My boyfriend wants me to get plastic surgery. Is this a bad idea?

[Anonymous]

I know it sounds weird, but my boyfriend suggested that I should get plastic surgery - implants. He even offered to pay for it. I'm flat-chested and have always wanted bigger boobs, but I'm not sure if surgery is a good idea. I have a few friends that have gotten implants (and lip injections) and they look amazing, but do you think it's a bad idea? If not, should I let him pay for it?

[redeyemindtricks]

Uh, whoever the fuck's the pink yes-vote, let's have a heart-to-heart pls. The hell?

You should do this for YOU.
Period.
End of.

If yr boy is on board with it, then, hey, that's even better. But, srsly, it is not going to make or break the attraction factor in a long-term relationship. Nope. Won't.
On the other hand, it absolutely WILL change yr relationship with yr body, and with clothes, and with all sorts of other things, too.

I got my first BA (650cc saline submuscular) about 12 years ago, and it was a serious game changer. I've been built like a handrail my whole life -- was an editorial model in my 20's, and even my first pregnancy/breastfeeding didn't give me the top of the hourglass -- so, it really changed my whole silhouette, and the way I filled out a dress and so on, for the better.
My husband thought it was the hottest thing in the world, too -- and he's awesome at making ME feel like the hottest thing in the world -- but that's just an added bonus.

I went a size bigger (800cc) when I had the revision a cpl years ago. Still zero regrets, best decision ever. My back hurt a teeny bit after the first surgery, but nothing that a few months' emphasis on the back muscles in the gym couldn't fix. (Couldn't work out chest for a couple months, anyway, so that actually happened naturally.)

If you have any q's about the whole thing you can always message me. But, if you are considering doing this FOR someone else... nope. Wrong decision.

[redeyemindtricks]

Woohoo mho out of 145 opinions! <3 Thank you!

[Betwyn]

Check this at the door for a second.

Your poll, and your main question, don't match your write up fully.

and, it is your write up, that ultimately, you should be dealing with.

You need to decide, what you want to do, for you. and.. I know it can be a really hard decision.. I struggle with it. I want them.. I don't want them.. I'm worry about if they look odd.. I worry about guys only liking me for them afterwards... I worry about how they will feel.. about scarring.. about changes in sensation...

For me, while I still haven't closed the door, I'm leaning towards no.. partly because I don't really have the money.. and partly because I'm worried about the effect they'd have on my tattoo's.

You need to dig deep, and decide what is the right answer for you. One the plus side, payment is taken care of, and you have the support of your boyfriend. How serious are you two? Is he actively pushing you to get them, because he likes bigger ones? or because of your mindset and self-image?

I'm sure many people are jumping on him, calling him names.. but, just because he wants you to get them, doesn't mean it IS coming from a selfish place. Only you and he can really answer that.

At the end of the day.. get them, or not, for you.

If he were to die, or you were to break up, you don't want to be stuck with something that was only for him.

It's your body.. Rock it how you want to.

[Goldie757]

Nobody should ever alter their body to please someone else.

Would you still want implants if your boyfriend left you tomorrow? If the answer is no, you should not even consider this.

You should really research thoroughly on breast augmentation in order to make an informed decision.

If you decide in the end that this is what you want you should make sure there is enough funds for corrective surgery. This is in case something goes wrong, 25 to 40 percent of people who get breast implants end up needing another operation to correct something wrong with the first one. Also 9 percent of augmentations had serious capsular contracture (which causes hardening, and sometimes pain), sometimes bad enough to require reoperation.

Also it’s important to understand before your surgery that increasing the size of your breasts is not what gives you cleavage. Rather, cleavage is a function of the shape and width of your chest and how close your breasts are together. When you were little, do you remember looking down and crossing your arms to pretend you had cleavage? It’s the same principal here. If your breasts are set wide on your chest, you will have more fullness after your augmen-tation, but not more cleavage. Conversely, if your body is narrow below your shoulders and your breasts are close together, you’ll have great cleavage even with a small implant.

[ThePhantom1234]

you do not need bigger boobs, and do not let your boyfriend pay for it. The question is why does your boyfriend want you have bigger boobs? I think personally for your boyfriend to say you need big boobs, the guy is an ass-hole.

Here is something to think about? The only person that has your best interests at heart, is you. So stand up for what it is right.

Why don't you tell your boyfriend to get a bigger dick? If he is only in the relationship for boobs, then man, this guy doesn't love you for who you are, but loves you for your boobs.

why don't you ask him, who is he actually in love with, you or the boobs. Your boobs flat chested or not, are not designed to please men in the bedroom, they are sole purpose is to feed your babies. You mess round with mother nature, she will hurt you. If you bigger boobs now, I can tell you, when you get to 70 or 80, they won't be looking nice, and you regret having them.

