Any tips on the first time?

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My boyfriend and I are planning to lose our virginities. We have been dating for 4 years and are getting married. Any tips? Especially for like what positions hurt less and how to make him last long etc

Reaperbot666 · Accepted Answer

first off it most likely won't go over perfectly. and it won't be like the moves, tv or porn either. so just relax and talk things out. if your not sure what the other wants or likes.

ok so disclaimer this might not always work. but I have had some good success with a few of my ex girlfriends over the years. ***make sure to use protection.***if your looking to get her in the mood. this may help you a bit. start with the basics, step 1 kissing lips and neck. step 2 once she seems into that start gently rubbing / squeezing her breasts or butt or both (depending on what she likes). step 3 once she seems willing. help to remove her top/bra and gently rub or pinch her nipples (again depending on what she likes). maybe give her butt a few gentle smacks. unless she likes it more rough. (again depends on what she likes) step 4 after you got that going for you. start alternating between kissing her and sucking her nipples. step 5 once she seems ok with that. move one hand down south and start rubbing her clit gently. while continuing to do the other steps above. (note if she starts to willing play with your dick by now. she is starting to get horny). step 6 by this stage she may be giving you a blowjob. but if not that is ok. keep the focus on her more. maybe work your way downtown and start giving her oral. So she will get even more horny. (if you not sure what to do at this point. you can ask her what she likes. not every woman is the same.) step 7 by now you are having sex or are really close to it. if not just keep repeating the steps above. until she gets to where she can not think about anything but getting fucked by you. step 8 try your best to give her an orgasm first. you may need to switch rhythm and/or position. a woman typically takes a bit of time to get into the mood. but once she is there. she can go for a while. so pace yourself and try to last as long as you can. just as long as your both enjoying it. if your unsure about how long you might last. consider rubbing on out roughly an hour before. so your not nearly as sensitive when you finally engage in sex. because you won't be having sex with a loaded cannon. so you'll be able to last nearly twice as long.***make sure to use protection.***

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, the good news is you've already accomplished the first step, which is to make absolutely sure you're doing with someone you trust and respect (and, ideally, love), so good job on that.

When it comes to the act itself, there are a few things that can help make it go more smoothly and prevent pain. First, do your best to relax; know that the two of you are there to enjoy an intimate experience together, not to judge each other or be stressed out. Second, do LOTS of foreplay before engaging in penetration because it'll definitely hurt if you're dry down under (most girls who report their first time hurting probably do so simply because they lacked lubrication). Third, have him be gentle going in to start, because even if your vagina is Niagra falls, your body still needs a bit of time for you to adjust; go easy and ramp up the pace as you feel comfortable doing so.

And the essential bonus tip: USE PROTECTION!!! You probably don't have to worry about STIs, but you definitely don't want to be having a child before you're ready, so take steps to prevent it. You should try to use multiple methods together, such as condoms and birth control.

And one more thing you should know is that girls rarely orgasm from vaginal simulation, while guys usually do finish, so make sure to stand up for your own pleasure via fingering or oral if necessary. With all that said, go have fun!

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

You don't need any tips. Leave the positions stuff and nonsense alone. It's about lpve. Not pleasure. So don't have these unrealistic expectations of each other. On the wedding night or whenever time is your time and his. As long as you both are in understanding of that, all you can do is juts be mindful of each other and the possibilities of them. Just talk it out together, but don't add on any stress or worries. You don't want negativity or toxicity with each other. Any medical concerns, you two should speak with a medical professional.

Quackthulu · Accepted Answer

First time for both of you and you are doing it together? That’s gonna be awkward. $10 says neither of you get off.

djmzes · Answer

Simple

AustinMan · Answer

This was written for anal sex but you can just plug in pussy and it should work. It's worked for me many times.

NamerOfStars · Answer

The big thing I'd say is to not overthink it. He probably won't last long, and that's okay; he'll be up for it again soon. The importance of the 'first time' is mostly symbolic; if neither of you has experience, neither of you will know much about what you're doing. Don't expect too much; it'll only get better from here.

purplepoppy · Answer

Because you've dated so long and resisted sex I'd be more worried that you're not going to get sufficiently aroused to allow pain free penetration. I suggest spending a few days just getting used to intimidate touching first, throw in some oral and intercrural to help break down any inhibitions. Remember its supposed to be enjoyable not a proceedure.

BradFlipK · Answer

You both just need to relax and take it slow. Nervousness from either of you is only going to distract from the extraordinary moment the two of you are sharing. Remember it's never supposed to feel like any sort of obligatory chore, it's supposed to be pleasurable fun. Enjoy!