So yeah, it is wrong of you.
Once they addicted to porn, you can forget about a Sex life girlfriend...
Let him jerk off, I would rather him do that then with another woman...Maybe somethings bothering him that's why he's barely cumming...Talk to him about your relationship and see if everything is cool..?
I think you need to remove the lock from the bathroom door.
I find your attitude to be absolutely sterling! You are a very classy lady! :)
Jerking off gives guys something completely different from what the get with girls. Its just not the same so don't try to stop him from doing something he's prob been doing since he was 10.
Try this...
Ask your boyfriend what kind of orgasms he has when jerking off. I'll BET you find out that a guy actually has a number of different orgasms depending on what part of his penis is stimulated and for how long. Sometimes guys don't even realize this. The orgasm attained by stimulating the very end of the penis is far different than the one gotten by jacking the middle of the shaft.
Depending on the moment I can give myself several really different feelings depending on grip and the area I concentrate on. And, to be honest, I have never found a girl... OK Maybe one in a massage parlor, that could handle my equipment the way I like.
dear lord, that is mean!
i thought everybody masturbated, regardless of their relationship status.
if I told my boyfriend to stop spanking the monkey (pardon ) he would probably lock me in a closet for a half hour everyday .
if he told me to stop, I would just... kill him
Over thinking, if you have such a problem surprise him! You females are dime a dozen with this question. If you want to prove your better then what he can watch, then watch it with him and form a plan to win him back from internet porn. Its not hard. Sit with him with his laptop go on his history and tell him you want an idea of what he likes and your willing to put out like those in the clips. Guys have erges 24/7 and some times we just don't wanna bother a female. Plus you can have that time of month and porn is our stress free break of worrying if we can satisfy you or not. Also when guys look at porn it gives them more ideas of what they like so it also helps in the bedroom. don't over think this
hes a guy let him do his thing
no its not wrong at all if that's how you feel let him know
wait wait... you are hot, and you are willing to toss him off any time he wants? even in the middle of an argument?
You are the stuff that dreams are made of.
from what I hear guys kind of need to, its part of their biology.
Well, maybe he just wants some time to fantasize about other women -- and can't do it with you because you would be to jealous. Want to stop him? Try bringing him home some of your girlfriends to play with together -- I guarantee that would stop most of the "jerking".
Or maybe she should spit in his face. Just like the poor girlfriend of yours should
Yes,It is selfish My girlfriend is like that also. Your hand isn't as good as his hand when it comes to jerking off because he jerks off to porn,kind of hard to explain. you said you arn't doing anything sexual just jerking him off. But that's not good enough for us guys if your going to jerk us off we need your oral and a handjob. So for a man who isn't having sex to not jerk off is extremely difficult and I find it stupid to go to you and be like "I'm in the mood to jerk off,can you jerk for me?"
You can't tell him he can't jerk off its mean and selfish and you should be ashamed of yourself,your not f***ing him and you won't even let the poor bastard jerk off.