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What's wrong with being a slut?
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I say this as a person who is NOT a slut. I've had a few sexual partners but all in all, I really only do relationships, and monogamy. However I have friends who like to hook up, and they get so much crap for it, when they are not even hurting anyone. If you use condoms (or just make out and not have sex), don't hurt anyone, and don't sleep with guys who have girlfriends, what's wrong with being slutty? I feel like girls especially, give so much hate to these women, who really aren't doing anything bad to them. Maybe it's not how you would like to live your life...but it's no different than choosing any other life choice, like being a vegetarian or eating meat. And a lot of the girls who hate "slutty" girls hook up with guys themselves as well. Is it all just jealousy, or is there some sort of evolutionary psychology behind all of this? Afraid that they're stealing all the men? What's going on? I am so sick of girls giving other girls a hard time just for being in college and having fun. It makes all females look terrible. And if "only guys" hook up, who are they hooking up with, other guys? Girls do it just as often!
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35 58i think it all boils down to this STOP TELLING PEOPLE YOUR BIZ BOUT WHO UR FUCKIN UNLESS You WANNA BE LABELED AS A SLUT
I agree, and since we are allowed freedom of speech I'm pretty sure we're allowed to give our opinion on the subject lol. I don't think 'sluts' are wrong or right though.
You'll hear very few men complain about sluts, i.e. women who enjoy lots of sex, possibly with different men. The only time you do is when you're talking about a cheating girlfriend or wife or something. But you're not gonna hear men say "damn! I wish women didn't enjoy having sex so much!"
The people who complain about sluts are other women. The only other responder to your question at the time of my writing this phrased it as a market problem, which I think is correct. Women are the "suppliers" of sex and men are the "consumers" of sex. Suppose I as a guy want sex, and there are two women, woman A and woman B. Woman A wants me to buy her drinks and clothes and other sh*t while woman B only requires that I be polite and nice to her. Obviously I'm going to go with woman B because she requires much less effort. Woman A will then call woman B a "slut" and call her easy just because she didn't require drinks and other stuff to have sex.
You're right, women who actually like sex aren't hurting anyone, and yet often get a bad reputation, and writing as a guy, I love women who love sex. They're a lot more fun than the women who make you jump through hoops and don't even like it.
By the way, you don't have to tell us you aren't a slut. If you're in a committed relationship, cool. But we guys won't judge if at some point you're not in a relationship, and like going around having carefree sex with different men.
I have a ton of sex with my boyfriend, I guess the only thing that makes me not a slut is I can't separate sex from emotions so I can only do it in relationships. But I do love it.
I don't think the definition of a slut is a woman who can separate emotion from sex, that is, just because a woman may have lots of sex outside a committed relationship does not mean that she does not feel emotion just as intensely as you.
True but if you can't separate sex from emotion it's probably not a good idea to have sex outside of a relationship because you will get hurt...so I'm saying the girls who usually do that can separate sex from emotion, or they just keep making mistakes.
Maybe. But to go back to your original question of 'what is wrong with being a slut?', I still say nothing is wrong with it, and the only people who have a problem with 'sluts' are other women. I love sluts :)
Society generally doesn't like them for some reason.
You are so correct and have discovered the fallacy of the slut myth. A lot has been written about it. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with it. Women are more cruel to each other with this. and men stigmatize women as sluts cause they are too coward to admit that they can't and will never have the power women have over men. there is a great book called yes are you ready "CU_n_t" look it up and it's a great read and a real eye opener for women and men. it is about the true liberation of women when they stop beating on themselves. you win the prize and have discovered the ultimate double standard.. now you have to do something about it and make others more aware too.
being a slut is different form being bi ...
what you are referring to in the end of you question is bisexual ...
being slut is really better for me than being bi ,
and yeah it just ruins the girl reputation because other guys who want real commitment and long term relationship won't trust her not to cheat on them ...so that's the deal you want find anyone to trust you being his girlfriend ...
put in your mind that STDs is not solves just by putting a condom on a penis then its over ...it take much effort than being so simple like that ...
Nothing at all wrong with being a slut as long as you stay safe. Doesn't hurt anybody and your getting more sex, some good some not so good and once in a while some ultra great sex.
