dude your sounds like a self centered person who doesn't care but his self and penis to make happy rather than taking~a~good~care of your girlfriend girls should be treated like a flowers to bloom beautifully and not sex object
but there's 2 type of a girl that could done this
1.the girl could be be also a IDIOT AND STUPID! I mean I don't know about your compliments and professions to make girls like you but yeah it was stupid enough to give pleasure without a huge reason
2. only slut would do that
..and your main question? I don't wanna dumb that girl if she doesn't give a B.J cause I well respect her decision and there's reason why she won't give
1.she may not ready because she's not a type of f*ck-hole women who would give a B.J for exchanged something
2.most good female are acting that like
3.she may have "Dome-O-Phobia " which scares of BlowJob phobia and stuff like that
and NOT all girls are using Dildos to f*cked with, Men and Women are huge differences you can see this Women here using a Dildo but deep down on her she's not like a Slutty type its only called fetish and fantasy and stuff like that just like you said right now "sex life"1 0 1 0What amazes me about all the girls answers is they view it so much like 'if I give oral you have to give oral back!" ... completely self centered
Girls I've dated would be more than happy to give me a blowjob if I wanted one without asking for anything in return, and because those girls aren't selfish like a lot of the ones who answered this question, I would treat them extremely well in many other ways. A girl that is good to a guy and doesn't do things ONLY TO GET THEM IN RETURN will stick out among her self centered competition.1 1 1 0
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I think its horrible to break up with someone for that reason. If your partner won't or hasn't given oral sex, talk to them about it. The thought that my ex may have pulled away and stopped every type of physical affection towards me b/c of no oral is heartbreaking and just shit. I had never done that before and he was my first boyfriend, so i was extremely nervous. There was no encouragement on his part, there was no conversation or anything done to help me feel less nervous. Also not acting as the favor would be returned or even doing it first is not good, that could help to turn the girl on and make me less nervous. Just like anything, there should be communication and a conversation about thoughts and feelings on this subject. To leave someone for not doing oral is shit. If you do not ask the person what is holding them back you miss out on good information. Maybe its just its the persons first time, or just nervous or whatever, but find out and help your partner thought that nervousness. I am really hoping my ex's change toward me in the end is not bc of that.
0 0 0 0As you said, receiving oral sex is a necessity of a good sex life - I believe the same, and a guy who doesn't like to give oral will bore & frustrate me in bed. And yeah, if a guy didn't give me oral, I would not be pleasuring him. To me, that's indicative of a larger problem - if you're selfish in bed, it's plausible that you're selfish out of the bedroom.
It's not like giving a guy head is all that amazing for a girl. It's work, it requires a lot more tiring back and forth head movement than a guy has to do when he goes down on a girl. It requires swallowing semen which has a much stronger taste than anything I taste like (and yes, I've tasted myself, so I don't get why guys struggle with it - try tasting semen, which can sometimes be very sour). So I'm not one of those sympathetic girls who would say you don't have to do that in a relationship. If you expect to receive blowjobs, you can put yourself out to return the favor, or else don't expect to be receiving any favors.8 0 0 0Also, to your own point, if it's so easy to achieve the same pleasure using a toy, you can just by a fleshlight. But you probably don't want to do that. Point is oral gives you a different kind of orgasm. Men and women both like receiving oral because for many of us it's a better orgasm (better than a handjob or toy). In turn, you probably prefer BJs to handjobs because BJs are better. So do you think its fair if a girl then says, you can just achieve orgasm by handjob so why bother with a BJ?
I don't necessarily think I'd break up with someone for not giving oral sex. I think I'd want to talk to them about why they don't want to and if there was anything we could remedy it. I would never pressure my partner to do something they weren't comfortable with. However, if they expected that I went down on them, but didn't want to return the favour, especially for a reason like "the taste and odor aren't all that", that probably wouldn't fly with me. (Honey, your penis doesn't taste like cotton candy either :P). I've gone down on girls so I know what it's like and it's not bad.
I think the main thing would be that, if someone wasn't interested in oral sex, I might feel like we're not very compatible sexually, and so we'd have to be REALLY compatible in the other areas of our relationship for me to overlook it completely.4 1 0 0
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49 28you should try flavored lubs and tasty trwats you can put on the vaginal area withour causeing infection. that way you get rid of the taste factor. if she showers before and then you use some kind of tatsy thing you might be more willing to give a women oral.
toys aren't the same as a mans tounge at all...and its more sexy and intimate...some women feel about oral the same way you do.
I wouldn't dump a man for not giving oral sex but id be dissappointed he doesn't have the sma ewilliness to try new things and pleasure me even tho its not his favorite thing. its one thing if you just aren't into into it but its another if you were forced to do a kid as a child and you just don't go there...
especially if your in a serious relationship
is it a hint you won't do things for me that enjoy just becaue they don't benifit you in someway. relationships are about sacrifices. some women might think that way.5 0 0 0How can you expect someone to do it for you if you won't do it for them? SELFISH!
2 0 0 0Nah I wouldn't dump the girl, because I'd feel that after time they would come around. And if I'm with her in the first place... it must be worth it.
2 0 1 0I don't think I would dump a guy at first, but I do think it would be a sign that we're not sexually compatible, so it might cause some problems down the road for me.
I can only get off through oral and I can't get myself off, so that would be an issue.
Not to mention I'd be a lot less willing to give HIM oral if he didn't even find it fun to please me. That seems selfish.
There's a difference between having a preference and just being lazy.
I want a guy who truly cares about my pleasure, it's not even the act itself, but the fact that he enjoys making me feel good and learning how to do it best.2 0 0 0i wouldn't dump him if he didn't but I would be happy if he did lol
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