No. You fucking shouldn't. Let him decide. That makes more than the most sense. If he doesn't like having foreskin, he can get surgery for it later. He can't grow back another foreskin. (Unfortunately). They say it's medically better, but all he has to do is be taught to clean it on a regular basis, and there is no health concern. No one ever taught me, so just make sure you have the talk. Multiple times. I vaguely recall my grandad teaching me to pull it back, but I was like 4 years old or something. I didn't remember it at all.
Just. There are things you have to know, so your son will end up well off. He has to desensitize it over time, by pulling the foreskin down while wearing underwear. The friction will make it less sensitive. I'd say around 10-12 years old, but I don't really know, since no one ever told me. At first, it's fused to the penile glans, so it's impossible until a certain age. But it's very important, especially if he's going to be having sex as a teenager.
And then, cleaning it every day in the shower. It can get pretty gross if it's not cleaned, and I think it can cause penile cancer or infections or something.
Well. Point being, make sure you understand what your son needs to know about having foreskin, if he's keeping it.
But. Even though I had to learn this shit from Sue Johanson on TV at night when my parents were asleep, and the major annoyances that brought with it, I'm glad they left me whole, even though my dad is circumcised.
As a baby it's a minor cut easily healed. As a adult, it takes weeks to heal.
Tell that to David Reimer
@Mesonfielde At 1,000,000 circumcisions a year for >50 years, one David Reiner is fine. Plus, The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) says that although the benefits of circumcision outweigh the risks, these benefits aren't significant enough to recommend that all children have the procedure. Circumcised men have lower rates of urinary tract infections, sexually transmitted infections (including HIV), and penile cancer.
Notice the part, "The benefits outweigh the risks."
I don't think it's "awfully wrong", I think it's worse to decide later. My 7 year old cousin just got circumcised and I think it's worse that they made the decision so late that he has to go through recovery and not entirely understand. So either you do it or you don't do it at all, but don't be changing your mind later.
Referring to it as genital mutilation and child abuse (not you others) is ridiculous. It's not like you are taking a kitchen knife to your son, chopping it while laughing maniacally. It's a procedure that is done by professionals.
I think you need to read up on benefits, pros, cons, what guys have said (in an objective way, not guys talking about lack of sexual options). To make a decision, but if your husband has it, and has thought it best for him and has no issues with it, realistically it's like him trying to argue about periods, he just won't get it. And while it's a 50/50 decision that you both have to agree on, you should listen to his points. I think you aren't giving ALL his reasons I doubt all he said was "well I have it", I'm sure he gave more.
No, he literally said that because he has it he wants his son to have it done. Then I brought up that wanting to have your son's penis cut, because yours is cut sounds ridiculous. After he said, well when you put it that way... Shutup "sarcasm". Since then, we haven't talked much about it. So yeah, he did not give more. Also when I say later, mean when he is older like 18 if he wants to do it, I would pay for it.
My son isn't circumcised, but his dad isn't either. Of course, my family thought I had lost my mind when I didn't do it, but they eventually moved on. Despite the myths out there, it isn't as "uncommon" or as "nasty" as some believe... as long as it is clean.
I did a lot of research before I decided not to do it, and I suggest you should too. There are a few things that I learned. ... Like, I thought it would have to be cleaned differently, that is false. The foreskin will not retract until puberty.
My son is almost 4 and has never had any issues!!
I had to watch circumcisions in nursing school, and it was terrible to watch! No, the babies don't remember it, but I feel like it is borderline torture!
Also, I had an ex boyfriend who wasn't circumcised as a baby and decided to get it done at 21 years old... THAT WAS TERRIBLE TOO! I wouldn't encourage that, unless my son brought it up later in life. It is much worse when done as an adult.
I think it's mutilation. My boyfriend was circumcised and wishes he hadn't been. As long as a guy keeps himself clean it isn't a problem. Olus, there are a lot of nerve endings in the foreskin that make sex feel better for the guy, and foreskin itself can make sex better for the girl. Plus, there are studies that say the guy can absorb some of his woman's hormones through his foreskin that help with pair bonding.
If you want to, however realistically your son won't remember the pain when he gets older, as for if he decides to get it when he's older, he has to be awake and will endure a lot of pain so he probably won't decide to get himself circumcised willingly unless there's a problem with his foreskin. there's a lot of benefits to it, however others would view it as mutilation.
Their is no benefit to circumcision.
@Thisperson98 A lot of people would say otherwise. Bottom line its her son they will come to an agreement, when you have children you can do whatever.
Hmph, saying "they won't remember the pain" can easily be used as an argument for any type of sexual harassment.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!No, I wouldn't. I am, and I'm glad that I am, but I do wish that I had the choice. I understand why my parents did it, and it was probably better than having it be 'different' than everyone else's was growing up, since it was just the cultural thing to do and everyone had it done. When I was younger I always thought "of course I would have it done to a son if I was to have one" but I have changed my mind as I've thought more about it. And now I'm definitely in the camp that it is something that is better left to him to decide. It's an irreversible choice, so it's something that should be left to him to make.
There are no _real_ medical advantages frankly. There will be articles around on the net advocating for and against. If it's only for cultural reasons and not religious I would leave it up to your child, it's his penis, not his father's. Teaching your son underneath his foreskin is easy and prepares him for a more satisfactory sex life later on. I know, there will be man saying "I am cut, but my sex life is great!", fine, good for them, I guess you won't miss one finger if you're born with nine and never knew what it was to have ten. There will be woman that say "ew, that's gross!", sorry dear, a non-washed female vulva is not that appetizing either for males... Cutting is mutilation, whatever gender it's applied to.
He just got that thing. If you're taking votes, I say leave it alone.
