Am I gross for using sex toys?

I'm just wondering but am I gross for using sex toys like dildos and vibrators?

I worry that no guy would date me if they would find out..

Am I overthinking it and using these tools completely normal?

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  • You are indeed overthinking this. And using sex toys is indeed perfectly normal. No guy is going to think less of you for this. No guy is even going to think you're strange for this. Certainly nobody thinks you're gross for using sex toys. Please get that thought right outta your head. It doesn't need to exist. 🙂

Most Helpful Girl

  • In 2021, 13 Billion was spent on sex toys in the USA. That must mean someone is buying them, and I doubt the same person bought them all. I don’t know a single woman that doesn’t have them. Some idiot said it’s sad that you have them. Actually, it’s no more sad than pissing your life away on this site. I have a bunch of them, and not that I wouldn’t buy them for myself, but they were all gifts. I bought a rabbit for a girl on this site. She loves her bunny wabbit.


    If a guy won’t date you because you have toys, he’s doing you a huge favor. Life is too short to land yourself a boring dud. Find a fun, creative and exciting guy. You deserve it. He can use them on you, or ask you to put on a show for him.


    We are our own worst enemy, and you are overthinking this.

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  • I'm just wondering but am I gross for using sex toys like dildos and vibrators?
    For private masturbation? No. With a partner? Not if he is with you on it.

    I worry that no guy would date me if they would find out..
    Keep it too yourself until you are in an intimate relationship. Then you might introduce them if you think he's accept them.

    Am I overthinking it and using these tools completely normal?
    They are, indeed, sexual tools. I have a few. Over-thinking? Not necessarily but you should play it by ear.
    Normal? In the modern age, yes.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • The vast majority of men don't care, and many enjoy incorporating them into the bedroom fun with you.

    Yes, a (small) percentage of men won't like it, and will feel insecure, but there's nothing you can do about that but move on to the next one. But mathematically, this is a minor problem that you will rarely encounter.

  • Not gross no.

    Although I wouldn't lead with it on a date, some guys might be insecure that they're not as big or energetic as your robot friend which could be a turn-off in the long run.

    So don't keep a secret but do try watering down as just one thing you happen to own

  • Yes you're overthinking it and no you're not the least bit gross.

  • If you feel gross stop

  • I wouldn’t say gross , everyone masturbates for the most part, so if you prefer using toys to get off that is fine , Now if you were in a relationship you should. Use your partner over using your toys to get off on , that’s where the toys could lead into problems , if she is picking toys over picking her partner that could make your partner feel like they don’t please you enough , The only problem I see with toys is if she is using a big ass dildo to get off on , her partner might not be big enough to please her and she isn’t getting satisfied cuz she is so use to getting off with a bigger dildo , her partner might not compare

  • I think you are oveerrhinking

  • Not at all... enjoy your toys...

  • I don't see the need. Had a college friend (divorced) who had a drawer-full of various 'toys', that cost a lot of money. What a waste of money. When it came to our sex life, when we fucked, it was usually from the rear and she used her fingers on her clitoris, from below, and also did the same at other times.

    Don't see the need for toys, other than it being a 'novelty'

    Other girls I know/knew used fingers on their clitoris, exclusively

  • I mean if they're normal dildos then who cares , unless you're one of those tentacle / horse dick dildo loving people then it's weird as hell for sure lol

  • Not gross. We can't stop hormones and our sexual desires so unless you want to sleep around toys are helpful. Depending on the type of toys some guys might not agree but to each their own.

  • No, that's what they're for! Most guys wouldn't care and would even love to employ them in your sexual trysts with them!

  • Normal. Enjoy yoursef

  • As a guy, I think it's okay for a girl to use sex toys

  • No, as long as you stick them in the dishwasher between uses.

  • Gross is the wrong word. It is more sad than anything else.

  • I would bet that most guys would be turned on to know you have toys and like to masturbate. They would probably want to get in on the act :-)

    What is your favourite toy and how big is your largest dildo?

  • Not at all 🙂 I was getting tired of my right hand so I bought a pocket pussy for my Penis 🙂. My wife started losing feeling just from my tongue when we did 69 so I bought her a bullet sized vibrator which I use on her and can make her orgasm up to 3 times 😉👍

  • You go girl. 💞

  • No lol. You're definitely not gross. Most guys would love that. I certainly do.

  • It's completely normal and I don't think any guy would think your gross or not date you. My current girl has a couple and sometimes I use them on her for her plesure. I think your just over thinking it. Most girls have had or do have some kind of dildo or vibrator.

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