Too beautiful to get a boyfriend or sex?

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yeah that is my horrid life and reality...no I'm not conceded--i can't get a boyfriend or sex because I'm too beautiful. Those who've abused/rejected me say to me "youre TOO beautiful"..ie that's why we reject you...men abuse and degrade me...ive been single all my life...men will not even lay a hand on me without some horrific power play game of abuse and degradation. Males won't do normal things to me or treat me like a female or pretty female...men treat me lower than dirt insult degrade and abuse me...reject me sexually...my situation is extreme suffering.. I used to get it and used to realize I have to take what I can get because for being 'beautiful' every male is to intimidated and scared of me they won't even touch me...those who will have sex with me are trying to use me in a very derogatory way like a puppet or sex toy and discard me...people treat me in a very cruel way especially males-- they only want to own dominate torture or control me...and abuse me constantly...ive been suffering with this for 12 years...but its just getting worse...now men won't even touch me at all and the games are getting crazier...males seem to get off on rejecting me and running off despite being so turned on they are  turning red... once I even asked a guy to cuddle and in the end he ended up running off and insulting me yelling "I won't FUK YOU"! during the middle of the date he said "youre really hot and sexy...and you seem amazing" ie more like I'm shocked I even met you and your going out with me...i get rejected by any guy...guys get a high off rejecting me and running off...ive been single all my life except for dating a psycho old guy who refused to have sex wtih me ever and just degrade and mentally tortured me while he paid other women to have sex with them and gave them gifts---men use me asa  punching bag to throw their anger out on and I'm a nice sweet girl...they use me to dump on  for anything whle they are pleasing and pampering other women...i don't know how to change this or what to do...nothing works and even if I'm nice sweet beautiful men just abuse/degrade me...do other women experience this horror? then men end up dating and running off to some psycho drug addict who steals from thm and praise her while insulting and criticizing me for tying my shoelace 'weird' or some weird bizarre sick thing they put me down for...such as I  just walked too slow or I'm too 'reserved' or anything they can...just to put me down for...all males do is put me down...insult me rather than say...wow you are confident and nice and a cool person...there seems to be nothing I can do about this as when I defend myself I find myself battling tons of people who are trying to dominate me...do other women experience this or is this horror limited to lucky ones like me

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I am not really beautiful or anything but I have been sexually abused and assaulted a lot in my past. Now that I am older I will be talking to a guy in a friendly manner but he will become scared to be alone with me and hang out.  On numerous occasions guys have said "I'm sorry I can't be alone with you because I can't resist you I am afraid of doing something..." when I have gotten alone with a guy they turn red and run off or they do forcefully throw themselves at me. I was riding in a cab once alone with the driver and the driver could not stop talking about my legs and he wanted to know about my sex life its was so awkward! I have been grabbed by a virtual stranger walking from my hotel room, pinned to a bed why the guy just screamed "I want to hold you..." Its very bizarre I don't know why it happens either. While your good looks probably do intimidate some shyer guys, its not a justification for these guys abusing you and treating you like this. You should never settle for this and learn to stand up for yourself. I know its hard I am not very confident and I am quite a small woman so I can't overpower a guy I have become industrious at escaping though dropping to the ground suddenly just going totally limp, wrestling free the moment they loosen a grip, I don't allow myself anymore to be alone with men I can't fully trust and I try and socialize in the day. If a guy says he can't be alone with me I don't push the issue. Try talking to some nice guys. Don't let men disrespect you. You might have to downplay your looks to approach men if its possible and don't remind a guy you are beautiful and intimidate him that way and try not to degrade men either. Make sure to have a variety of interests and try to really get to know a guy before you move to sex.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You sound a little crazy, but I can relate to what you are saying. I scare men away. I have a huge ego and I have a major attitude problem. I attract nothing, but assholes who want to use me and then tell all their friends about it.  Nobody takes me seriously and they shouldn't. I know that I will eventually grow bored of them and move onto something else. I sabotoge EVERY relationship I have.. I'm thinking about looking into therapy. I have some major emotional problems and you might too. Good luck!

zabrinatan · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure how this can happen to you at a constant basis.. No offense, just curious, does that reflect the way you dress? How do you dress? I mean there's no harm in looking nice and sexy but there's a fine line between cheap and sexy. Just saying as I don't really know your situation. I hope things get better for you. ><

archer86 · Accepted Answer

I have heard about a woman like this before in college. One of my professors talked about how she was so incredibly beautiful, folks would stare and stop talking when she passed by. On one particular day, she spoke with my professor and complained that nobody asked her out. This was before I arrived...heheh.

I may have an understanding why this is so. For one thing, women of that beauty tend to have european kickboxing champions for lovers, named Surge. Secondly, the general rule is that the more attractive the woman, the higher her standards are. In some cases, people wrongly assume that a "queenie" of such beauty have such high egos, that they are nothing but witches and demand the world without giving anything in return. Finally, there is the fear of sexual harassment for even asking a woman out in the first place. Zero fun.

It could be possible that your personality needs some work. Either you like being around wackos or you just don't have much to bring to the table for men. I will not judge without meeting you in person. Meeting a man is easy, real easy.

The challenge is having a positive reaction

malekoniky · Accepted Answer

I am not worthy to advice you, but I would regret if I didn't speak.

I am one od men you speak of. And it's hell. I hate myself for that. And I don't speak of it, because I would seem weak.

Meet guys online, so they won't see you. Maybe it'll help a bit.

I regret being myself. I am so sorry.

malekoniky · Answer

I am so sorry. ... so sorry.

Gregs · Answer

I am yet to meet an attractive woman with the same problems as you, maybe you suffer from some uber hotness that is beyond anything I can imagine, or, maybe you are just f***ed up in the head and attract what you deserve with your attitude and thoughts

TheWhiteFreshPrince · Answer

What types of places do you meet these types of people?

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Unusual.

Anonymous · Answer

You are so full of it.  No guy I know would ever reject a hot girl.  Besides, being hot has nothing to do with anything.  As long as you have a vagina, you can get laid.  What's really going on here?

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