Would you find this sexy or too slutty?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my boyfriend for about two years, we broke up and stayed really close and have slowly built up our relationship. My body type is size 4, 32DD breasts, kardashian booty, 26inch waist. I'm really aware of this glamor model type body because I model and get rejected at castings because my body type is "too sexy". I study medicine and do a lot of charity work so I dress modestly as by first impressions people assume I must be a bimbo. In my line of study and work I need people to trust me and take me seriously. My boyfriend sees me for who I am, he studies but he has "street cred". He's from a well to do family, faithful, honest, protective and a real man. He's my best friend and sees me for who I am and knows I rank compassion and intelligence above beauty so he's always reassuring me on those. My problem is that because I always get people commenting on my body etc I'm very sensitive of coming across as slutty even in front of my boyfriend. I can't help the way I look, I'll even wear my glasses at times I won't need them to draw attention away from everything else. You might say I should be comfortable with my boyfriend, and I am sexually but when it comes to parading myself I feel like I look like a pornstar. It's his birthday soon and I've had dance training but I've never danced in front of him (provocatively). We have odd special memories to little waynes mrs officer. Would it be hot if I dressed up as a slutty cop (stockings, lingerie under outfit and everything) and danced for him? I always wear sexy underwear as he's the only one who's ever going to be allowed to see it but won't this self absorbed exhibition of my sexual side turn him off instead?

[l-hedoniste]

To answer the easy question, which you asked: do it. You know your boyfriend well enough to know how to pull it off the way he likes it.

To answer the hard question, which you didn't ask: There's really no way to stop anyone--including your boyfriend--from judging you because of your body. It's a character issue; a shallow person will make shallow judgments for shallow reasons, a deep person will make deep judgments for deep reasons.

You can lead by example, you can attack stereotypes where you find them, but the best thing for you would be to live your life as best you can. The women you are will shine through to those who care to see it.

[rwildman23]

You should never have to apologive about being blessed physically. He is quite lucky to have a woman as beautiful as she is intelligent. I would venture to say that since he is able to deal with the obvious attention your body brings he would love seeing you embrace yourself and express your sexuality to him in the form of a sexy dance, or any other means of expression for that matter. It is fabulous when a woman feels confident enough to expose herself express her sexuality; especially when we are part of the reason you are doing so. Go for the dance and if you have a twin sister...lol.

[Anonymous]

u don't seem like a slut at all. and you sound rly rly pretty. If pple think ur a slut by just looking at you then they're perverts because all they think of is sex. But maybe if you don't want that impression wear cloths that don't bring attention to your huge boobs (Ur soo lucky btw I'm very jealous). and as for you bf, if ur attractive as you sound you will easily turn him on lol.

[Wonderbread131]

Would love to see what your taking about

[BabyJenks]

Hell go the whole hog babe, blindfold him and cuff him to a chair tell him he's been a very naughty boy and then whip the blindfold off and give him a dance! I'm sure he'll love it, don't worry about what anyone else thinks its just for you and him!

[aviationbound]

do it. if its for his eyes only. and he knows that. he will appreciate it. its yours and his alone time "fun"

[Izzy_M]

i think he'll love ur gift! from the way you described ur self no way he could be turned off

[Asker]

Don't guys get put off by that look? don't they like the subtle beauties? He's the one person who truly knows how much I adore medicine and my missionary work. I'd hate for him to forget all that when I'm gyrating in stockings on his lap!

[rosieeebaby]

Sweetie guys only claim that they go for the subtle beauties. besides, if he loves you for who you are then he'll never forget all you stand for just because you gave him a sexy bday present.

[Izzy_M]

That is true, he won't forget what you stand for, I think he'll fall for you more not because of the dance but because you actually did something that you would not normally do just for him..!! and I bet he'll remember it for ever!! which is a very good thing :) heheh :)

[charizzle]

They want the subtle beauty thing in public. but in private behind closed doors, they welcome the freaky sex kitten. honest.

[Asker]

So you don't think the dress up would seem tacky or unoriginal?

[Izzy_M]

To be honest I think it's every guys fantasy to have their girlfriend dress as a slutty cop or nurse ( I don't speak from experience) but I do have guy friends it's like their dirty fantasy =D and Charrizl is right !! To quote Ludacris "Lady in the street,A Freak in the bed" hehehe I hope that helps oh remember enjoy ur self it well show the most :):)

[whoppers12]

hell no not slutty that's your man girl! do it

[sumina7]

Does your boyfriend love you dressing sexy in the bedroom? Has he expressed his desire to see you in sexy lingerie? Is he adventurous in bed? Do YOU think he will like it?

Not all men like it. Especially if it is a sudden change in image. It may come off as too rehearsed and contrived.

With this kind of things you got to slowly move things in that direction.

[sumina7]

Based on your update I think you should do it. He will love it. It is not slutty if you are doing it for your bf.

[Kybernetes]

I think it depends on the guy really, and in this case you know your boyfriend better than we do, so you would know better whether or not he would find it a turn off. But I very highly doubt that he would find you dancing in sexy undergarments a turn off, or any man for that matter of a heterosexual orientation.