Be happy with what mother nature has given you, and do not fuck about with it for anyone. If people don't like your boobs, your ass, your face, remove them out your life. Then only person you need to impress is yourself.

If you keep trying to please and impress others your whole life, you will never be happy. Instead chase what makes you happy, and not what makes others people. Always trying to make others happy, never works.

[i1T2daty]

Don't ever do something for someone who simply wants you to do it for his own need to create his weird version of arm candy. In fact, if he's at all insistent about it, leav because he sounds like an over-controlling asshole.

Alternatively, ask him to spend the money on dick surgery for himself. Tell him he's not meeting your customary standards. If he agrees to get a bigger dick for you than you might talk to him about breast enlargement. No, forget it, if he's willing to do something like that he's even weirder,

I happen to be huge fan of smaller breasts. I think they are sexier, girls with them have, in my experience, been more passionate. Despite that, I would never ask a woman to alter her body for my own pleasure. There is no pleasure for him or you in doing this. All he wants is for you to look like some weird idea of his porno "perfect woman": I promise you he will want something e;lse in 3 moths if you capitualate. Sometimes I wonder why all women aren't lesbians with some of the stupid things I hear about guys.

[tomi77]

Love yourself, it's your body. He should love you for you and not feel the need to change you that drastically in my opinion. Don't feel like you should get it to keep him either.

[Darkfairie17]

Getting implants to please your boyfriend is definitely the wrong way to go about it. If you want implants, you should be compelled to get them. But it sounds like you are just wanting to get them to satisfy your boyfriend.

He doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend to be commenting that you need plastic surgery. He should be happy with how you are now, and not looking for ways for you to change for him.

[Needacrystalball]

Do it if you want it but don't do it if he is making you. It is not a guarantee that the two of you will be together forever but they will be a part of you forever. Not all men like big fake breasts believe it or not. Without trying to sound like I am slut shaming, the reality is people do look at women with implants as sluts or bimbos. I personally would get them myself if I could but I am in my early thirties, independent, and could care less what people think. If you have the confidence, go for it. There is also some risk and maintenance involved. If something goes wrong further down the line and they need to be replaced, you have to cover the cost whether he's around or not. So that's some things to consider. Don't ever change who you are for someone else. Either they love and except you or you deserve someone better. You had small boobs when he met you and yet you guys are dating, so obviously he found something in you he liked. You make the choice.

[Bilvy]

I've got a sneaky feeling you'll regret it somehow in the distant future. I personally wouldn't do it, I know this sounds unoriginal but... if he really loves you he wouldn't want to change you. But if you really want bigger breasts then I guess you do what you wanna do. Its your body, nobosy else's.

But I think you shpukd know the drawbacks of having a big bust.

1. It's an absolute pain while jogging or running.

2. Wearing comfy loose shirts will make you look fat.

3. Draws to much attention, beware of perverts. Sure its nice to get attention but evebtually you'll attract jack a*ses.

4. Then there's the judging. Plastic usually cones to mind.

But this is your decision. Hope this helps.

[AngryGoddess]

Here's the thing. If you even remotely considered this idea without getting angry, it means that you're crazy about this guy. What if you get implants and what not and he decides to leave you? There are many side effects to getting plastic surgery. Go through the pros and cons and decide if that's what you want. In my opinion, no guy is worth cutting yourself up and stuffing it with silicone. But I don't know what's best for you. Decide for yourself.

[Bytheseaside]

What if you break up with this guy, and the next guy you date prefers flat chested women? Don't change yourself for a guy. If he doesn't like that you have smaller breastst and can't accept it, then he doesn't deserve you.

[StewieRH]

He should really love you the way you are. I mean you had a flat chest before you were going out with him and he was still interested then wasn't he?

I'm a bit flat chested myself and sometimes wish my boobs were bigger but my boyfriend says it doesn't matter how big they are, he just wants me. It should be the same with your boyfriend too.. Unless he wants to get plastic surgery on his penis for you or something lol

[LandisLit]

Oh hell no. If your boyfriend would suggest, BOYFRIEND, suggested that YOU, a girl, to get plastic surgery for your boobs, then dump his arse. It shows that he's superficial and should have dated a girl with bigger breasts, nothing bad about you, but why would he date you and knows that you didn't have big breasts in the first place and wants you to get bigger breasts? Bloody hell, he should accept you for who you are. If you want it, then go for it, but if you're going to do it just purely for him, evaluate your relationship before possibly messing up your breasts for life.

