he wants to share fun times with you. sure he's taking the wrong approach with all this pressure, but maybe its because he doesn't know how else to persuade you. from what you wrote I don't think he's intentionally trying to upset you.
yes. bad things happened in the past and they were unreasonable. but if you let those negative experiences shape who you are, then you may as well give up a part of yourself.
take whatever approach you feel is best, include him in it if you want, but find a way to be happy with dancing again. take your time and don't expect results overnight. the important part is to keep at it because you need to create a bunch of happy memories to override the bad ones you have know. otherwise dancing will always be associated with bad times.0 0 1 0If your boyfriend is pressuring you about anything, it's a bad sign. Especially something sexual like this. It shows he doesn't respect you or the fact that you don't want to do it. He might think his badgering is harmless, but it isn't. It shows a side of him where he treats you like a sexual object rather than his girlfriend. Tell him exactly what you told us. Say that you aren't comfortable dancing for him right now and his constant pressuring is not helping his cause, it's making it worse. You have to be firm about it. You don't want to come off as a bitch or unwilling to please him. Your boyfriend needs to respect you when you don't want to do something.
0 1 0 0Don't get pressured into doing something you don't want to do. You can simply tell him no.
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Don't dance for him if you're not comfortable with the idea.
Also, if you want to pleasure him sometime, dancing can be a really great tool.0 0 1 0i honestly wouldn't mind doing whatever f***ing dance pole dance strip dance I don't care I just hate how he is pressuring me...i feel like I'm being harassed its not even sexy at this point.
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0 1Wow, you don't want to make your boyfriend happy. If my girlfriend asked me to give her a lap dance I would and I hate dancing.
0 0 3 0Having anyone harass the QA to dance is a trigger for her. It's like asking a rape victim to act out a rape scene. It's not sexy and it terrifies them. Every time her boyfriend pressures her she is reminded of being forced to dance and getting beaten.
How can you compare rape to dancing? I was beat daily by my exstepfather though I don't let that control me. You have to let that stuff go.
You are an idiot
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