ADULT XXX: The main argument I have seen/heard against porn is that it is unrealistic and gives false expectations... can I ask this question?
laurieluvsitMaster
... unrealistic with false expectations meaning that the things seen in porn never really happen, and that every girl should allow every guy to do everything he has seen in porn or vise versa. But does that argument make sense to you?
So if you watch an action flick like they are making now where the female star karate kicks every muscle bound he-man in site to the ground means that every male is going to expect every female to be able to preform like that? ... Hello?I know there are many reasons why some people don't like porn even though the majority of both guys and girls watch it, or have watched it, according to dozens of surveys. I don't want to focus on all the reasons, but for this post, only the most predominant one that I have seen over and over again.
If you had a magic wand or were writing or producing a porn film yourself and were going to show EVERYTHING THAT "IS" REALISTIC, exactly want would you show to make it more realistic?
Put even another way could be, what exactly are they doing in porn that is not done in real sex?Could it be that those that say it is not realistic are just those that have never done anything outside of vanilla sex, so they are looking at it from the perspective that if they aren't doing it so no one else is either?
This is a sincere question. No crazies please. I really am curious as to how people think about this, aren't you?
Yes, it does create false expectations, most of the things you see in porn never happen in real life, it is all made up.
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No, it does not create any false expectations... everything you see in porn also happens in real life
Vote B
It is not good for anyone to be watching porn regardless
Vote C
Even though porn may exceed the norms it is legal adult entertainment and should not be constantly critisized... if you don't like it don't watch it.
Vote D
OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the "Realistic vs Unrealistic Porn" Survey
This is a very interesting topic, and I don't have the chops to get into all the research. But what I know is that it does create false expectations. And not because what is shown is somehow unrealistic exactly, at least in terms of physical ability. Although the pornstars are often chosen for their appearance and ability. But it creates a false expectation of what physical intimacy entails and means. It creates an idea that sex is separate from emotion, it creates an idea that sex is about satisfying our own urges, and it creates a pattern of physical selfishness. Plus, and not insignificantly, it can be highly addictive
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Friendlybro79Yoda
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I don't think porn should be taken too seriously but rather enjoyed. I do however suggest people not assume that what they see is in porn is acceptable in real life for everyone. As a man there are things I've seen in porn that i would not assume every woman likes. Also to that point some of the things I've seen are of no interest to me as well. As long as it's not an obsession I think it's all in fun.
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loveslongnailsMaster
+1 y
Have you ever noticed that "most" of the women who complain about porn creating unrealistic expectations are the ones who are boring in bed? All they want is straight missionary sex for the most part, and think that giving a blow job is a chore.
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motownplayer2000Guru
+1 y
I think porn can give good pointers.. yes some of it is questionable because it’s for the cameras.. but I mean everything they do is real. Well, except for some females orgasms lol
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booblikerGuru
+1 y
yes your right. I never have liked the wwf where chairs are smashed over some ones head it not real like all tv and films hear hear to!!!
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007kingifritYoda
+1 y
most porn sex is only one kind of sex the aggressive fast sex. which is not most sex.
that being said there are no acts i see in porn that i think are "unrealistic" just misleading
if i directed a porn i would offer money to girls met in public to come with me to a gloryhole that's one i don't thin i've seen before =D
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TwalliMaster
+1 y
The scenarios that lead to sex in porn don't happen.
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nice-girl
+1 y
That's what I thought, the context isn't real.
Twalli
+1 y
@nice-girl yeah, the sex is though.
LegendaryIconYoda
+1 y
amateur porn is real
pro porn, is fake
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HonestguyopenXper 5
+1 y
Love is what is missing. Let the actors actually have feelings for eachother and then capture what happens. Unscripted and natural
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Tstrbrainer
+1 y
Yuck
Tstrbrainer
+1 y
Hey, but I think there are certain category which is more romantic in nature, but I think most of it is vanilla
Honestguyopen
+1 y
@Tstrbrainer sure. But it is hard to watch two people have sex just for the money. I can tell you from experience, when what each person feels is real and strong, whatever happens between the two will be way hotter than the fake acting and horrible dialog.
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Tstrbrainer
+1 y
Well, so you don't watch porn?
Honestguyopen
+1 y
@Tstrbrainer no not really. It doesn't arouse me because I know it is fake. Just like role-playing. It doesn't satisfy the ongoing need
Tstrbrainer
+1 y
Okay. Well there are homemade porn chanels made by couples
Honestguyopen
+1 y
@Tstrbrainer yes. Just usually poor quality
Tstrbrainer
+1 y
Are they? I don't know about that. The one I've seen looked good.