Why would he want to cut his sons dick? Why would any normal human want to slice bits off their child's genitals? It's fucking barbaric... The penis is fine just the way it is, the foreskin is there for a reason, don't mutilate your child's genitals because your husband wants their dicks to match... I mean, what kind of reason is that?
Hell no. Tell your husband that's crazy.
I'd do my best to convince your husband to let him make the decision when he's older.
Additionally, make sure you teach him how to clean his penis properly so it doesn't become a sack of smegma.
It's better to do it before he gets older, when they're small they don't feel pain. Also my mom told me that if a baby is not circumsized they get an infection on their penis... I don't know if it's true, but my mother is a very smart woman. So I say circumsize your son!
What your mother told you is completely false.
@Thisperson98 I didn't mean literal infection, something happens to the foreskin. Therefore my mother is correct. Read the article.
www.huffingtonpost.com/.../...ision_b_3443415.html
It's actually better to just not do it at all. Uncircumcised kids can get an infection to their foreskin if they're unlucky, yes (BTW treatable with antibiotic treatment, you don't have your lungs removed when you have pneumonia do you?) and circumcised kids can get an infection to their urethra. Sounds more fun.
im not cut and it personally causes me problems sexually with my girlfriend as the skin is too tight so its hard for me to finish.. i kinda wish i was cut as its too expensive for me to do now.. i just bare with it for her sake
Unless it is needed for medical reasons then I don't see why people do it. (Other than religion too)
It's YOUR religion though, not your kid's.
@Mesonfielde yes but generally it's normal for religion to be pushed on children if they come from a religious background, I have only ever known one person who comes from a religious family who had a choice if he wanted to follow suit. If course he followed because it was all around him.
I personally wouldn't. I agree with you, I think it's awful, and if he really wants to in the future, then he can, it's an option. It's not like the dude's gonna be able to regrow or reattach his foreskin if he regrets it.
I wouldn't, I'm a Christian and I think it is stupid tradition unless someone can give a great reason why. If the baby is cut, then the rule should be the man and woman both get a small cut. fair is fair!
My personal belief the reason that was ll done was to make males more senstive and want to have more sex. more sex meant more offspring to grow a nation... which means they could have more men to fight and survive.
Honestly I am always against doing it to a child and especially since you are split on the decision. You should let your son decide for himself and it would be more meaningful that way.
It's not wrong, but he'll be more prone to infections if he doesn't keep himself clean down there. Most people do it for religious reasons, but if I ever had a son, I would do it solely for cleanliness, nothing else.
Why not, he'll last longer in bed. It does more good than bad.
I've never heard of someone going OH! Why would my parents do that to me, circumcise me like that! Dammit parents!
He won't do it later on in life. A baby will forget as soon as it heals a once he's of any age to make a decision for himself. . . I mean you really want him surgically messing with that shit at that age?
I agree with you. It's the kind of thing a person should decide for itself. Like religion.
Which is why it's funny how taking one's choice to retain physical integrity is part of another's religion.
@Mesonfielde Well, their point is that if you start indoctrinating (brain washing really) someone from birth, they will make good soldiers who won't ask too many questions. The vast majority of people believe in the religion they believe in just because they were born in a geographical location where that religion is more powerful than the others... That's why religions are so eager to have babies baptised and branded (circumcised).
You are right. I am circumcised and angry that the choice was taken from me; especially once I realized that sex is likely better for uncircumcised men.
Frankly, it's a barbaric practice akin to amputating the clitoris of girls in parts of the Muslim world.
I agree with this completely
I agree mostly. Although, there are difficulties with sex with foreskin. The glans has to be desensitized, and it can be pretty painful to pull back the foreskin. And God damn it, mine wasn't fully desensitized until I was 20. Having sex was very painful, and it often killed my boners. It took, like, 10 times having sex until I could actually use the thing *somewhat* properly. Granted, I started young. All things that someone who isn't circumcised should be taught, @OP. Unlike what my parents thought. Although, I would say amputating a clitoris is worse. The clit is like the head of the penis. So. It would be like cutting the clitoral hood, not the glans. Exact same thing, actually. But cutting the clit is far, far worse. Although, there are nerve endings in the foreskin, so, it's definitely similar.
@Rawrzz I did not know that was a thing. I've really only been with men that are circumcised and the men in my life are also circumcised. There isn't anyone to talk to about not being circumcised. Thanks for the information. Also, the clitoral hood doesn't have a ton of sensation. I think thats why women are going towards minimalistic look with surgery.
NO, absolutely not. It's cruel.
Would you circumcise a daughter? No? Then why even ask this question? It's no different.
It's not tradition here. If it were common, I'd fine myself in the same position if it were a girl.
I wouldn't do it. I live in a country where circumsision isn't even an option after birth, because it is basically mutilating your child. Girls don't get circumsized either. (I know they differ, but still.)
I do not think it is your decision to decide this kind of thing. Circumcision has its own medical benefits according to its proponents such as increased hygiene, being less prone to infections and STDs. But it also has its own complications if it is not done right at a clinic. If you think its benefits outweigh its disadvantages, take him to a well-known clinic, where they use anesthetics under sterile conditions. If you think it has more disadvantages, then don't do it. I heard that men with circumcision suffer from premature ejaculation the most. But this is not something a baby can decide. You may either leave this decision when he is grown up, or take him to a hospital. Just do not make the decision based on whether it's painful or not since he won't remember when he grows up. Try to make the decision based on a broad research, and maybe talks with doctors etc.
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@Bilafasıla why what s the point
Dont do it, poor kid. Let him decide on his own when he's old enough. Thats straight up physical abuse.
He's not a poor kid.
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