Why people are so scared of STDs?

[YourFutureEx]

I've heard (irl) and read (here) a lot of opinions that I won't sleep with random people because of STDs

I mean just put on condom and have a blast! Why so scared? (IF the reason is STDs, not love or something)

[Esplorare]

I'm one of those people who refuses to sleep with random people because of STD's. No offense, but STD's are disgusting and problematic. They physically look so nasty; sometimes they involve blistering and puss. I still remember those pictures from health class! As a woman, some STD's can prevent you from being able to deliver your child naturally because you could risk exposing an innocent baby to genital warts. Not only that, but they're supposed to be uncomfortable stinging, burning, and itching. They decrease the health and appearance of your genital. Personally, I just don't think they're worth momentary bliss that I'm sure I could easily find elsewhere.

Not only that, but I find nothing appealing in being used like a fleshlight with a heartbeat. One night stands are SO sleazy and gross to me. I don't like the idea of waking up in an empty bed or knowing that some girl he's actually dating will probably kiss his lips a few days later and my vaggie had been all over them. Just not my thing AT ALL.

[YourFutureEx]

Very good. I must say, very good. Thanks for your time :)

[Esplorare]

@Asker You're welcome :)

[CocoRachelle]

Condoms don't protect from all STDs, such as genital herpes (during an outbreak). And herpes are for life...
Plus if the condom breaks or something, there is a chance of pregnancy. I don't want to risk those things unless I love the guy.

[YourFutureEx]

If you love the guy, could you risk herpes?

[CocoRachelle]

Probably. When I'm in love, I'll let you know for sure. ;)

[bubble_tea]

Some STDs can be past on even when you wear a condom, but those STDs won't kill you.

I think it's the stigma they're scared of once they contract STDs, they're not really scared of the STDs that are curable.

[ClauseViter]

Dude take a step back and just recognize how disturbing it's gotta be to have VD. Just google some images and you'll understand. And even furthermore a lot of those pathogens can be reoccurring or life long diseases you have to live with. Imagine the last time you had the flu, it's like the worst 2 weeks of your life all you do is wait for the horrible hindrance to go away. Imagine if you never get that elated sense of gratitude. Nope instead you have aids for the rest of your life. Now I'm not saying to be afraid your whole life about this. But it is something you should be aware of and something you should definitely be conscientious of.

[YourFutureEx]

Very good 👏

[HandsomeRaj]

1. It's a good thing to be scared of STDs and anything similar
2. Prevention is better than cure, better safe than sorry etc applies to it alright
3. Most STDs are passed on through semen, blood & vaginal secretions while there are those that can be passed on by kissing, cuts (blood) etc
4. Some are lucky to get away from unprotected sex while others are not
5. Women generally are more affected by STDs than men www.cdc.gov/.../STDs-Women-042011.pdf

[YourFutureEx]

If you check my update and the condoms' success ratio (98%) the risk is extremely scanty.

[HandsomeRaj]

I agree but there are times when things happen while you least expect it and one isn't expected to carry condoms all the while (especially women for various reasons) :) hence, the scare. Also that chances of condoms breaking is fairly good too especially when the guy lasts forever, has happened with me innumerable times :) Not an argument or debate but those who are scared of STDs are rightly so, I'll leave them to that :)

[bombamboum]

I really don't know. When you're careful and know how to use condoms, you're probably safer than a person who only has one partner but doesn't do test and give up condoms early and based on trust.

[YourFutureEx]

Exactly! You stole my words.

[NearlyNapping]

It's not about being scared. It's just prudent.

I also fully admit I just find it a huge turn off. Healthy is appealing and attractive, unhealthy is not.

[YourFutureEx]

Of course. :)

[Peter0]

Well, it's not like condoms don't break etc.

It's a risk/benefit thing. If you're risk-averse and the other person's not super hot... maybe not worth it :p

I know I'd want to be v careful, but then, I plan to live to 90 ;)

[YourFutureEx]

Haha good one :) Well, the problem is, those are super hot ;)

[jacquesvol]

I haven't had one condom breaking in my whole life. That seems to happen mainly to others.

[Hannah591]

Yeah, I'm not too scared tbh. Condoms work fine.

[YourFutureEx]

I think people are inferior of casual sex, that's why nobody agreed with me.

[cavmanier]

They're good for protecting against hepatitis and hiv but they don't do much for the two most common diseases: hvp and genital herpes. I'm not trying to kill your mood. It's just true and I've heard a lot of stories from people that got a disease.

[YourFutureEx]

@cavmanier - Actually, it killed my mood yesterday. I was about to do it next month but now, I'm getting afraid :( I am getting weird thoughts of waiting till marriage now :/

[cavmanier]

It's just a gamble. It's unfortunate some people end up with them. You'll figure out if the risk is worth the reward. I just wanted to help inform you about the risk.

