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My boyfriend had sex with a prettier girl than me. I am so jealous.
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I saw her pictures on MySpace and she's gorgeous. I'm pretty but also have to be realistic I think she's prettier than me. I love my boyfriend so much but I can't believe he had sex with such a pretty girl. We were talking about our past sexual relationships and he told me he didn't want to tell me the names because I might know them. Come to find out it was a friend of mine's cousin. I don't know her personally. I just can't stop thinking about when he tells me that he thinks he's crazier than me in bed and that he's never had complaints. I can't stop but think that he had sex with her and threw her around. It makes me so jealous. All I can think of is him having sex with her and him thinking of her as the prettiest girl he's ever been with. I love him so much but I hate that he was with her. How can I forget this it hurts too? Has anyone else gone through this? How did you handle it?
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Yes THIS WAS PAST SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS he's had.
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33 27All I can say is that he's with you. If he wasn't satisfied with you, you'd find out about it. I know, it can mess with your confidence, but it really doesn't matter. Maybe she was just a slut.
"She was cute, but no substitute. You're the one he loves." :)
wow girl everyone has gone threw this it sucks but he is with you remember that and its not like he did it when you two were together also if you really think she is that pretty then well think about it this way you both had the same guy so that ranks you up there with the really pretty girls lol but like is he the hottest guy you ever been with because if so I find it better to settle down with a guy who is not as hot as you are meaning the girl should be better looking than her significant other
If it's the past, then its the past. He is with you now and he obviously has feelings for you. Tell him what you saw and tell him what you feel but don't incriminate him for it! That will only make him feel tension in your relationship.
I havnt been through that. But everyone is pretty in their own way and as women we are always puttn ourself down and comparing ourselves to others. I wouldn't worry bout it bcuz ur the one who has his attention now you matter not her.
well if he's your boyfriend now it doesn't matter what happened in the past... do not let these things fog your mind and ruin what you do have with him... insecurities creep up and ruin what he likes about you... don't think of her and don't let the thought of her ruin what you have with him...
Don't feel bad. I also get this way when I think about how my boyfriend lost his virginity to his ex fiancée. I gave him my virginity but he could give me his. Trust me, I know exactly how you feel.
Well she may be prettier than you in your opinion but you still have the title of his girlfriend and its more important then the title of the girl I slept with so be happy there are people dying to take your place.
you got the wrong attitude quit putting yourself SECOND no don't be conceited but CONFIDENT forget that other girl you should ALWAYS put and BELIEVE in yourself I don't care what the other girl looks like and remember SEX ISNT LOVE AND LOVE ISNT SEX if he did it with her before you don't worry about it its PAST if he was with you that's a whole nother question KEEP YOUR HEAD UP
i am not the jealous type. I have however wondered (in my silly insecure moments) if I am good enough for my bf. So I get u. But I guess no answer will calm your jealousy. what you have to do is... get some self-confidence from this situation! who cares who he has slept with: could be megan fox for crying out loud. what matters is that he is with you now. Doesn't that count for something? You should focus on feeling reaaaaly good instead. he's yours. think about it. all yours. :-) and if he's a cool guy on top of it, make a joke and tell him you think he's "the man", cause he can get all the best girls. I garantee he will be happy to have you too if you flirtly stroke his ego a bit.
I feel ya girl . I'm right there with you, my boyfriend lost his v card to a gorgeous, incredibly rich snob whom he forced me to meet. She couldn't be bothered to even pretend to be friendly. But the comments I've read from the guys are super helpful, here's to us both getting over this little speed bump!
Well there's a reason why he's with you now. If you think the fact that you're not as pretty matters, then he probably would've passed you up and thought "I've had better!"
Now in terms if his experiences in bed, so what if he likes her better? That's something you can change... if you feel comfortable with it. Don't force it though--if it's not how you like it, then it just isn't meant to be. Sexual relationships do need compromises, though. If either of you aren't satisfied with the experience, try to work it out. There is almost always a solution in that department.
yknow its a hard thing to forget...ive heard my partner say that he was a wild child when he was younger...his dad told me that my boyfriend had been a bit of a man whore in earlier life...(which was a bit worrying for me since id never been that far with anyone let alone stuff he was claiming...)
he told me about one of them..with whom he'd been in an 8 month long relationship or whatever...and is still best mates with her...ive met her too...shes a nice girl...but I was UBER jealous...untill I learnt that shed cheated on him with some other guy...then her friend told my Boyfriend the story over msn...then they broke up on Christmas day. to this day she still claims that she was drunk and didn't cheat on him.
do I still feel jealous? no. I know I couldn't do something like that to someone I love so much...nor could he do it to me. I have a lot of sympathy for her but I'm still left saying well look who has him now...envious much?
All I can say is you need to stop thinking about it. You are intentionally driving yourself crazy. It's a bummer you even found out about her.
I had an ex that would tell me about the top f*cks he ever had and how they were his dream girls physically but it was obvious they were not his dream girls in any other way. He did not even make them his girlfriend. He just had sex with them and that was that. So, keep in mind that just because a guy thinks a girl is hot for sexual purposes doesn't mean he loves her or has any great feelings for her. Oh, and, yes I was jealous of these "dream" girls because he did tell me enough for me to know I did not measure up to them but I got over it real quick knowing they did not even make Girlfriend status. Oh, and he was an ass so I really don't care now, lol.
Well you can be happy that you can pull a boyfriend who can pull pretty girls. Appearance is only a small part of a relationship, mental attraction, personality is a bigger part in the long term.
If you are threatened by his past relationships, showing it will only make you more unattractive, insecure, less confident, it might push him away...