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Why Is Virginity Important?
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First off,i am 16 years old and a virgin.But I've always wondered,why is virginity important.Here's my thought,or opinion,everyone is born a virgin,virginity isn't something to be proud of or ashamed of because it isn't an accomplishment,it's just a natural part of life.Being a virgin doesn't make someone a better person,just as having sex doesn't make someone a better person.And in my personal experience,although I am a virgin,i notice some virgins[not all] have this "holier than thou" mentality,as though they are better than those who have had sex.I don't look down on people who have sex,i say as long as you're educated about safe sex,use protection and understand the consequences,then go right on ahead,of course there are certain circumstances that don't include what I'm saying.I'm not trying to push my views on other people,if that's what it sounds like,nor am I judging others for their sex lives or virginity,as I am one.I understand everyone has different views on sex,virginity and premarital sex,but I'm just wondering,why is virginity so important?
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What Girls & Guys Said
19 19It makes possible the WHOLE gift of self to my future wife.
Look girl I was 15 years old having a baby so I'd actually admire people like u. my life was completely jacked up. my teenage years all destroyed so you know what enjoy ur life and don't mind other people judging you. there're only bringing their own insecurities onto you think of it that way.
In my opinion, it's only important to people who care about their future (especially if it's not safe sex). I honestly don't understand the whole "you're a bad person if you have sex before marriage" mentality (because in this day and age it seems like fewer and fewer people actually care), I just personally think you're really foolish if it's unprotected and you seriously care about your future, but as long as you can handle the consequences, I don't see anything horribly wrong with it.
Also a virgin by the way.
I really like that question. You see, its not that virginity is a must but its for your own good. Why am I saying this? its because if you should break your virginity at this age no police man will get you arrested but for the sake of your future husband. It has been the dream of every man to marry a virgin. You might not marry the one who broke your virginity and for that matter you need to keep your virginity until you find the one you want to marry. I don't think you would like to marry a man who has slept with almost all the girls he knows. Please even though its not a must, you have to keep it for your future husband.
I hope am making lots of sense here? Think about it very carefully
>It has been the dream of every man to marry a virgin. No it isn't. I'm a man and I don't dream about marrying a virgin.
Well, there's the obvious reason that men don't get pregnant. That aside? I always liken it to consumerism. If people protected their own daughter's virtue, as well as Walmart protects a DVD? There wouldn't be 8 billion people, or waves of unwanted immigrants storming any country's border. It's actually hard to get into a gallon of iced tea, but relatively easy to get into a young lady's pants. I'm not making any moral judgements mind you, just staying the facts as they are
It's not that sex is bad, It's just the fact that for MOST girls, emotion and sex are tied together. It's hard to separate the 2 and women can't help but feel attached to and a need to the guy they had sex with. It's more of a way of preventing emotional baggage, because when you have sex with someone it's harder to break up with them, especially your first due to all that emotion you feel during sex. I don't know what it's like for guys but for girls it's something that could hurt your self esteem because you can't control what you're feeling.
Good point.Other than saying "It's special" or a "gift" you've made an excellent point...other people just said "it's special yadda yadda"
Thanks, yeah I thought the same thing. Yes you can say it's a gift but that doesn't really explain why it's important or risky. I thought this would make more sense.
>It's not that sex is bad, It's just the fact that for MOST girls, emotion and sex are tied together. It's like this for most guys too - though in many cultures, we're expected to hide it. It's hard to say whether sex is more or less emotional depending on gender, though there's some medical research on oxytocin levels suggesting the differences are probably subtle.
Yeah, I read once that phycologically woman see sex as more of an emotional thing because their genitals are on the inside, and guys see it as more of a physical release because their genitals are on the outside. It's good to hear that guys can see it as an emotional thing too :D. A lot of questions I have read on here make it sound like sex doesn't make a difference for guys.
It isn't important.
And could you explain your opinion?(this is not a fact,an opinion rather)
It's an outdated concept. In the time before birth control and DNA testing, a man was never sure if kids were his. The only way to be certain was to marry a virgin. But that is an old and outdated concept now. Also, some guys like virginity in a girl because their jealousy is so intense, it can reach back through time, to the men she dated before him. This is what call the "OJ Simpson" sort of guy. The kind who will gut you like a fish if he can't have you. Guys this jealous are bad news.
well I never did the so called DO ,with a guy but I have had sex with girls .I'm not gay bisexual is what I am. I'm 18 and I would like a guy who I am married to .or am deeply in love with,to share that moment with .but I do not look at virgins or non virgins any kind of way .i mean sex is an expression of love .who's to say a girl who has 10 partners did not love all of them .and sex was her way of showing them she loved them,i mean sex is a bond and gift between to people who love each other .simple and as beautiful as that!
It's not in modern days but it was a big deal years ago when men and women were set up by their parents to be wed. At that time if a woman wasn't a virgin then it meant she was dirty as in she can't lose her virginity to only the man she is supposed to be destined for.
Your virginity is a gift... simple as that. Why give yourself and have sex with 15 other people and then marry someone who you (now) can't give your entire self, emotion, etc. to? You could possibly live in regret if you have sex too early. Risks are involved as well, unwanted pregnancy (which is serious), STD, and so on.
I'd be much more worth the wait to wait till you are married, because you can give your virgin self to your one and only. How would you feel knowing that someone saved themselves for you in a world where people frequently sleep around and all that? Its tempting, sexual desires are very strong and are frequently fulfilled nowadays with people just finding a casual sex partner where there's little/no emotion... But they overcame that desire and saved themselves for you where they can put all their love and emotion and self into you.
Tried to explain that as clearly as possible...
How would that make you feel if someone did that for you?
"Your virginity is a gift... simple as that." Excellent: if they had to do something to get it, the immense majority of "virgins" would be normal people.
What do you mean exactly about virgins being normal people?
im pretty much 16 and a virgin I can' t really answer your question but everything you said is what I've been searching for. thank you for sharing your views. I totally agree with you.
well I'm 16 and I'm a virgin
It's important because some people give it up too easily and without caring. Also, they give it up caring about someone and that relationship doesn't pan out, so they end up with someone else that knows that they cared enough about that other person to sleep with them. At some point, sex is just sex and doesn't matter, but being a virgin and sleeping with your virgin partner can create a special experience and romantic gesture that can't be matched. I don't know that it matters so much as it's something you might regret not being able to share with the one you end up with and love.