[Bandit74]

@YourFutureEx You could take the middle path. Instead of getting into a relationship or having one night stands you could fine a friends with benefits and just make sure she gets tested before you sleep with her.

[YourFutureEx]

@Bandit74 Thanks for the advice but girls are not like that here :/ and I am not even that skilled.

[Bandit74]

@yourfutureex Oh for some reason I thought you lived in the US :/ so they're cool with one night stands but not friendswithbenefits?

[YourFutureEx]

@Bandit74 I had some but that was just luck. 99%+ are uncomfortable with casual things. Great hunting skills, metro city and a little bit luck is required. Otherwise, the key is to impress a girl, get laid and then show apathy afterwards. She'll say that things are not going good and she'll break-up. I think we are annoying hannah 😅 I'll post similar question and you can participate if you're interested :) I'll invite you.

[MadeInAmerica]

Because nobody wants to have something if they can prevent it. Condoms help but it won't protect you 100 percent. I don't want to be putting myself at risk just for a lousy piece of dirty trash then wait for something clean.

[YourFutureEx]

Actually, the chances of infected partner is already very scarce in first place. And risks are always be there in every aspect of life. And condoms are 98-99% effective.

[MadeInAmerica]

Ok then more infected pussy for you then. You can have it.

[ThisDudeHere]

I think people who say that they don't want to sleep around because of STDs just don't want to admit that they can't get laid so they use such a pathetic excuse.
Like me.

[YourFutureEx]

I am very glad for your honesty but I am sad because it's happening to you :/

[abundantlyrich]

Cos it's someone's Dis-Ease. :P Then that person is a haven for infested diseases

[YourFutureEx]

But.. but.. condoms?

[abundantlyrich]

Herpies can be contracted by touch :P

[YourFutureEx]

My career is in threat then :'(

[Prof_Don]

Because a condom doesn't prevent all STDs, bro. Are you a virgin?

[YourFutureEx]

I'm virgin, this year. Is any of the other STD permanent or serious?

[Prof_Don]

Plus STDs are gross, and some are permanent (like HIV, herpes).

[YourFutureEx]

But condoms can fairly protect from HIV?

[Prof_Don]

They do, but they're not 100% I'm not OVERLY paranoid about STDs, but I will always use a condom for added protection.

[YourFutureEx]

Thanks fella :)

[jacquesvol]

Asker, Yes condoms give a fair protection against hiv, but not if oral sex and an open apht or wound happen together : mucuous skin stops nothing and blood and sperm are main vectors. Dental dams are important and easy to make. (or if you mess with injection needles of course)

[YourFutureEx]

@jacquesvol - Thank you so much for the help 😇

[Bandit74]

Condoms don't protect from everything, sure it might not be a huge risk but I'm paranoid and would feel much better having the person get tested before I sleep with them.

[YourFutureEx]

Honesty at its best 👍

[cinderelli]

i would not risk my health for someone who could not keep it in his pants..

[YourFutureEx]

But the risk is extremely scanty.

[cinderelli]

no risk for my health.. ever..

[cavmanier]

Std rates aren't low. About 1 in 5 or 6 have genital herpes and even more have hvp. In the US at least

[cinderelli]

see.. that's really scary.. @cavmanier

[YourFutureEx]

Oh please stop @cavmanier 😩 😫 I cannot sleep tonight. My whole past will revolve inside my head.

[cinderelli]

one more thing.. @cavmanier is kissing risky too?

[YourFutureEx]

Personally, I believe so. Because herpes... but let's wait for expert's advice. :/

[cinderelli]

haha.. yes..

[cavmanier]

Yeah it can be. Yeah hsv 1 is common. Theree less risk from kissing though I think because there's no body fluid exchange.

[cinderelli]

hmm.. okay.. thanks.. :) @cavmanier

[YourFutureEx]

Thanks Cav :)

[meatballs21]

Some STDs can be transmitted even if you wear a condom.

[YourFutureEx]

Can or will? Are they serious?

[meatballs21]

You can have herpes, syphilis, warts or HPV in an area not covered by the condom.

[YourFutureEx]

Thank you so much for the information and insight guide. I'll do some research 😇 One question, are they permanent?

[meatballs21]

Depends on the STD. Herpes never goes away, for example.

[YourFutureEx]

Thanks again, fella :)

[Dandeus]

Condoms only reduce risk, they're not 100% effective. People get STIs while using condoms all the time.

[YourFutureEx]

Don't say all the time lol

[jacquesvol]

Some are difficult to heal
Some are impossible to heal
Some can make life hell
Some can make life end
Some are easily transmitted
Even condoms don't protect 100% against all of them.
That's why.

[YourFutureEx]

Sounds like a poem for December 1st :D

[jacquesvol]

Natural talent :D

[chuppachup]

I'd prefer my dick to stay attached to me, thank you very much.

[YourFutureEx]

Cool story bro 😎

[RainbowFanGirl]

Because of the stigma surrounding them.