[Dela1111]

This has to be the most annoying question I've ever had the displeasure of reading.

[Asker]

Thanks for the input, I feel very reassured now lol

[Dela1111]

From your question, it doesn't sound like you need any reassurance. lol

[Asker]

I've clearly not explained myself properly. My boyfriend is one of the people in my life who knows how much what I dedicate my life to means to me. he has respect for me and I cherish that. I wanted to know whether my plans are smutty or sexy. I'm asking because I'm confused between the two as I put so much energy in trying NOT to be either because of what I do. I'm don't require people to tell me that I'm hot, I'm asking whether it's not a classy thing to do from a guy's opinion.

[Dela1111]

Sorry I couldn't bring myself to get past your love affair with yourself and talk of how perfect you and your boyfriend are for each other. Anyway if he understands you then it wouldn't be trashy, after all he picked you, not some girl who was modest.

[Asker]

I'm on anonymous, what would I gain from a publicized love affair with myself? I do think me and my boyfriend are perfect for each other, I cherish that and I won't apologize if that upsets you. The point of this was to express the finer details behind my problems so people had a better idea where my feelings were coming from. you don't even know my name never mind whether you know I'm modest. most people here understood my problem, and I'm very grateful for their non judgmental advice.

[Asker]

In no way have I implied that I think I'm attractive. If you read my question carefully you'd see that if anyone does find my body type attractive it is a burden as I quite clearly stated that beauty is no priority in my life. I do not have a slim body, I'm of latin heritage and it's in the genes. I cannot help my body type, but I can't apologise for it. Should I have liposuction and a breast reduction so I get less "compliments" and make you happy that no one in the world thinks I'm attractive?

[shortie]

^^I agree with Dela, WTF is this question about?! Just a chance for you to boast about yourself, isn't it?

[Asker]

Yeah because on anonymous that really works and I really get my kicks that way. if you read my question properly you'd understand that I actually feel uncomfortable with the way I look, but obviously that's difficult for people to believe as you would always assume the worst. in no way do I think I'm all that, I've got higher priorities in life than my appearance. it disgusts me that you'd think as anonymous I'd "boast" to people I don't know, what exactly would I gain by "boasting"?

[rdabby]

I agree with you Dela. Looks like she just needed to do some bragging and showing off from what I see..God ..pathetic!!

[Asker]

How the hell doe bragging work when you're ANONYMOUS? am I posting this so everyone on this site can say, wow that anonymous girl is so amazing? I don't need to brag to a bunch of virtual accounts on a website. turn your hate and pessism into something positive.

[Dela1111]

Just like we're saying you're in love with yourself, you don't need our reassurance.

[Asker]

I feel sorry for you. I really do. if you don't like the question, feel free to move along. I assure you it's quite alright.

[Dela1111]

I feel sorry for your family and your boyfriend that they have to put up with you.

[Asker]

Lol ok

[Asker]

I'm pretty sure my patients and the charities I've spent years w9rking for don't feel the same as. if you don't know stop and think before you judge. I asked a question on anonymous, get that stick out of your ass and look beyond a perosn's question before you judge them. I'm quite happy in life so I dn't have to hate on people based on something I've read from them. you don't know anything about me. what exactly have you done with your life? I hope you've done something worthwhile.

[Dela1111]

I'll spare you the long time laying out my life accomplishments, but next time try not to sound so damn conceited.

[Asker]

What I appear as has got nothing to do with you. if you don't like it, move on. I've never seen a guy with such a problem with a girl before. quit your bitterness, if you don't like me or my question please stop your comments and don't waste your time here when it could be spent doing something worthwhile.

[clevername]

He is the only one seeing it, so I bet he will be super glad to have a smart and sexy girl like you! (Thats really hard to find these days)

[bennynthejets]

Pics are worth a 1000 words...or so they say. Lets see what you got sister...but from what you said, I think you are ahead of the curve for women for realizing the things you do in so far as sexual and playfullness in and around the bedroom. Men love adventure, and very few women do what you do...if for real -- don't change a bit. Go for it

[Blankname1]

Ur man seems like he respects you a lot,so I say go for it.He won't turned off,because he knows you as a person and not a object.

Hope this helps.

Peace!

[averagejoe]

if you guys really like this guy, and you are private, and its just you and him, then shoot for it. you aren't a slut if you and with that one guy. but try not to change yourself at all. add me and I'll talk more to you.

[TwiztedTD]

I don't think its slutty... its a present for your boyfriend... I really don't think he'll be turned off.

[Adamsarusrex]

Pfff, what are you worried about? He'll love it and won't think you're slutty. Get it girl!

[Randomonline123]

Awesome

[Anonymous]

He seems to be a genuinely good guy that is honest. Just ask him if he likes that stuff. If he's adventurous, why would he be upset, even if he didn't like it at first?

[Anonymous]

You do have a somewhat pompous manner, or maybe it's just the way you wrote your question. "Real man" and "too sexy". I wouldn't be all too surprised if your boyfriend is more in love with your body rather than yourself. But that's okay, you believe what you so desperately want to believe.

[Anonymous]

He would probably love it.