Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I saw a video on YouTube,
the guy (Tony Haskins) in this video says that all men are unforgiving when it comes to woman's past.
And all the guys, that say that past doesn't matter are not looking for a serious relationship or marriage.
Is it true?
Are all Men 'Unforgiving' when it comes to their Woman's Sexual past?
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15 52I don't care about her past. She just needs to have a real vagina.
men are less forgiving of a potential girlfriend that has had sex with lots of guys, but men are more forgiving of bisexuality
Her past is her past and I don't really care if she tells me or not. It's from the point forward when we became a couple that's important.
I don't think I care about her past unless she was a criminal or something.
Everyone should want to know all the main points of their partner's experiences. I want to know how fucking good it was, how well they ate pussy or sucked dick, if they had a hairy ass...
I think a woman's past sex life is interesting.
Few of men are unforgiving and Few are forgiving.
lol @ guys who don't care about a womans past and are willing to date a sloot
Do you know that feeling deep down for a man that is a winner? It's a different kind of love that you have for a random douche that could choke on his chicken.
Men have the reverse of that, you can enjoy a hook-up no problem, even more than a virgin actually. But when a girl looks at you like you're the most awesome male specimen ever created, that's on another level.
And like with men, the more experience you have the less you adore your partner.
So it's more of a bonus - like how girls see cock size... it's great if it's there, but if it becomes the main focus in why you're with that person - you're fracked
Im unforgiving.
All generalizations are false. Including this one. Most people are too stupid to understand this. I have many married friends who are polyamory. they have wives, husbands, girlfriends and boyfriends. No problem. In highly educated and highliy evolved secular societies like Iceland, very few people get married.
Some men find it intimidating and feel like they now have to out do ever man thats ever touch her.
You have to keep in mind we live in a donald trump society where being a douche bag is looked upon favorably.
I can't forgive my partner past; why do you know? Because my past is clean.
Men have a tendency to be less forgiving over that, but I have seen it happen. I think when you really love someone, you may forgive things that you normally wouldn't.
No not all men are but I would say the majority are. Men just can't see a girl as special if she's been with 40 other guys. Men are territorial. Also girls pretty much do the exact same and call men fuckboys and don't want to seriously date promiscuous men. Why does this only apply to men?
Everyone Has A Sexual Past, I Think It Is Asinine That Anyone Would Hold Anyone's Past Against Them... I Have Never Held A Woman's Sexual Past Against Her And I Never Will...
if the girl has slept with more than 3 men, or they were all 1 nights, im not dating. she has too much miles on her
Many men are forgiving when it comes to a woman's past.
Insecure men are unforgiving when it comes to a woman's past.
It always makes me laugh just how quickly women are to say how the past doesn't matter, or how a guy should just forget about it. That smells like shame to me.
If you have a past you are proud of, you aren't going to hid it it's as simple as that. And since the past is part of what made you who you are right now, how is it mysteriously not effecting the hear and now.
I won't say all but a very high number of men seem to sleep with anyone that will let them so I don't know why they think they can forgive and unforgive., if you don't respect her but will sleep with her any "standard" claims like "not wanting someone with a high body count" is illegitimate lol. Don't complain if you will still sleep with her.
But thats just kinda how it is. Guys can sleep with women due to our sexual desire and not really be changed of who we are (unless in certain cases with sex addiction, and other things mixed with it, i. e drugs and sex together have changed guys i have known) But females without exeption will always, always change their personalities for the worse when the body count goes up. This is why for most men, after a certain number any eoman is unmarryable. Because that girl is just gonna be a bad wife and worse mom. The femininity is gone. You guys may not understand this, but it is clear as day amd night for us men. So, yeah it may be hypocritical, but its nature. Guys wanna f*ck with whoever while horny, but whwn it comes to settling down, we want the good girl. Its your choice to stay a good girl or to be seduced by the guys that wanna get laid. Women , unlike men are born with the highest value already. Sex is what makes you lose it. d your education, job, social position, doesn't matter
@lord_chilled There is no excuse for a man to feel like it's okay to be like that though, it all comes down to a lack of respect for yourself and if you are cheating on your partner it's a lack of respect for them. I won't argue the biology behind how men and women are different BUT that's just apart of life and the daily struggles we have as humans, we all have temptations and there's no excuse for letting your temptations rule over you. We can all reproduce when healthy and we can all catch and spread STD's, we can all become desensitized to things when we do it too much and we can all become addicted therefore we should strive to be as morally "good" as we expect our partners to be.