[YourFutureEx]

So true :)

[VampireEmpress]

well, condoms don't protect against all of them them. but the only permanent ones are herpes and hiv, so I don't think they're a huge deal.

[YourFutureEx]

Herpes can transfer even if the person is using condom, no? 😱

[VampireEmpress]

yep, it can! but a lot of the new herpes is because of oral sex

[YourFutureEx]

Ohhh yeah 😎 Back to the question then, The chances are just ~1% and it is only if your partner is infected (which is a rare thing) so, why so scared?

[VampireEmpress]

I have no idea.

[VampireEmpress]

if your partner has a dormant virus, even staying with 1 partner won't always be safe anyway.

[YourFutureEx]

Thanks for the input :)

[jacquesvol]

So can syphilis.

[VampireEmpress]

@jacquesvol I think that's really rare.

[jacquesvol]

It's rare indeed: condom too short and the woman having a syphilis sore on the inner side of the labia can give a sore at the base of the penis.

[JCT666]

Condoms don't always work, unfortunately...

[YourFutureEx]

Actually, the chances of infected partner is already very scarce in first place. And risks are always be there in every aspect of life. And condoms are 98-99% effective.

[apexalpha]

one partner solves that STD bug

[YourFutureEx]

one clean* partner solves that STD bug

[apexalpha]

bingo

[YourFutureEx]

But isn't it tough?

[apexalpha]

understand my idioms YES

[Anonymous]

Because some STDs are fucking vile, and promiscuous people are spreading them like candy on Halloween.

[YourFutureEx]

Any kind of disease is vile.

[Anonymous]

Is this a serious question?

[YourFutureEx]

⬆One of the worst answer⬆

[Esplorare]

this answer is hilarious

[YourFutureEx]

@Esplorare Exactly! That's why the quality of GAG has been deteriorated because people are not here to answer and genuinely help people and they will post one sentence irrelevant answer and hunt for xper and then they will get support from the people like you. R. I. P. Old days.

[Esplorare]

@Asker Eh no offense, but I really don't think this is an example of how "the quality of GAG has deteriorated". I think your claim that risking a nasty, uncomfortable, painful, itchy STD that YOUR INNOCENT CHILDREN COULD CONTRACT for the sake of being used like a sex object sounds utterly ridiculous. Just sayin. You kinda gotta be realistic about how silly you sound saying that people should risk disgusting diseases so that they can be used for one night.

[YourFutureEx]

@Esplorare oh yes. Don't forget that an average girl has 4-5 sexual partners in her life. I'm the only one who is risking even if I'm trying my best for precautions huh. Ok. At the end of the day, if someone's beliefs, faith or lifestyle irks the other person or their comfort zone / cognition, he/she would be labelled as nasty for sure. Yeah.

[Esplorare]

@Asker There's a difference between having 4-5 partners in a lifetime who may have been boyfriends, serious boyfriends, fiancés, or husbands. It's different to get to know someone over time and know for a fact that they do not have STD's vs known someone for several hours before deciding to gamble getting an STD. Condoms are not going to protect you from STD's. No offense but if you carry that attitude then you're going to wake up one morning and it's going to burn when you pee. No one mentioned people "being labeled as nasty for their beliefs, faith or lifestyle irks the other person or their comfort zone / cognition"

[YourFutureEx]

@Esplorare Honestly, I agree with you but you diverted from the first statement I made, if you mind look at it.

[Esplorare]

@Asker which first statement are you referring to?

[Anonymous]

Condoms aren't 100% protection. Don't you read the box? Why risk it. I don't wanna live the rest of my life with a disease and possibly pass it on to my future kids. A person can have as much sex having only one partner.

[YourFutureEx]

99 isn't that low, no? And you'll have to worry from that 1% only if your partner is infected which is also a rare thing.

[Opinion Owner]

Actually it's 98%, so you have to worry about the 2%. And don't forget diseases that can be transmitted through suliva or by giving oral. That makes it a higher risk because it can't be prevented by condoms. Unless you give oral through condom which still doesn't completely protect you. STIs that you can get from oral alone: Herpes Ghonorrea Hepatitis A, B, C Syphilis Chlamidya Genital warts So no, these for me is not 'low'

[Opinion Owner]

STDs*

[YourFutureEx]

How about 'Update'?

[Opinion Owner]

Who has sex and doesn't do oral? Lmao If that's the case, and all you're looking for (let's assume you're a woman for the sake of the argument) is a quick pole fuck, then shove a dildo in there. One night stands aren't all that really. The one thing that makes one night stand appealing is the anonymity. But the sex, most likely mediocre and or disappointing. I won't risk my health for that.

[YourFutureEx]

Well, oral is kinda mandatory for women only.

[Opinion Owner]

some like to give it too. I think it's fun so why would I have a half ass sex when I can have it all the way with a partner 😉

[YourFutureEx]

Haha you're right but hey, that's off-topic for this question. Thanks for your time and input :)