I stumbles onto this online on Valentine's Day. It is absolutely true.
This is something I have put together over time. I call it Blowjob 101.
Most girls do not know how to give an effective blowjob. They have to resort to trial and error because guys don't or can't verbalize what they like. I have gotten quite a few and watched many short AV clips that ended in a visible "happy ending". What struck me is how uniform they all were. So I took the time to summarize the successful routine I have experienced and seen.
*The foreplay stage varies from guy to guy; teasing, play, etc. Many girls have certain teases that are good for getting arousal started. The goal is to get us hard and flowing precum but not get us too near to orgasm, so the "tank" has time to fill. While there's always some on hand, arousal induces emergency production and volume will be bigger and orgasm will be stronger. I favor a nipples to knees erotic massage.
There are guidelines for the main event that I think are almost always true.
*A blow job is not romantic, interactive sex, it is one-way sexual therapy. You make it all about him. The best blow job is a combination of hand and oral. The head wants bobbing, sucking and licking, slick, soft and smooth. The shaft wants vigorous hand stroking.
*Once you start, never stop or slow down. Build steady tension to the finish. When he starts to buck and breathe deep, go aggressive. Increase sucking and bobbing to as fast as you can sustain for several minutes. Break away hand stroking and go as fast as you can with a moderate grip.
*He wants to cum in your mouth. Be prepared for it and don't skip a beat. When he starts to ejaculate, stop bobbing and straight suck only. Keep hand stroking at a slower pace to coax out the last squirts.
*Stay "locked on" (sucking without motion) until he unplugs. It feels good to drain out and shrink away under vacuum. A little brief, occasional "suckling", like a baby on a pacifier feels good while we drain and is a good tease.
*Be careful not to scratch or bite. It can put the fire out.
*Deep throating and "face fucking" are useless porn antics. Your mouth and tongue will give a better sensation that your throat ever could.
*Swallowing is up to you as it gives no pleasure but may give him an ego boost. I like her to spit into her palm to see how we did.
*There is nothing that will make a man feel more loved than a skilled blow job where he can be indulged without feeling self conscious.
How do you initiate? Easy. Virtually every guy wants a blowjob. This is where you briefly assume the leading role. Do exactly what guys all did as teens.
*Start by unbuttoning or lifting his shirt and attending to his chest just as he would to you. Kiss your way down to his belt line. He will be full of hope about now!
*When you are ready, very deliberately unbuckle his belt and unbutton and unzip his pants. Pull straight up on the zipper tab as you slide it down so you don't catch him in it. He knows something good is coming and he will likely help you along.
*His briefs or boxers may have a tight waistband. Pulling it down below his package will be awkward and it will stay in the way. Instead, either get to his penis through the fly (loose boxers) or uncover his entire package out one of his leg holes (bikini briefs.) Once he is uncovered you are on your way. There is a near zero possibility he won't know what you are doing. No need to be shy. He is definitely on your side.
Even girls I've been with who were very shy could always come over, hug or lean close against me, and look up at me with puppy dog eyes, and maybe bite her bottom lip, and I knew exactly what she wanted.
You can also walk up to him, turn your back to him, reach back, and pull his head down to your neck to have him kiss it, hopefully leading to some mouth kissing. Even better if you take his hands, which by then are likely around your waist, and slide them up to your boobs.
As far as a BJ, you don't need to say anything. Just start undoing his pants. I promise you he'll know what's on your mind, and he'll almost certainly comply happily.
for starters wear s super shirt skirt or dress as in just barely covering your ass... not to be primitive but guys react to a lot of skin... if he kisses you just simply rub his crotch as he's kissing you... once it gets hard he'll take It out then just go to kiss his penis lick it then suck it simple as that... blowjob technique remember it's all in the head of his penis... swirl your tongue neath his cockhead on the vein ultimately that will get him to cum... don't worry about deepthroating that's all nice but worry about his cockhead that will get him to cum and that's the most important thing to worry about when giving a blowjob.
some guys love to be the one that always makes the first move, however it can be a turn on when the girl makes some provocative eye contact or sexy whisper, something that simple can get them going
@mavix have u ever just asked a guy straight up if he wants a blowjob?
yeah but only because i was very comfortable with that guy and he had had a very bad day, but when it comes to sex i like to keep it interesting
@mavix awe that was nice of you! was it a guy friend?
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!First English: the word is "initiate", not "instigate" (this word has a negative intonation).
To initiate sex, the simplest way is to be brave, get ready for a "no" and say something (in a right time right place) like "let's have sex... day, time, place".
Another method is to call for a romantic dinner date, then ask (of wait to be asked) to go to his or your place.
One more: bring up the topic of sex just for general discussion, then agree on a "totem" to he worn when either or you want sex.
For example, buy a unique gift for each other. It will only be worn when either or you want sex. The other will wear his if agrees. Otherwise it's a no.
Finally, be creative. Initiating sex can be fun and naughty. So think hard with each other for sensual methods.
Get drunk
alcohol increases confidence is my point...
@girlwithsomeqs lol this is good advice! do u normally get drunk before u suck a dick?
@girlwithsomeqs haha true. do most girls who are shy suck dick when they are drunk>?
Glad to chat about it anytime you want, just pm me or follow.
jus suck it, there's no magical trick or skill, jus put it in ur mouth n go back n forth... its that simple
Invite him over to find a trail of flower petals and articles of clothing along the way to the bedroom where you are waiting for him
Just touch his cock. Simple. To the point. No energy required.
If he's lame as fuck he'll say since beta shit like
"Lol. What are up doing?"
Simple response, you say "I wanted you to take it out"
Done. If that doesn't work, either you're ugly and undesirable or he's trash and a moron.
Use the thong not theet.
Let's work on the main issue tho. Why do you have low self esteem?
im curious what ended up happening?
You don't have to instigate it at all. Just tell him you are okay with sex and a blowjob if he wants one. I let my girlfriend know when I was ready and it was her decision on when we would first have sex.
can you follow me? ill tell u in private. have you sucked his dick yet?
Just ask some friends how you can talk easier to them. I'd just say to just tell them and start the talking.
Practice
Start making out with him and then go from that to unzipping his pants or putting your hand down the front of them.
All you have to is touch his dick
* do For a good blowjob, don't use your hands, be enthusiastic and just suck like you would a lollipop.
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