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My girlfriend walked in on me. how can I make her stay?
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This past weekend my girlfriend went over to her friends for a bridal shower and I had one of my friends come over and hang out. Me and my friend got into some real deep conversation and had maybe a little to much to drink. He told me that he was gay which was a shocker but then he said he has wanted me for over a year now. We kept on talking and drinking and to cut to the chase, one thing led to another and we ended up in my room and him f***ing me. My girlfriend came home and I must have not realized what time it was and I didn't hear her come in but she walked in the room and had to witness me doing something totally disgusting. I tried to talk to her but couldn't even talk and she was speechless as well. she left and went to her moms house and my friend stayed with me and we cracked open a fifth and finished it, went to my room and had sex again and passed out. I woke up with the worst feeling I have ever had. I felt sick and dirty. I puked (probably mostly the alcohol) and didn't even want to be conscious didn't want to think. she will not talk to me but she is coming over tomorrow tonight to get stuff and she said she will let me talk. What can I say to her? it was a total mistake and I'm not gay . I am just lost on what to do.
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I have been getting a lot of answers lately. this post is old and I just wanted to update. She hasn't talked to me again and I am gay I live with my boyfriend from the story and I am happy now. thanks
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20 13Doesn't matter if you're gay or not, you cheated. The End.
first of all you need to figure out your sexuality. and just because you say your not gay doesn't mean your not gay.You can be finding yourself right now.have you ever thought maybe your bisexual?As for your girlfriend all you can do is sit down with her and talk to her about what happened.Its up to her what's going to happen next. and take in the fact that she is a little shocked and shocken up. You need to have a talk to your friend and explain to hom that you are in a relationship.Btw if after the fact your girl friend walked in on you too and you did it AGAIN you are most likely bisexual( there nothing wrong with that) but you have to choose.
Huge mistake, your fault, there's pretty much nothing you can do. Learn from this! The relationship is basically over with her.
Pray
you are definitely either gay or bi... maybe you are in denial? I would be speechless too if I find myself in that scenario ... don't blame it on the alcohol because even if you get drunk you still know what you are doing! period! I think she will never forget that picture.
If you had sex with a man, you're gay. I suggest you look into those feelings because if it happened once, maybe it was just a fling, but dude, it happened twice. You just don't want to face that you could be bisexual or gay. But the point is, no truly straight guy would do that. Give up on the relationship because it will be a Brokeback marriage. You will want to cheat on her with men and she will never be able to look at you the same way.
Well, I have to admit if I saw my boyfriend having sex with another man, I would naturally assume that he was gay, and he was just using me as a "cover". And from that point on, it would be over. I wouldn't even think of giving him a second chance.
I don't really think there is much you can say to make her change her mind. Sadly, a social thing is to assume that if a man has sex with another guy, he's just gay. No one assumes that it was an accident. Though I doubt that it will help, I would sit down with her and tell her everything that happened. Explain to her what happened and that you're not gay and it was a big misunderstanding. You were drunk and didn't know what you were doing. You had no control over the situation. Though, I would be prepared to expect her to not take you back. Sorry, hope this helped.
An accident? How does one have accidental gay sex?
Like if they're under the influence of drugs or alcohol and they're so out of it, they don't think/know what's going on. Just situations like that.
Rule of thumb: the only people, who are so far out of it, that they don't know whether the sex they're having is gay or straight, are unconscious. The rest, know.
umm well go and talk to her, I mean it sit her down and talk it out let her scream cause,i mean get down on those knees and beg her to stay,tell her exactly what's wrong and talk this out