I've been married for a year and am contemplating divorce. For background on how it's gotten to this point, I met my husband when I was 19 he was 27. I'd never had a boyfriend before, never done anything with anyone (no kisses, absolutely nothing), but I'm not a victim in this; just to be clear and whatever is said here is my own side.
We moved in together when I was 21, there were some minor issues beforehand. He'd never been in a long term relationship so I brushed them off as him not being used to it. Things like he wouldn't hold my hand publicly, he's not much of a texter, he's not romantic so no flowers - which was fine for awhile. As we lived together more issues came up. He's a slob, would never help with housework or clean up after himself, wouldn't cook and would claim he "didn't know how", he wouldn't even take out the trash when I asked him to. Now I've always worked as well, typically longer hours at jobs just as physical as his, so yeah I didn't really love coming home and having to do it all but at the time I had no where else to go.
Fast forward leads we're still together, he's never physically cheated (though there were issues with him staying up specifically for porn instead of touching me and that did actually hurt for some time) either way, my family is very intense and it's not his fault but we were a bit pressured into getting married and relented. I guess I thought it'd be different. And they are to an extent, he remembered my birthday this year and took me to a movie, got me a card and candy on valentines day which usually doesn't happen unless I cry so that's a good change but here lately I've gotten to a point where I've just stopped caring.
I moved into a spare room and told him I wanted a divorce and he says he wants to make it work and has started helping around more so he IS TRYING but I also can't help but to look at it and kind of be angry that it had to getto this point.
He IS trying, is it too harsh to give up after 7 years?
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