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What does it mean if a guy puts your hand on his.....
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If you kiss a girl and then move your hands around her body then put her hand on you penis {Very gently - not like forcing it}. Does this mean you want her to just experiment? Do you want a hand job? Is it a way of asking of it is OK to have sex? Would you ever do it as a reflex response, without thinking?
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I am worried like that guy said - it was rude. He did it in a very gentle way, so I was not feeling physically pressured... But I would not want him to assume I'm fine for anything... We have kissed. We never had THAT interaction . Thoughts help- Thanks
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Would any of you expect someone that you respected to do something that soon ? Would you even try that with someone you respected? Why would he not be concerned with my impression ... I suppose he may not know I have never had sex... Seems forward.
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What I want to know is if you guys think this is disrespectful... We spend lots of time together but he usually seems careful NOT to touch me. Maybe I gave him an impression I did not intend. It is just strange - I wonder if he thinks / feels differently?
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Oh! I forgot , it was on top of his jeans - if that makes a difference...
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For the guy who said it is disrespectful - I do not necessarily disagree... Does that mean you ask if you can place your hands where you wish to put them ? Everyone, feedback would be great, as this is someone I would otherwise like. Thank You.
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I know I can figure things out on my own, but I am asking for other perspectives... Do you think it is disrespectful for a guy to put your hand on his crotch if you guys had known each other for a while but had not been physical since a 9 months ago?
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Ok. complicated, going to sound supremely stupid but he had just offered to have sex - because he thought I wanted it, he misinterpreted my meaning. I did not respond because I thought he was joking, so when we were kissing, he might have thought...
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Someone wrote that nine months is a long time to wait... Sorry for the confusion. Went out nine months ago,for two weeks - had to travel...Then we just started kissing for the first time a couple of days ago, and other stuff... BTW -answer helped.!
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SkinnerOne.Well, I don't think obsessed ... I want to make sure I do not blow the wrong things out of proportion. I have a lot of curiosity and little experience. I would rather stress out about it before hand {Pun not intended}
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SkinnerOne I was not raised with a particular religion or faith... I have always believed in humanity and justice. It is very important for me to do things based on reason, and I am careful to about respect- both giving and receiving - even a HJ
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21 25He's waving a flag asking you to be sexual with him. I wold never do this as it seems more rude than manly.
If we were already sort of making out is it still rude? I mean I think I see what you are saying. Especially since if he THOUGHT about it he would have to be aware of the fact that I do not know what that means.... I stopped everything {calmly } Had I known he did not mean sex, or that he was presumptous, I may have stayed... But I am not that experienced and I was a little surprised.... Is it possible a guy would do it instinctively without thinking? Do any of you think it disrespectful?
Just disrespectful, it takes trust not instinct.. my feelings on it anyways