Would you dump a girl for not giving oral sex?

[MartinIsAMartian]

I've never been with a chick who won't give oral,but I'm sure those girls exist somewhere.I would dump a chick would won't give oral,to me,it's just a necessity of a good sex life. But,I don't give oral sex.It isn't something I do,it isn't appealing or fun to me,the taste and odor aren't all that(even if the chick showers) it just isn't something I'm into.But I think it's dumb for a girl to dump a guy over that,because she has options,she could use a vibrator,dildo or whatever during sex,oral isn't a necessity for a girl. Guys,would you dump a girl for not giving you oral sex? Girls,would you dump a guy for not giving you oral sex? And if you aren't straight,you can answer,just pretend it says girl or guys,whatever your preference is.

[ModifyThis77]

dude your sounds like a self centered person who doesn't care but his self and penis to make happy rather than taking~a~good~care of your girlfriend girls should be treated like a flowers to bloom beautifully and not sex object

but there's 2 type of a girl that could done this

1.the girl could be be also a IDIOT AND STUPID! I mean I don't know about your compliments and professions to make girls like you but yeah it was stupid enough to give pleasure without a huge reason

2. only slut would do that

..and your main question? I don't wanna dumb that girl if she doesn't give a B.J cause I well respect her decision and there's reason why she won't give

1.she may not ready because she's not a type of f*ck-hole women who would give a B.J for exchanged something

2.most good female are acting that like

3.she may have "Dome-O-Phobia " which scares of BlowJob phobia and stuff like that

and NOT all girls are using Dildos to f*cked with, Men and Women are huge differences you can see this Women here using a Dildo but deep down on her she's not like a Slutty type its only called fetish and fantasy and stuff like that just like you said right now "sex life"

[Asailum]

What amazes me about all the girls answers is they view it so much like 'if I give oral you have to give oral back!" ... completely self centered

Girls I've dated would be more than happy to give me a blowjob if I wanted one without asking for anything in return, and because those girls aren't selfish like a lot of the ones who answered this question, I would treat them extremely well in many other ways. A girl that is good to a guy and doesn't do things ONLY TO GET THEM IN RETURN will stick out among her self centered competition.

[FirstL0ve]

I think its horrible to break up with someone for that reason. If your partner won't or hasn't given oral sex, talk to them about it. The thought that my ex may have pulled away and stopped every type of physical affection towards me b/c of no oral is heartbreaking and just shit. I had never done that before and he was my first boyfriend, so i was extremely nervous. There was no encouragement on his part, there was no conversation or anything done to help me feel less nervous. Also not acting as the favor would be returned or even doing it first is not good, that could help to turn the girl on and make me less nervous. Just like anything, there should be communication and a conversation about thoughts and feelings on this subject. To leave someone for not doing oral is shit. If you do not ask the person what is holding them back you miss out on good information. Maybe its just its the persons first time, or just nervous or whatever, but find out and help your partner thought that nervousness. I am really hoping my ex's change toward me in the end is not bc of that.

[CuriousChick]

As you said, receiving oral sex is a necessity of a good sex life - I believe the same, and a guy who doesn't like to give oral will bore & frustrate me in bed. And yeah, if a guy didn't give me oral, I would not be pleasuring him. To me, that's indicative of a larger problem - if you're selfish in bed, it's plausible that you're selfish out of the bedroom.

It's not like giving a guy head is all that amazing for a girl. It's work, it requires a lot more tiring back and forth head movement than a guy has to do when he goes down on a girl. It requires swallowing semen which has a much stronger taste than anything I taste like (and yes, I've tasted myself, so I don't get why guys struggle with it - try tasting semen, which can sometimes be very sour). So I'm not one of those sympathetic girls who would say you don't have to do that in a relationship. If you expect to receive blowjobs, you can put yourself out to return the favor, or else don't expect to be receiving any favors.

[CuriousChick]

Also, to your own point, if it's so easy to achieve the same pleasure using a toy, you can just by a fleshlight. But you probably don't want to do that. Point is oral gives you a different kind of orgasm. Men and women both like receiving oral because for many of us it's a better orgasm (better than a handjob or toy). In turn, you probably prefer BJs to handjobs because BJs are better. So do you think its fair if a girl then says, you can just achieve orgasm by handjob so why bother with a BJ?

