My boyfriend left me because I'm into yaoi? Help...

[Anonymous]

Just to clear things up, "yaoi" is boy love y'know... and all sorts of intimate action too, lol. Google it, I don't really like explaining it X). Thing is, my boyfriend found out about it and was really upset, said he didn't want to be with someone who had such a sick fetish. I TOLD him, EVERY girl loves it you won't find one who doesn't! He said "then I'll stay single". Arrghh how do I get him back? I even asked him don't guys think lesbian sex is hot and all that? It's the same thing with women, we like boy love! He said "no I don't. It doesn't do anything for me". Why is he doing this to me? Ugh I need help here...

[SouthernMan]

Is this a major part of your life? If the answer is no and this is just something you like then the guy is overreacting or being overly sensitive. Sounds like someone who is a bit closed minded since you haven't asked him to do anything involving 'yaoi.' You are probably better off without this guy if he is going to judge you so harshly over something so small and end your relationship because he thinks one of your interests is weird.

My advice: Find someone who can accept you and will not overreact to this sort of thing. One important part of achieving happiness with another person (for me) is being able to let that person into all parts of my life, and that is clearly something that you cannot achieve with this guy.

[Aizou]

there's nothing wrong with liking that.

it's like leaving a guy that likes girl on girl action ^-^

[tohrment]

Hmm, I'd never heard of that.

Anyway, he sounds like a doucheberry. You like what you like, and seeing as it's not illegal or morally questionable, I see absolutely no problem with it. I don't think "EVERY girl loves it", but if there's a p*rn industry for it, it must do alright! I dig some homoeroticism too and I don't see how it's a big deal. He should know that it's just something you enjoy and don't necessarily expect him to participate in your fantasies.

It just sounds like he's a little close minded to me. I'd let your boyfriend go and move on. Next relationship let them know that you're into it, but that you don't expect that to involve themselves in it or anything (unless you do?).

[Anonymous]

OMG! I love yaoi! You aren't the only one. I mean, some of my friends don't like it, just as some men don't like yuri, but, I mean, It's great.

I understand that this guy probably meant a lot to you, but If he was willing to dump you over such a small thing, why bother? Obviously he's overreacting, imo.

Good luck to you :)

[DiamondKutt]

I googled it & it's not strange to me. I think you're better off without him because you shouldn't be with someone who would leave you over something petty like that. It's just a fetish & he should know that not everyone wants to actually act out their fetishes.

[EverythingReal]

I'm not into it, guy on guy does absolutely nothing for me. Not all guys like lesbians, it doesn't do anything for my boyfriend. You're making false generalizations. However, as long as you keep your fetish to your own personal pleasures and don't try to bring it into the relationship, it should not be a problem. If he has a problem with your personal fetishes, he's not worth being with.

[kheserthorpe]

My impression is a minority of women like it.

I'm not really into lesbian stuff

It wouldn't bother me if my partner was in to this. I don't think.

[Lupianwolf]

really all girls?

It's weird, but not that much of a turn off

[Cottonpinku]

Forget that little {redacted}! He ain’t worth it. He might not understand you but that doesn’t mean he should dislike or hate you for it.

[Konnour]

I also don't want to be with any girl who's into such kind of atrocities.

Thumbs up for your ex by having enough self-respect.

[taster]

hmmm..is a new idea to me...of course male on male is repulsive to me...however I certainly understand the concept of female on female...which is very hot to me...I would have to adapt to the idea...but it would be hypocritical of me to criticize..(:

[Ihav2fart]

LOL wahhahahahahaaha

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's the gay sex he's upset about. I think he's upset that you watch p*rn and that it might give you ideas about possibly having a mmf threesome etc...

[Anonymous]

Honestly if you really like yaoi that much and he won't accept it, you're better off without him. I think you should find a guy who is into anime because he would probably be more comfortable dealing with a fujoshi than somebody who isn't used to the anime fandom at all.

[Anonymous]

Not every girl loves it. For me, two males (anime? I don't know if yaoi is just anime but I got that impression) having sex doesn't turn me on.

[Anonymous]

First thing is that not all guys are interested in lesbian stuff. I know I'm not.

I think it's a little odd, but it's not something I would frightened about at all. I'm sure he'll come around, but in the mean time, you shouldn't have to explain yourself anymore. You like what you like, and that's it.

[Anonymous]

um not every girl likes that. I for one had never even heard of it, just googled it and thought it looked weird.