As a guy who is "unforgiving" (not really anything to forgive, just hard for me to get over it) for past, I agree. I don't like one night stands and sex is intimacy for me, and would like some girl who thinks same way. So I think promiscuous guys judging girls past is hypocrisy
@Metaanio Nothing more than hipocrisy. Someone who grew up in the ghetto could easily say he is violent and steals because of the way he grew up, he could say it's natural to him and argue that it's natural for everyone who grew up that way, then he could say he still steals and that he steals from his friends sometimes but that he doesn't do it out of trying to harm his friends he just does it because he's used to it and it's "natural". can mr ghetto then turn around and tell his friends that he expects them to respect his items and not steal? can he then say he is unforgiving to those who have a past stealing? Does that make any sense? You can go around hurting people because it's "natural" to your gender but God forbid the same is done to you by a different gender. It's all about respect all those reasons and biological explanations don't cut it. I'm not saying the biology behind it is untrue, all I am saying is it's just something you have to work harder at controlling.
I agree and i wasn't actually talking about cheating. I think your wife is your prize, and a man that values his wife must stay loyal to her. Of course, this should be reciprocated. My point is that, while it may be hypocritical for men to sleep around with a bunch of women and want a virgin or low count wife, it is what it is. Most men , not including cheaters, usually sleep with a few women before marrying their "one". And a lot of these guys will marry a girl who has a lower sex count than the girls they had slept with prior. I think girls should be let in on this, so that they have the proper choice , instead of being spoonfed "YOLO" and "it doesn't matter, its just sex its just hs, its just college, no one cares," etc But there are guys who will always try to sleep with slutty girls tough, married or not, and i dont condone that. Thats just immoral behaviour.
@lord_chilled I know I used cheating as an example but the same goes for sleeping around, just because your body wants it doesn't mean it's okay especially if you think sleeping around would be unattractive in a woman. you should at least TRY not to... you should try to be what you expect your partner to be when it comes to morals. And another thing I already pointed out, sex can have negative affects on men, for example; sex addiction, decreased sensitivity, pregnancy, STD's... of course males and females will differ in some aspects but if you are sleeping around & end up devaluing yourself your partner will also have to deal with the baggage, & you would be lying if you said men don't come with a lot of sexual baggage cause most do, & guess why? Because they sleep around and have this delusion that it has no impact on them & no impact on how able they are able to love someone else UNSELFISHLY.
@lord_chilled It might be more natural for men to want more sex and be able to detach emotions from sex, but being promiscuous aka acting on it and thinking it's only okay for you to do it is a moral issue.
Okay, you are right. I mean guys that fuck around a lot, can be messed up as well. Altough i think men have less baggage just with sex, but more with relationships. A bit less than for women, in my opinion, but it doesn't matter, since sex and relationships, most of the time are interrelated. Its not like all sex are hookups. Most of the time sex happens with someone you know, someone with whom you are in some form of a relationship. Either what, in addition to baggage, sex can also cause stds and i would think that a guy who has knocked up and fathered kids with other women isn't very appealing to a woman who wants his time for her and her kids with him. I had been with 3 girls , and i have had 2 gf's and i had a harder time with the relationship baggage. Maybe its just me, but i take a while to get over a girl. And i dont try to date during that time. Plus i stopped even trying to hook up, now because i think hookups are always kinda stupid and messed up. And i get it if a girl does
not like my history but im always open and honest about it. Its up to her to decide. At least im not hypocritical in that regard, as for the rest, i stopped trying to f*ck around. but there are many guys that still do that. About half of my friends are basically still doing that.