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Why do guys say they NEED sex for intimacy, as if they have no conscious decision making power in the matter?
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Why do men keep saying they need sex for intimacy? its one thing if they do not want intimacy period - but if they want intimacy , why do they limit themselves to sex. is it just a ruse for more sex? if you recognize that you want intimacy than why do not you try other kinds of intimacy. the argument you are taught this or that growing up, has little loses credibility , as you are in the present consciously aware you want intimacy now, not when you were 10.. so why is it just with sex? unless.. of course you do not want intimacy or you really ONLY want it in sex, it is not that you CAN only experience intimacy through sex, it is that you only WANT to experience intimacy with sex. I think its an excuse to get more sex.. It is a sort of passive aggressive way f getting sex, oh poor me , its what I have been taught, its what I am pressured with by society--I can only feel close through sex- f*** me now so I am not lonely. if I want sex I can jerk off I do not demand a guy is my sex outlet 24/7 .. just like guys do not NEED sex to feel intimacy, they just use it as an excuse. EWven IF yuo are truy accustomed to ONLY feeling comfortable feeling intimacy through sex.. you could always TRAIN yourselves to experience it through other outlets. so either you really do not want to feel close, or you only want to feel close through se, but it is not a need, you have numerous ways you can feel close to people. IF you do not, you CHOOSE not to? so I want to know why you narrow your options for intimacy..
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This question is ONLY about people saying SEX is the ONLY way that they can experience closeness in a relationship. forget I said men and stop telling me sex is important. And stop saying I hate men. I never said it was not. And this question applies to any PERSON male or female, who insists sex is the ONLY possible means of emotional connection--as an excuse for sex, NOT sex itself.
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What Girls & Guys Said
4 24For me at least sex is important because to me it signifies more than sex. I am a physically affectionate person, its just how I feel most comfortable expressing emotion as I often feel words don't do justice. In the same way it makes a difference when my partner then rejects me physically as in some way it feels like I am being rejected emotionally. This is of course is fine every once in a while but if my partner continues to reject me it can lead me to feel like they don't care about me or want me with them anymore. I don't like casual sex, I tried it a few times and it leaves me feeling incredibly empty inside. On the other hand I love sex in a relationship because it is a way that I feel I can connect to my partner and it helps me to feel validated and secure in the relationship. As guys we often don't experience a lot of casual physical touch growing up, furthermore it can be hard for us to feel connected emotionally only through other channels of communication. So yes sex is super important, but for guys with healthy (not-toxic) masculinity and a decent level of emotional maturity its important for way more than physical pleasure. It is a NEED in a relationship but that is because healthy sex isn't just physical, it is a deeply vulnerable and emotional connection which is honestly incredibly hard to replicate in any other way.
Im a female and sex is very important for intomacy reasons as well as aboit 100 other reasons.
thare dumb
What the hell are you even talking about? Seeing as you think "jerk off" is an adequate substitute for sexual intimacy, I don't think you even understand what intimacy is. A relationship with sex as the only intimacy is a friends-with-benefits situation, not a romantic one, so again, I don't know what you're talking about.
right you don't understand. I hear many men say the ONLY way they can experience intimacy- that they supposedly want- is through sex,. so they starve the relationship of affection EXCEOT during sex. so the women will want it more. i used masturbation as an example of me not trying to manipulate guys into fulfilling a need I can take care of myself. guys try the I need sex physically which does not work because we know we can all wank.. so they do the I can only get affection through sex. its a lie.