Guardian45Guru
+1 y
Porn takes advantage of poetic license, but who cares, as long as you don't try to do EVERYTHING you see. Just accept that some of it you won't be able to do and it is just fiction.
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najekimGuru
+1 y
Professionally made porn is just like other movies. Scripted and the actors positioned for the best camera angle for any given scene.
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emperor90Yoda
+1 y
Its all over acted
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2021biguyYoda
+1 y
I think it could be done in real life, but if you don't like it don't watch it. They are real people in porn and they are being filmed. Why is it such a big industry if people didn't like it? lol Is amateur porn unrealistic?
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BdsmasterXper 6
+1 y
I do sometimes find porn unrealistic luv, but not because of what's shown but because the current porn movies lack story the retro ones looked more like a movie.
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EaterPeterGuru
+1 y
If reality TV is not real then how porn can be?
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TstrbrainerGuru
+1 y
Realistic vs unrealistic? Well lol, I never thought of taking notes while watching porn 😅 , if anyone does that, it's on them and I don't have to be bothered by it.
Does porn feature unrealistic stuff? Well, some studios come up with stupid shit. Like there was a video where the guy slammed his cock somewhere and returned with a robocock which transformed itself into a natural looking one 😅 , or or a woman hiding under the sheets and posing as a sex toy 🙄, it also makes it look like it is very easy to get laid , maybe it is for some guys , while lot of movies make it look tough.
But as long as the women are hot, we can survive.
And for people who are worried about reality, there's a huge number of followers for amateur or homemade porn.
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Rahul8124Xper 6
+1 y
The acting before fucking or even foreplay start is annoying in many porn.. Also story line is also shit in many porn Also yeah porn stars do basically everything in sex because they are acting and shooting they have time and cuts.. But some idiots think it is real and have stupid expectation which might affect their partner..
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funngirllXper 4
+1 y
porn is like any other movie except some of the things in porn could actually happen but most people are extremely uptight about anything to do with sex especially people here in the usa
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Anonymous
+1 y
Probably the first thing you need to establish is what is porn?
How are you even defining that?
Because people define it in all sorts of different ways, especially with people with strong religious views etc.
Sex has been almost entirely censored out of everything main stream since the very beginning of modern media, things have become increasingly more relaxed in perhaps the last 30 years or so and I personally think that is a good and healthy thing.
I dont personally consume much in the way of XXX, media designed specifically to graphically show sexual acts (Perhaps as much in my entire life as a heavy user would consume in a day?) but I do like to see, sex and the natural human form in context where appropriate in film and tv etc, such as you would find in GoT or the gladiator series, blood and sand etc.
I wouldn't tell someone else what choices they must make for themselves though, because I am an anarchist but that is a problem which applies to a great many things and I think it would be very helpful to society if everyone understood that they dont get to make choices for other people.
The problem which remains however, as with all film etc is controlling or moderating who sees it and being advised ahead of time as to the content etc.
Whatever you make you have to assume is going to fall into the hands of children, its pretty much inevitable so I certainly undersand why there are controls and you also have to appreciate how fucking messed up people are, I have no doubt that there are for example snuff films being shown right now in the dark web which are entirely real.
So you have to draw some kind of line somewhere.
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Anonymous
+1 y
It's good to make you cum when you need it, bad if it's the only form of sex you have.
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2 41This is a very interesting topic, and I don't have the chops to get into all the research. But what I know is that it does create false expectations. And not because what is shown is somehow unrealistic exactly, at least in terms of physical ability. Although the pornstars are often chosen for their appearance and ability. But it creates a false expectation of what physical intimacy entails and means. It creates an idea that sex is separate from emotion, it creates an idea that sex is about satisfying our own urges, and it creates a pattern of physical selfishness. Plus, and not insignificantly, it can be highly addictive
I don't think porn should be taken too seriously but rather enjoyed. I do however suggest people not assume that what they see is in porn is acceptable in real life for everyone. As a man there are things I've seen in porn that i would not assume every woman likes. Also to that point some of the things I've seen are of no interest to me as well. As long as it's not an obsession I think it's all in fun.
Have you ever noticed that "most" of the women who complain about porn creating unrealistic expectations are the ones who are boring in bed? All they want is straight missionary sex for the most part, and think that giving a blow job is a chore.
