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Virgin till marriage, guys reject me a lot!
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so I'm 20 and I want to wait till marriage to have sex. I'm really pretty and I get asked out a lot and have had many bfs...but usual things tend to end badly... I tend to tell guy about my virginity within the first few days and they usually are shocked some will break up with me after that by a few days others will try to pressure me and ill end up breaking up with them. I'm starting to feel really badly about it. I don't understand why I can't find a guy OK with my virginity... :( what am I doing wrong...?
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What Girls & Guys Said
13 27Those guys are just after one thing and if they leave you, you're better off without them. I personally support your decision.
It's not you, it's them.
You should go out with a shy guy, he most likely wouldn't mind and would probably treasure you with all his heart lol.
lol that's what I do.. shy boys are the best.
Haha, glad you agree. :)
I'm 23 and a virgin. Not necessarily waiting until I get married, but for the right person. I think sex should be special. You should really have a deep emotional connection with the other person.
looking for guys in the wrong places.
Look for a virgin guy, it would be much easier if the guy was a virgin as well so that he would know you are waiting for marriage.
Nothing. stay like that, I would love to find another virgin =(
Girl it's their loss, you're not doing anything wrong it's your decision.
You are not doing wrong. I come from china and in our country Virgin till marriage is important. In my opinion It`s represent respect and honest that a girl to a guy who she loved. Don`t be cheat by some guys. Love is not just for sex. Wait and believe that a nice guy would be find you! (My English is not very well so if I have some phraseology mistake forgive me :-) )
There's nothing wrong with what you are doing.
Being pretty has nothing to do with getting a boyfriend these men just aren't attracted to you. You can blame it on being a virgin all you want but it really most likely is not that my guess is you have a personality they don't like
Firstly well done to you! just hang in there :)
Probably, you should work on your radar to notice such men. These men like you, are of course an extreme minority but naturally they have characteristics and values that are miles apart from the majority of the average men. Especially those whom are good looking buy yet resisted to have sex when it is so easily available to them and at their disposal! Women throwing themselves to such men, buy eventually within a short period of time these women will dump him when she realizes he is "different".
These men exude a certain integrity,charisma, resilience and are genuine in speech and at upholding to promises, for example they have the same confidence as most players or Alpha males do, but without the cockiness and suave smooth tactics to swoon women off their feet. Reason being that their ulterior motives are not to get the women in bed or how she looks like naked (though he does imagine about it once in a while). Their motives are to love and respect her as a women, in turn being shown the same and hopefully chooses the women to be the mother of his kids. These men, will also expect the same characteristics from his women as well, so it has to work both ways.
Simply put it "Love is nothing without trust and respect, else it is just lust". Think about it.
Such men and women are like precious metals and gems! Good luck to you in identifying one!
same for me! although I never say it that early in a relationship... my friend did however and in the beginning the guy seemed to back off but then he changed his mind-- I guess he was too into her ;)
u just aren't meeting the good ones :)
What you're doing wrong is that you are waiting for marriage in a world where marriage is not necessary. In fact, the only reason to be married is to have your taxes lowered. If you need a materialistic certificate to prove that "Yes we were in love here" then your views on this question are really strange, or at least way too outdated.
The problem is that I really doubt you could bring up ANY valid reason to why you should keep your virginity until marriage. But I can certainly give you a few reasons why it's a bad thing if you figure out things only after the deal with the devil has been signed.
Marriage is not necessary? What difference it made 100 years ago? You didn't even have your taxes lovered I think. Money is not why marriage was ever necesary! It is still as necessary as before! Only values of society changed so it seem not to. Benefits are there now as they were before. Not in money but somewhere else. But they are great!
Yeah I know, commitment and blah blah blah. Just because people are forced to be together by a piece of paper and the money and drama it would take to break it, well it doesn't seem all that necessary. If I love someone, I can love her without being married to her. And just because I am married I won't necessarily love her. Apparently you can be happy without being married and be unhappy with being married. Marriage is a pointless restriction for pussies, essentially. It's just "symbolic".
*shrug* if you are a virgin and you're waiting til marriage, then don't place so much emphasis on meeting someone so quickly... give it some time and you'll find that high quality sexy successful and confident guy who sees sex like you do
they are an extreme minority but trust me... guys like that? they KNOW their value and won't settle for wana be good girls. they want the real thing. so keep holding out
and best of luck
Sweet heart,tell them to gtfo if they don't like that,im 20 this june and I'm a virgin.
I could careless,guys like that doesn't deserve a minute From your time.