I've been in abit of a similar situation but I'm agnostic as I find being an atheist is a rather blinkered view on life. I found it hard as his family were very strong protestant and I made the mistake whilst around there for dinner saying that protestant is basically an easy form of being catholic. I wasn't welcome for dinner after that strangely...
If he truly loves you yet want's to stay true to his faith you should respect that. You shouldn't pressure him, you should have realized what you were taking on and in the Christian religion family is a big deal so you should care about his family as that will help with his emotions if he thinks you cares. He is just going through the hard choice of you or his family and faith because you are not making it possible for him to choose both at the moment.
I hope you don't take this as me accusing you for your partner's emotion state but as some advice.. hopefully...
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Wow that's a tough situation. I've never been through something like that before. I think that if it was me, I would try to reason with them even though it probably wouldn't work. Why would they want to be a part of a religion that constantly makes them feel bad about themselves? Clearly the only reason that he is a christian is because he was brought up that way. His true morals differ from the morals he was brought up with. However, reasoning with very religious people simply doesn't work because their religion is based on blind faith, which by definition is the belief in something without a reason.
2 0 2 0I know! reason doesn't work unfortunately.
No. That is where your understanding of anything relating to religion comes short. There is a large majority of bumbling idiots who take things on blind faith and never use their own brain. There is a minority that does no such thing. Funny thing is... atheists do the same.
Well clearly, this guy is basing his religion off of others' morals instead of his own. He wants to have sex. He likes sex. The only "reason" he believes it is wrong is because it was how he was brought up. If I am wrong and there is some reason other than "god says not to" or "my mom doesn't like it" then forgive me, but that's what I get from the question. Oh and for the record I'm not an atheist so I don't really care what you think about them.
Okay, first of all, you are being extremely close minded and wrong if you think god does not exist ;) you are entitled to your own individuality, but atheism is just as blind a standpoint as someone at the other extreme, a fanatical believer.
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Second thing. Make him relent. It's equally ignorant to deny yourself or your partner sex, bodies were designed for it! Explain this to him.0 2 2 0haha okay. that sounds contradictory but if you believe in god, go for it. its b.s. to me.
Not contradictory at all. You just need to give it deeper consideration before you assume things :)
To spell it out, his point is that both creationism and evolution (or what ever other system you may believe) are theories, in effect belief systems. Either or both can be wrong. The point behind science it that you are meant to keep testing, but it is pretty much impossible to absolutely prove a truth, merely a probability.
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1 2I think that you love this christian man and your insisting on being with him, that's odd for an atheist, are you feeling something wrong from the inside...besides tell your boyfriend, the the devil is trying him, he better not loose his faith...especially tell him that his mother is right about what she said...and this is why your just staying with him cause he ain't changing or cause something inside of you wants to change...
1 0 2 2lol yeah right.
If his family and religion are telling him he's bad for being with you eventually he will have to choose one life or the other and he'll always be miserable. You should break it off and hope he realizes religion is bullsh*t someday or either you could marry him but then you'll have to deal with his crazy family for life.
0 0 1 0yeah it sucks when you know its going to boil down to that no matter what. its hard to do what needs to be done in situations like this. :(
If he's had sex and then went all "marriage" on you, he probably values waiting even less than you.
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