I think porn can give good pointers.. yes some of it is questionable because it’s for the cameras.. but I mean everything they do is real. Well, except for some females orgasms lol
yes your right. I never have liked the wwf where chairs are smashed over some ones head it not real like all tv and films hear hear to!!!
most porn sex is only one kind of sex the aggressive fast sex. which is not most sex.
that being said there are no acts i see in porn that i think are "unrealistic" just misleading
if i directed a porn i would offer money to girls met in public to come with me to a gloryhole that's one i don't thin i've seen before =D
The scenarios that lead to sex in porn don't happen.
That's what I thought, the context isn't real.
@nice-girl yeah, the sex is though.
amateur porn is real
pro porn, is fake
Love is what is missing. Let the actors actually have feelings for eachother and then capture what happens. Unscripted and natural
Yuck
Hey, but I think there are certain category which is more romantic in nature, but I think most of it is vanilla
@Tstrbrainer sure. But it is hard to watch two people have sex just for the money. I can tell you from experience, when what each person feels is real and strong, whatever happens between the two will be way hotter than the fake acting and horrible dialog.
Well, so you don't watch porn?
@Tstrbrainer no not really. It doesn't arouse me because I know it is fake. Just like role-playing. It doesn't satisfy the ongoing need
Okay. Well there are homemade porn chanels made by couples
@Tstrbrainer yes. Just usually poor quality
Are they? I don't know about that. The one I've seen looked good.
Porn takes advantage of poetic license, but who cares, as long as you don't try to do EVERYTHING you see. Just accept that some of it you won't be able to do and it is just fiction.
Professionally made porn is just like other movies. Scripted and the actors positioned for the best camera angle for any given scene.
Its all over acted
I think it could be done in real life, but if you don't like it don't watch it. They are real people in porn and they are being filmed. Why is it such a big industry if people didn't like it? lol Is amateur porn unrealistic?
I do sometimes find porn unrealistic luv, but not because of what's shown but because the current porn movies lack story the retro ones looked more like a movie.
If reality TV is not real then how porn can be?
Realistic vs unrealistic?
Well lol, I never thought of taking notes while watching porn 😅 , if anyone does that, it's on them and I don't have to be bothered by it.
Does porn feature unrealistic stuff?
Well, some studios come up with stupid shit.
Like there was a video where the guy slammed his cock somewhere and returned with a robocock which transformed itself into a natural looking one 😅 , or or a woman hiding under the sheets and posing as a sex toy 🙄, it also makes it look like it is very easy to get laid , maybe it is for some guys , while lot of movies make it look tough.
But as long as the women are hot, we can survive.
And for people who are worried about reality, there's a huge number of followers for amateur or homemade porn.
The acting before fucking or even foreplay start is annoying in many porn.. Also story line is also shit in many porn
Also yeah porn stars do basically everything in sex because they are acting and shooting they have time and cuts..
But some idiots think it is real and have stupid expectation which might affect their partner..
porn is like any other movie except some of the things in porn could actually happen but most people are extremely uptight about anything to do with sex especially people here in the usa
Probably the first thing you need to establish is what is porn?
How are you even defining that?
Because people define it in all sorts of different ways, especially with people with strong religious views etc.
Sex has been almost entirely censored out of everything main stream since the very beginning of modern media, things have become increasingly more relaxed in perhaps the last 30 years or so and I personally think that is a good and healthy thing.
I dont personally consume much in the way of XXX, media designed specifically to graphically show sexual acts (Perhaps as much in my entire life as a heavy user would consume in a day?) but I do like to see, sex and the natural human form in context where appropriate in film and tv etc, such as you would find in GoT or the gladiator series, blood and sand etc.
I wouldn't tell someone else what choices they must make for themselves though, because I am an anarchist but that is a problem which applies to a great many things and I think it would be very helpful to society if everyone understood that they dont get to make choices for other people.
The problem which remains however, as with all film etc is controlling or moderating who sees it and being advised ahead of time as to the content etc.
Whatever you make you have to assume is going to fall into the hands of children, its pretty much inevitable so I certainly undersand why there are controls and you also have to appreciate how fucking messed up people are, I have no doubt that there are for example snuff films being shown right now in the dark web which are entirely real.
So you have to draw some kind of line somewhere.
It's good to make you cum when you need it, bad if it's the only form of sex you have.