I guess that it depends on who you ask, and is it just a matter of being a slut? or are there other deep seated emotional issues which are causing the promiscuous behavior. Seems to me that there would have to be something causing the sexual obsession. I like sex, but my world doesn't revolve around it.
im not slutty but I don't hate them.i think those people have big time confidence is all which is attractive.more of this girls are just jealous..
Slut is just a sexist term. Nowadays it should have no worth to a girl...because guys are bigger "sluts" then women are...So I would just ignore comments like that. If a person is highly sexually active...whats wrong with that?
I have no problem at all with women who love to f*** men and so receive the label 'slut'. I would immensely enjoy being in the arms and vagina of a slut because she could teach me things I'm sure don't know. That possibility for me, though, is gone because I'm taken for life by someone else. You're correct they do not deserve the rejection and negativity they receive.
I would rather you have sex with me than a bunch of guys I don't like very much. But that's my attitude problem.
Well first of all like I say to every one of these "its not fair doublestandard" questions, guys and girls are not the same. Guys have to work hard for sex, girls don't, thus its not the same, not to mention the difference in the act.
Anyway I think girls probably get p*ssed because most guys will probably go for the girl that looks the easiest which means any girl that doesn't put out loses her chance to meet the guy. This is usually how it SHOULD go. A girl and guy meet, obviously the guy wants sex, but in search of that he will get to know her and like/ love her in the process of her making him wait, which in turn earns his respect. Yea you're really not hurting anyone but yourself by being a slut, and if you don't think having multiple partners affects somebody, you're very ignorant.
In general girls will always talk crap about each other, its just a usual way of behavior.
Using the logic that ur in college and "having fun" is utterly stupid, and I wouldn't compare opening your legs for a bunch of guys the same as what you eat.
I about 50% agree with you.. some might argue that " A girl and guy meet, obviously the guy wants sex, " isn't true. maybe he loves her and he wants to share that experience with her? also it could be the girl who wants sex. and 100% agree: "In general girls will always talk crap about each other" lol
Well everyone knows that both guys and girls want sex but for guys its almost like a need. Why else do you think most guys approach girls, your jokes aren't funny... (bit of humor, anyway). I don't think its very reasonable assumption though for a guy to "want to share the experience with her" since I know guys, and that just isn't us, trust me we're simple. And yea you girls can be really nasty to each other.
i don't think there's anything wrong with it. Usually its determined by how many guys a woman has slept with. But from what I've seen many girls that dressed slutty or were slutty had many meaningful and loyal relationships... they just happened to have a long string of friends with benefits before hand. Some girls like to dress slutty... and to the guys that label them "sluts" come on... they like what they see... and there's nothing wrong with your girlfriend dressing like that if it makes her feel sexy and wanted. What's there to hate or complain about, if she's not cheating on you, or playing mind games with you... whats the problem
There is nothing wrong with it, it is just looked down upon by the male community as a double standard ... Guys = 10000000000 sex cells ... Girls = 1 at a time ... that's why for men its okay to sleep around and women it isn't because of that tremendous waste that occurs once in a month vs. me blowing my load whenever I feel like it and populating the world 10000x over.
Sluts spread STD and set a poor example for my children (I wouldn't want my children to be sluts one day). Also, I don't like the idea of sex becoming a sport. It's one of the most intimate relations you can have with someone you are attracted to and have feelings for and I don't like the idea of it being exploited.
However sluts are not completely bad.
They come useful in the sense when men need psychological alleviation from their problems and wouldn't want to "use" a date for it.
In a summary, there is a good and a bad to everything. However, I would place a slut under the rug of the society and not part of it.
I have thought about this a lot lately. Usually, girls who have sex a lot are associated with having less self worth, so guys see these women and assume all women are this way and other girls who don't want just sex end up getting hurt by these guys. Yes, technically it is the guys fault, but what made him think this way? also, what if a promiscuous girl told her husband about how crazy she was back in the day? guys hate to think that the women they're sleeping with has slept with some many guys before. it's just part of there ego. That's why I think.
i hear ya but answer this one:(
I don't think anything is wrong with it. I love sluts.
Oh dear god..
Funniest answer. Also the most laconic.
i don't believe for a second that this is coming from a person that is NOT a slut
More than guys, it's usually other girls who call themselves sluts. Can't women stick together a bit more?