[selfishstars]

I don't necessarily think I'd break up with someone for not giving oral sex. I think I'd want to talk to them about why they don't want to and if there was anything we could remedy it. I would never pressure my partner to do something they weren't comfortable with. However, if they expected that I went down on them, but didn't want to return the favour, especially for a reason like "the taste and odor aren't all that", that probably wouldn't fly with me. (Honey, your penis doesn't taste like cotton candy either :P). I've gone down on girls so I know what it's like and it's not bad.

I think the main thing would be that, if someone wasn't interested in oral sex, I might feel like we're not very compatible sexually, and so we'd have to be REALLY compatible in the other areas of our relationship for me to overlook it completely.

[Kaesch4]

you should try flavored lubs and tasty trwats you can put on the vaginal area withour causeing infection. that way you get rid of the taste factor. if she showers before and then you use some kind of tatsy thing you might be more willing to give a women oral.

toys aren't the same as a mans tounge at all...and its more sexy and intimate...some women feel about oral the same way you do.

I wouldn't dump a man for not giving oral sex but id be dissappointed he doesn't have the sma ewilliness to try new things and pleasure me even tho its not his favorite thing. its one thing if you just aren't into into it but its another if you were forced to do a kid as a child and you just don't go there...

especially if your in a serious relationship

is it a hint you won't do things for me that enjoy just becaue they don't benifit you in someway. relationships are about sacrifices. some women might think that way.

[Lesutho]

How can you expect someone to do it for you if you won't do it for them? SELFISH!

[Sephirothsekots]

Nah I wouldn't dump the girl, because I'd feel that after time they would come around. And if I'm with her in the first place... it must be worth it.

[aly-marie]

I don't think I would dump a guy at first, but I do think it would be a sign that we're not sexually compatible, so it might cause some problems down the road for me.

I can only get off through oral and I can't get myself off, so that would be an issue.

Not to mention I'd be a lot less willing to give HIM oral if he didn't even find it fun to please me. That seems selfish.

There's a difference between having a preference and just being lazy.

I want a guy who truly cares about my pleasure, it's not even the act itself, but the fact that he enjoys making me feel good and learning how to do it best.

[physicsphreak]

i wouldn't dump him if he didn't but I would be happy if he did lol

[peace-love-couture]

I'm a virgin and I've never had oral or vaginal sex,just masturbated.But the mouth has more bacteria than the vagina,so if you're willing to stick your penis in her mouth,vagina,kiss her and swap saliva with her...I don't see what the problem is going down on her,other than laziness or preference.

But,I would give a guy or girl oral sex,I wouldn't expect it though.If it was his preference then I can't force him.I mean,I'm sure I could live without an orgasm haha.I'd live

[samhradh_leannan]

It's not an automatic dealbreaker if a guy won't give oral sex, but it's something I would hope to work towards a compromise on. I love giving and receiving oral sex, and oral is the most foolproof way for me to get off, so I'd definitely miss it if I was with a guy who wouldn't do it. I'd hope that he would at least try it, but I wouldn't pressure him.

[cajundani]

talk about double standard...you would dump a girl because she is not into BJs but its not OK for her to dump you because you won't eat pussy?

Dude...Your **** has smells and taste too, what if it doesn't appeal to us?

You have options too...go Jack off!

I am bi sexual and oral is a big part of SEX in general.

I can't just have intercourse all the time, Sometimes oral isthe only way I can climax. So if you really want to please your woman or man...figure out how to at least pretend to like oral!

[eunikcorn]

i hate selfish people, i believe in reciprocity. im a pleaser but i want to be pleased too, i can't orgasm in penetration alone. im thinking to dump th guy that im dating because he said he dont eat pussy, i just told him get ready for sex that has no blowjobs. that thing reflects his character, that he is selfish and not putting enough effort. my 2nd boyfriend were 5 years together, he barely eat me out. at the time the relationship was falling apart, he really thought that eating me out very often can change my feelings for him (mind you, its not oral sex that made me change my feelings lol) .. my 1st and 3rd last boyfriend they dont have problems with oral sex. i dont have hygiene problems, and my relationship with them was very fair.

[chosensailor]

Slut

[AllyAnaBell]

Okay so honestly who do you think you are? "If she doesn't give me oral sex, then I'm gonna break up with her! But on the other hand...I won't give back the pleasure, because it's just gross."

Your d***, d***s in general don't taste that great...neither does the stuff that comes out of it. But we do it because we love pleasuring our partner. Grow up...if I'm willing to go down on you...you better be willing to go down on me.

You sound like a jerk.

