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My boyfriend hit me after I kicked him in the balls by a mistake?
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My boyfriend and I were on his couch kind of fooling around when he started tickling me. I was kicking around my legs (I'm sooo ticklish) and I rammed one of my feet really hard into his balls. Right after that he stopped tickling me and hit me really hard right across my face. I was so astonished and stunned. After like a minute of me just laying there gripping my face he apologized and told me it was just a reflex and he would never hurt me. He told me he would never hurt me back on purpose even if I was beating him up. (Which obviously isn't true) I left and now I'm so confused. 1st of all I have a bruise in the top of jaw and the whole side of my face hurts. So do you think it was just a reflex or he really meant to hurt me? What should I do about it?
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Oh and by the way we have been together for two years. And before this he has been the sweetest guy. He never ever has raised a finger or even yelled at me.
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He just came over today and kept kissing my face. He brought me flowers and chocolates. He was saying sorry every two seconds. I could see the hurt in eyes and I saw that he is so sorry. I still don't know what to do...
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What Girls & Guys Said
20 34Are you an idiot kicking a dude in the balls that hard is a lot worse then getting bitch slapped I mean seriously take this for example getting kicked in the balls really hard is like getting impalled
wow this question made me feel uncomfortable! if you guys were just fooling around why did he hit u across the face like that? it doesn't make sense. I have a bad feeling about this so be careful.
I like how every girl is down people who said it was a reflex or that it was prob equivalent to childbirth but upvoting the ones that say she should have kicked him or saying he was an abuser. You all are aware that kicking him again in the balls would make her the abuser as well as the fact that a reflex is an uncontrollable action the very fact that she hit him in the balls by accident was also a reflex action so if she's done nothing wrong neither did he.
Don't leave him! He feels terrible about it and he really didn't mean it.
It was an instinctual reaction come on now the balls are a sensitive area. But he should still apologize and make things right. As should you.
So, how's that equality working out for you?
What do you mean equality? I hit him by a mistake.
And if a GUY accidentally hit another guy in the balls and he got decked no one would care, or at least people would just shrug their shoulders and say "$#it happens". Because women are always saying they want equality, that is my response to you. $#it happens.
You don't slap a woman in the face. Nor should a woman slap a guy in the face. If he had accidently kicked her and she slapped him with all her might (women are quite obviously weaker) then do you think he'd laugh it off?
That's beyond stupid. If a guy punched me in the face after I accidentally kicked his balls I would definitely care and probably end up beating the shit out of him and he'd deserve it. I can't believe how stupid you are.
How DARE you say women are weaker? Don't you believe in equality?
And if you kicked his ass people would shrug their shoulders and not care, and if instead of doing that you just told him that wasn't cool and walked it off, people would shrug their shoulders and not care, but if a WOMAN gets hurt everyone is up in arms. Doesn't sound like equality to me...
Not sure whether to troll back or die of laughter
What?
Happened to me once. Though I didn't hit the girl back, but at that moment the pain was so strong. I wanted too yell or scream or throw something at her.
Trust me the pain drives you wild... Think about women in labor and them swearing and threatening doctors. That's how a guy feels when he's kicked there.
In my case I kept my cool and just was mad at her and stopped talking. She was all over me trying to help me up, because she did it by accident. The good news is she was super nice to me and I could see she felt terrible about it. So after a few minutes I let it go, because I know there is no way she would do that to me on purpose.
In this case what it means is that he has some anger issues. I think both of you need a few days away from each other with no contact. Gives you both time to think things over.
i feel the same. I think he has issues with controlling himself i.e anger issues. Any normal person would have reacted the way this anonymous user acted.
Why didn't you kick him in the same place again?
Why would I do that?
Because.. if a man is hit there, the only "reflex" he has is to fall on the ground and roll around.. not slap his girlfriend across the face hard enough to leave a bruise.