[Cmasterson]

Only do what you want to do, don't let anyone else change your decision, if you want them then it's a win win however don't feel like you have to just because he wants you to xx

[CallMeDee]

I think it's a horrible idea. If that's what you wanted to do then it's fine, but look at how you phrased the question. You said he wanted you to get them, you only mentioned wanting to get them later. If you're getting them because it's something you want to do and it will make you happy then go right ahead. Don't do it to benefit a relationship you can't guarantee will last. True love is about accepting someone the way they are appearance wise and wanting them to grow as a PERSON.

... and for what it's worth I prefer natural breasts. I'd rather date a girl with a natural B cup then a girl with an enhanced D cup.

[BellePepper]

I think that plastic surgery needs to be something YOU want for YOU. There are a lot of risks and possible complications. Like have you seen that episode of Monsters Inside Me about the lady whose implants went moldy? eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee...

[9mfeo]

MOLDY?

[BellePepper]

@9mfeo Super gross right? Apparently the valve can leak and the person can react to the silicone and that can cause problems and/or the silicone is tainted and all the bacteria and fungus is trapped in the body.

outbreaknewstoday.com/.../

[9mfeo]

I did not need to know that.

[BellePepper]

@9mfeo sharing is caring ;)

[bombamboum]

I would NEVER do such thing for a man.
Plastic surgery is not to take lightly and it's something that you do for yourself not to please others. In a relationship, you accept the person the way she/he is, you don't pay to get them change

[MsShy87]

You need to do what makes YOU happy, not your boyfriend. Boyfriends are not permanent. Plastic surgery is a serious decision and it is your body. If you want to get breast implants to help increase your self body image, self-esteem, confidence then by all means do so but never make such a dramatic change for a boyfriend.

[PeachSunset]

Thats seriously fucked up. No one should change you whether its changing your physical appearance or your personality. Your boyfriend is obviously shit, boobs literally don't matter to a guy unless their relationship runs on lust, which is not a good relationship to be in. Just dump the motherfucker, you don't need to change yourself for anyone.

[S0ph5t3R]

I think the only reason you should get plastic surgery is because you and only you feel uncomfortable with your appearance. I'm flat-chested too! And even if I wish I had bigger boobs, I wouldn't change my body to please anyone but me. If you do it for your boyfriend, it won't be the right reason why you get it.
I have real-life examples: my older sister got implants because her ex-husband wanted her to. They are now split up and, even though she doesn't regret (as far as I know) having them, she got them for the wrong reason because the guy didn't even stay with her.
My other sister's sister-in-law got implants too, but she had to have them removed when she started breast-feeding her child. Her boobs were huge, were sore and she literally couldn't see her toes anymore.
It's up to you to get surgery or not, but make sure that you do it for the right reason. And choose your surgeon well! There has been a lot of issues with low-quality breast-implants last year.
Good luck!

[curiouslittleB]

If you'd like to make surgical changes to your body to make yourself feel better and/or more confident, do it (with proper research and precaution)! However, I voted no because I don't think you should get surgery for anyone else but yourself.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

if you were doing it for YOU i would still say don't do it, it's a waste of money, you don't need to change yourself to fit society's standards, etc. but i would say if that really would make you happy then go for it. but for a guy? absolutely not. no guy who really cares about you would tell you to get implants. i think you found yourself a terrible boyfriend who obviously is too shallow and doesn't like you for you. that's crappy. :(

[steph1464]

Maaaan let him pay for them and then dump his ass!!! Lmao he's a asshole and u jus got a free enhancement on this assholes dime!

[AustinMan]

To my mind, you need to examine your motives. I've been with two gals, one of whom I married, and they both look great. When they brought it up, I told them each that I loved them the way they were and if they did this, they should do it for themselves and not me. That said, I told them both, if they bought big tits, I promise to play with them frequently and forcefully.

You said you've always wanted bib tits. If that's reason enough, then do it for that reason. His preference shouldn't enter into the equation. If you want them, let him pay for them. Go to the absolute best surgeon you can find.

[Errhh]

If you want them, get them! But make sure that you do a good research on the best surgeons, you don't want to end up at the morgue with huge boobs D: So if he's willing to pay, make sure he's not referring to some cheap surgeon, without doing proper research and looking at previous operations and their outcomes.

However, If you don't really want them, then why would you do it? Just cause he wants it? It's your body, and it's going to live with you, so only if YOU want.

And in my opinion fake boobs are a good option at older age, AFTeR you have babies.. So that your boobs can look nice again! And you'll look younger...
The only times I see it considerable at young age to get implants is if you have a completely flat chest, or no butt, then should be considered...