[peace-love-couture]

No,offensive,but I think you need to grow up before telling him to grow up.Some guys do not enjoy oral sex,for many reasons,and they shouldn't be manipulated into liking it.You're getting so defensive and calling him names(it's you're btw),all he did was state his opinion.And you shouldn't give to expect

[AllyAnaBell]

When the heck did I need to use *you're?? And I know...but some girls don't like giving oral either? So it goes both ways.

[peace-love-couture]

If a person doesn't like giving oral,they shouldn't,and their preference doesn't justify anyone calling them names or degrading them

[volleyballgirl]

If he doesn't want to give it that's fine but he shouldn't expect her to if he wont

[CuriousChick]

It's right to tell him to grow up. To expect to receive something without giving in return is a very young attitude. Resorting to name calling might be juvenile, but telling him to grow up - perfectly acceptable. If he didn't want to give oral without expecting it, that's perfectly fine, but he does expect something, stating he would dump a girl for the same thing. Ridiculous and one sided.

[ravvo99]

Evangelina: He does sound like a jerk. Beyond that he demands oral sex out of his partner but doesn't give back to them? That's ridiculous. Anatomically the two bits are two sides of the same coin. The penis is a little basic tasting and the vagina is a little acidic, but they both secrete almost the same chemicals and are both covered in the same skin. Volume and rate of delivery may differ, but most of the big picture is exactly the same. she goes through the same thing he refuses to do.

[ravvo99]

And despite her doing exactly what he wont, he is unsympathetic to any woman who won't do for him what he refuses to do back? Its a hypocritical stand to take, and hypocrits can continue their lives as they wish but they must be willing to take the flack they earn by holding contradictory stands on issues.

[rocker-chicky21]

"It isn't something I do,it isn't appealing or fun to me,the taste and odor aren't all that(even if the chick showers)'' Obviously buddy, you have never sucked off a guy. Sorry to say but there are guys that have some pretty poor hygiene...so lots of guys don't smell or taste all that great down there either but a lot of girls just deal. You can't really expect to get and not give. I'd never break up with a guy for not giving me oral as long as he wasn't demanding oral from me. You don't deserve a girlfriend with that attitude.

[23tdmoss]

Yes he does trick

[anitababe]

well make a deal with her oral for oral? (:

maybe she doesn't like it for the same reason's you don't so... think of that

[polyglotmom]

Huh? Dude, you're not even making sense. You could say the same about a guy: that he could get the same out from a vagina. Bottom line, some people do and that's cool, others don't and that's also cool. You need to find someone with the same preferences or be accepting of the boundaries of someone you love. I think it's stupid to dump a person because they won't do it, because there's so much else to good sex. However, if you're unwilling to give, then you sure as hell have no right to insist on receiving.

For me, I wouldn't dump a guy for not giving because I'm not into oral sex, period. But I would def dump a guy who was insisting I do something I'm not comfortable with.

[katiesmuff]

Not only would I dump a guy for not going down on me, I have done it already. For me oral is very important for a great and fulfilling sexual experience. I know that no matter what I thought about a guy in every other thing that lacking oral sex would always be a thorn and a point of a potental problem. I found it better to end it and let him find his chick who doesn't like her pu**y eaten and I have no problem getting guys to go down on me. Yes I do return the favor, guess I have to call it a favor, but I actually love giving bj's.

[beans]

I'd dump anybody straight away who wasn't pleasuring me, because for me it's only sex and nothing else, I don't do relationships, therefore feel no obligation to help or put up with childish sh*t like 'it doesn't taste good so I'm just not going to do it to please her'. Grow up dude.

[madiocre]

Personally I would dump you for not giving me head so in all fairness I think you have your rights to dump someone for not giving you head.

I've heard some girls say they would happily give head but feel weirded out by having him down there. These are the one you would need to find for it to be fair. For many of us though ... We love a guy who is keen and good to us down there. I think it would be unfair if you were dating someone though and they weren't that keen but you convinced them anyway and you didn't return the favour.

[What-If]

I wouldn't dump a guy for not giving oral, but I would dump a guy who expected me to perform oral on him but wouldn't return it. That's pretty selfish IMO.

[ScorpioLuver]

my boyfriend says he would just try to convince her to by going down on her first to show her how good it can be.

[anynymoooooose]

about odor and taste, I've been with at least one girl who didn't taste bad at all. All the others had me thinking it was nasty. It was great when she didn't smell, it has a lot to do with diet and if she just cleaned herself. have her take a shower just before and you might enjoy it more. also shaving helps keep things tidy, though I'll admit I kinda like hairy too.

[Gregs]

I don't think id dump a girl straight out but it would put a big black mark for me so she would really need to bring it in other ways