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Should I tell my boyfriend I notice when he gets an erection?

Me and my boyfriend are both 15 and whenever he comes to my house we always cuddle up and because I get insomnia, a lot of the time I end up falling asleep without realising. For the past month or so, I have been woken up by my boyfriends erection poking into my leg, and when I'm fully awake he makes a desperate attempt to hide it. So far he seems pretty confident that I haven't noticed, but in reality, I have noticed many times, I just haven't told him to save him the embarrassment. Do you think I should bring it up to him so we can talk it out and we can figure out why he seems to get this little problem? If so, how should I bring it up with minimal embarrassment to both of us?
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The reason I saw this as a concern is because neither of us have had partners other than each other, I had no idea men could get erections that easily. Personally, I don't see it as a problem, I don't really know what I see it as, all I know is that I love my boyfriend and I want him to be comfortable. I'm normally pretty surprised, its not like I do anything particularly erotic in my sleep, I just lay there with my head against his chest and occasionally he entwines his legs with mine
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Okay, I knew I was going to get some answers like this. We are both 15, we have been together for almost 2 months. I'm not gonna give him a blow job or anything similar, we aren't ready for that sh! t. Thank you to anyone who so far has given me a sensible answer
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Most Helpful Girls

  • If you talk to him about it he is GOING to think you want to sleep with him. You showed interest in the matter enough to talk about it. He is young and hormone driven and that is just the way it is... but keep in mind that many young men find themselves aroused after sleeping. It is normal and not always sexual. If you do speak with him about it, you need to be sure in advance of what YOUR intentions are and the outcome that you hope for in speaking with him. Make sure that your conversation covers the plausibility and request for that outcome.

  • How is this even a problem and why do you even feel the need to talk about it? Guys get erections all the time, even when they aren't necessarily turned on. It's not something they can control so even if you bring it up, it won't change anything. Nor is it something he should feel embarrassed over or hide because it's completely normal.

    • can't*

    • @MoonlitSonata excuse me?

    • "It's not something they can control so even if you bring it up"

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  • You are meeting very often, cuddle almost every time and sleep together in a singe bed. This is sufficient to say that you will have sexual relations soon - if not at present. There is no need to hide anything from him, and he will enjoy you for your knowing about his erection. Enjoy the moments and do what ever come automatic.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It's his body telling you he likes you, also on a less 'platonic' level, see it as a compliment if you want. He might feel ashamed if you confront him with it directly. A nicer way to ackowledge it w/o words would be by grinding :-) Your private parts pushing back his physical reaction is more then enough understatenent that you noticed it.

    • Will that really work? Just use my hips to hold it down for him? Its that easy?

    • @Asker Grinding on him will not make his boner go away. If anything it'll make it harder till he cums. I think you misunderstood what @Boromir was saying.

    • @MoonlitSonata is right, but the way how you asked the question made me think you were trolling so I did not answer :-) The aim is not to hold down his tool, the aim is more to have both fun by pushing part A against part B.

  • A 15 yro guy is going to get them all the time. After he is with you I am sure he heads home to masturbate (almost all young guys do it frequently but will never admit it)

    It is ok to talk about it. He should not be embarassed cause it is a normal body reaction.

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  • Yes you should! Honesty is the best policy after all. He might do something about it.

    • This is either a troll or a very strange comment.

  • Unless it bothers you, I would just keep ignoring it. It'll save you both from possibly getting unnecessarily embarrassed.

    • Also, commenting on another opinion, unless you're wanting to turn the occasion sexual I would resist from grinding.

  • It's not a problem, it's horny haha. But I wouldn't worry about it. If the topic gets brought up then feel free to tell him. But it's not hurting anything. If you tell him you notice it he might not try to hide it anymore

  • it's normal he has erections like that, if he didn't you should be worried, sometimes erections are not caused by sexual arousal in guys, sometimes it just happens, it's nothing to be concerned about he's a healthy teenage boy. if you want him to be comfortable around you when he has erection then... I guess go ahead and talk to him.

  • He's 15. His hormones are raging. It's hard enough as a grown man to not let our imagination run wild, I can only imagine at 15 when a cute girl is touching you. He doesn't want you to know simply cause he doesn't want you to be either mad at him or shocked. You could just tell him that you know about it and that you are flattered.

  • How is a normal human reaction to being close to someone he finds attractive a "problem"?

    It's only a problem if he tries to force you to do anything.

  • I would keep pretending not to notice to save him the embarrassment, like you said.. seeing as you're not ready to get sexual there's no point saying anything. though I'd like to point out to you it's not a "problem" he has, he's totally natural and normal reaction. don't say anything that will cause him to feel ashamed. if it bothers you that much then stop cuddling with him.

  • I would not tell him if I were you. He probably would be really embarrassed if you told him. Guys get them all the time any, especially when they are sleeping

  • The answer is, don't cuddle with him.

  • two young people discovering body funtions , when the lights are out , just be yourself , and tell him his erections are for you only, and if you have been intimate then you already know, if you have not , then joke about it , and let him know to only use it when needed, but tell him u notice , and it stabbed you a couple of times, lol so pull the fishing pole back when their is no fish

  • be flattered that he's so into you he wouldn't get them so much if he wasn't into you

  • He's fifteen that's going to happen when he's cuddled up next to you. It shouldn't embarrass you it's just nature. He can't help it anymore than you can your period. Try and cut him some slack.

  • Little problem? Lol. It's his body's biological response to cuddling an attractive female. Nothing to talk out. If you put a spot light on it and make it sound like a problem you will cause him even further embarrassment.

  • Dear girl,
    Life is the school which teach you the lessons through teacher named "Experience".
    I really think, you're in good relationship and don't let it ruin by telling this to him. Telling such things to guys indicates your interest in their erecting cock.
    It's normal to get erection for guys very easily and it's not big deal he is feeling stimulation while being with you.

  • are you dumb? why to tell?

  • I wouldn't tell him. Its naturally for guys to get erections, especially as he is probably going through puberty and can't control it. All your going to do is embarrass him over something he cannot control.
    If you don't understand it do your own research online about boys bodies and erections but do not bring it up.
    Its not your place, he can't help it, and it can make him feel awkward and embarrassed over a naturally part of growing up.

  • If he's embarrassed about it just don't talk about it. He's a dude getting an erection while cuddling with a girl, nothing unusual at all here.

  • don't tell him, as u said he makes attempts to hide n doesn't want u to know, as time flies he learns to control his erection

  • Talk it out? He doesn't need talk lol
    Next time grab it and say let me help you with that.

  • yes, you should. Stop him in his tracks pull his pants down and give him a blowjob right then and there no matter where you are, trust me it is fun.

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