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My girlfriend had a threesome with 2 of my friends 2 months before we started dating?
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I just found out yesterday that my girlfriend, who I've been dating for about three months now had a threesome with two of my friends not long before we started dating. She didn't tell me this her self, I had to find out from my roommate after another one of my friends told him. All of my circle of friends knew this before I did. The worst part is both of the guys that slept with here are kind of morons. I like this girl, but I don't know if I can handle this. Every time I look at her I think of her getting figertrapped by thos to goons. I can't ask and e one there opinion ( irl I mean ) and I seriously don't know what to do. ANY opinions would be a lot of help right now. thanks
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FYI I already discussed this with her. And I'm basically debating to dump her or not. I'm about 50/50 at this point.
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37 43dump her.
she lied, and that's reason enough.
She didn't lie. It was before they started dating, she didn't tell big deal. You tell your girlfriend (or your hand) everything you did before you started dating them?
i told her EVERYTHING.
@rachel_myers. Ok then she hid it. And he has to find it in the way, i. e from friends circle, which is humiliation at its bedt. He did'nt deserve such humiliation. He did'nt had threesome and hid it.
just be honest with you and talk about it. if not, it'll tear you up inside, and you'll just end up getting into fights over nothing. if not, you'll just have to learn to accept it and move on.
i really hope it works out, but I think honesty is the best way to go - maybe your friends were lying?
no, it happened. She said it happened once I questioned her about it. Thanks for your input tho! Much appreciated!
Dump that hoe..lol but seriously dump her you don't want to be with a girl that your friends (not 1 but 2) have had...And If that's not good enough, dump her for the simple fact that she didn't tell you earlier and made you look stupid for being with a girl that has had sex with your friends...
How can he believe that her faith won't change by time? in that case, what will be that guy's life?
? I'm not understanding what you,re trying to say
can you be happy with her and your friends knowing your friends both emptied their nuts in her at the same time? if you can then keep her, if not then dump her.
You're in a bad spot. I'd have to admit, that'd be turn off to me. Definitely keep your options open.
i would dump her seriously she's not worth it that's just kinda nasty her life is her life you can choose to be a large part of it or a small chapter I would not want people to associate me with a girl that had a threesome so intimately its a little degrading and well its just degrading to you as a man your dating two morons slut she was their whore man and you are committing to her if she was your whore that would be different but she's not she's your girlfriend come on man just don't do this to yourself
Honestly, whether you'll like it or not, she comes across as someone whod never be girlfriend material. See, personally, I've kind of a dirty mind, but that stuff is just disguting...for me at least. Id never be able to take the threesome thing off my mind. And what makes things worse, theyre morons, like you said. Good luck.
DUMP HER...
She doesn't even like you if she is going at it with 2 other guys while you were dating her. Girls don't care about anyone but themselves anyways. Selfish twits.
Ignorant...read the question. IT WAS TWO MONTHS BEFORE THEY WERE DATING.
i don't care if it was 3 years, she doesn't like him. Stupid girl
@rachel myers Stop making mentally deficient comments. He probably would not of gone out with her if he knew it before hand!
In my personal opinion, dump her and your 2 "friends". Honestly, they should've been upfront about doing that with each other.
Why? They weren't together, it's her business.
I agree rachel myers. guys have threesomes with grls all the time. that makes them look dirty. So, what is the difference. especially since this happened before him.
Yes, dump the friends, too. If you can't handle it,lose the loudmouth friends. Teardrop, you are using classic defense mechanism fantasy-world thinking saying that "guys have threesomes" so it's OK. I've never had a threesome and never would. Same for plenty of other guys. You need to defend your behavior to yourself so you come up with a fantasy in your head to project your anger upon. If you want to have threesomes, I support you. But don't pretend it's justice for guys doing it.
I HAVE BEEN IN THIS EXACT SAME SITUATION! What did I do? I talked to her, it was clear that she was extremeley ashamed about it. I decided to distant myself from the 2 morons, and do my best to make our relationship work. I know its hard but try to remember that people make mistakes, hopefuly you can move on. I know how it feels, the idea of your girlfriend doing that is 10 times worse than thinkin of any ex's she had. Now the most challenging part is putting up with the idiots who will call your girlfriend a slut for having done that. What I am saying is, if you think she is worth it, than make the effort.
O.k first that was in the past and as long she's faithfull then don't worry about it.. Look toward the future...
N look towards those friends. N feel the humiliation
HAVE A THREESOME WITH TWO OF HER FRIENDS
sorry bout the capss
What since does that make? What she did was before she met him what you're proposing him to do is while he's with her.
@udolipixie If threesomes was not bad, it will not be bad now as well. So she too should not mind if her boyfriend has it now. N yes he too can hide it because he does'nt need to tell everything to her just like she did'nt tell him. Let her know from her friends and let het feel what he felt... then only the true face will come out
Choose a right girl.. She's a whore, crazy for cock.. You have to smash her ass and her face
?crazy for cock?...I loled LOL
everyone makes mistakes but thts a sh*t stain tht never comes out ! I think yu should jus keep her as yur friend for now because you have to build the trust back up and that only comes from friendship . nd thts only if its worth being with her .
If you really like her stay with her,that was her past,now you can be her future.
I'd dump her right now. You are never going to live it down that your friends got to have sex with your girlfriend/wife before you did and when you two have fights in the future she will use it as ammo against you.
This is a crappy situation for both of you, though I haven't dated anyone (yet) for him to find out, I have been that girl. I was drunk and I myself believe that is the worst reason in the world, and a pathetic excuse for doing something so disgraceful. I wish I could take it back because it is something I'm dreading telling the guy I end up falling in love with.
Though I want to fight for her and say forgive her and stay together, if it bothers you now, it always will. If you aren't OK with it, it will never be a healthy relationship.
I really admire that you admit it is a pathetic excuse, I know so many girls who just use it as an excuse to do/say anything and won't take any responsibility
if she couldn't tell you this herself then that's a problem. but if you really like her and can look past it then give it another shot otherwise consider that break up. makes you wonder what else she has done with guys though
I think your being silly, it was before you were together. But if it really affects you and is gonna affect how you look at her then its best for both of you not to torture each other.
He have feel the humiliation infront of her exes forever... that too for no faultof his