Are dildos technically cheating?

I see lots of guys on here with the opinion that using a dildo is cheating.

Personally i just ordered a new one and dont see them that way as it doesent belong to anyone its just for my personal pleasure and i am not in love with it.

I see the fact that you are using another sexual part to pleasure yourself but surely a fleshlight is the same thing?
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  • You are ABSOLUTELY correct...
    the 'draw' of partnered intimacies lies largely in the uncertainty and spontaneity provided by SOMEONE ELSE'S choices of how and where to arouse you tactilely.

    Any sex toy surrogate, paradoxically assures you WILL achieve PHYSICAL neural satisfaction, especially accompanied by deeply-emoted fantasies, but you cannot 'tickle' yourself, because you intimately KNOW what comes next. (You!)

    Couple's toy play enlists the voyeuristic vicarious fantasies of merciless progressive arousal of One's partner beyond their shamelessly-uninhibited involuntary responses.

    To bring... then take them beyond... their conscious desire to protest & resist your ministrations. Their convulsive spasming gasping piteously-mewing writhing's become YOUR fantasy 'rewards'... "Look! To see... TO REMEMBER, Savor and ENJOY! "SWEETEST pain!"

    YOUR responses ARE what your Creator/ix's divine design MADE YOU FOR!
    Despite Christian celibacy BULLSHIT! Orgasm WAS... and REMAINS a form of 'Communion'.

    SHAMELESSLY obey... and your physique pulsating radiates what Eastern's term 'Chi' and 'Kundalini'
    as you 'milk' your potential~

    • You could have left out the dig on Christians. But the rest was great.

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  • I'd say no, HOWEVER, if your boyfriend saw or heard you while using it or and didn't know that you were using it then you may need to explain it and he may not completely trust you because of how loud you might be and what you might say while using it so I would be careful... But I've never been in a relationship before so I don't completely know. But if I heard my girlfriend or my future girlfriend moaning behind closed doors, I may be suspicious and think she's cheating on me when you're not unless I knew FOR SURE she was masturbating, especially if we haven't been dating long. And even IF I knew she was masturbating... It would just make me feel weird and maybe feel like I wasn't good enough...
    Anyways, like I said, I have never had a relationship before so I don't know, but this is just how I would see myself in this scenario assuming I would have a girl friend at this Pont in time. I wish you the best of luck... Or should I say pleasure? 😉

Most Helpful Girls

  • See I have one and I just can't get off on it. Like it's FINE but literally the only times I've EVER used it is because my boyfriend himself used it on me when I was healing him off towards the end of doing it, or I did make 2 or 3 soft core porn videos that lasted roughly 1 minute each FOR HIM and HIS EYES only because he told me it turned him on.

    But it just never did the job for me. Like I can pretend and moan all I want but it's seriously not the same. A dido is like rubber and it's cold and it never feels the same as the real thing. To me it's no substitute and everything it's used I have to fake every second of pleasure

  • So it’s not cheating but I will say my husband and I we’re playing with toys together and using them on each other amd we loved it for a long time. He had a small issue with me using my dildo by myself when he was at work. He felt I wanted to use my dildo to pleasure my self instead of having sex with him at night when he got home which was totally not the case. We worked it out I had to reassure him that the dildo was not a replacement for him.

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  • Dildos are not cheating. When I make a guy tap out, I hand him one my dildos and make him use it on me. I haven't met a guy yet that didn't want to do that. If you had a saddle-type toy like the Sybian, then I could see that being called cheating, because you will probably prefer that over your boyfriend! LoL

    • Lol. Sybians aren't cheating either, though.

  • No, they're an amazing tool that can do things a dick can't.

    Plus you can get them in all sorts of shapes and sizes that would be very painful if they were real dicks. Or very unhealthy.

    Men who think using toys is "cheating" are guaranteed to be terrible at sex. Men who are sex gods not only don't have a problem with toys, but they know how to use them to their best advantage.

  • Hell No! And baby, you can use your Fleshlight until you get Wankers Cramp! Hell, I’ll watch you if you like! It’s only technically cheating, if you are literally dating a Tesla! (Which I guess is a thing now, because I saw an article in :Auto-Erotica, don’t think I’ll read it)

  • What next🤷🏼‍♀️ so is masterbation cheating too then 🤔🤣 I'd say no it's not

    • Why don't you give your REAL opinion miss brains muffins? 😌

    • @TonyMetal___86 how didn't I? Why would a dildo be cheating? Some people use them together, so does that mean he's getting cucked by a dildo 🤔 lololol men and women use their hands, they use toys, either alone or with their partner, it's only cheating if they doing those things with someone other than their partner!

    • Yeah i know miss brains, that's not what i meant and you know it, your a smart lady, your answer should be more rich than that... You should of told her that why does needs dildos and all these stuff if she loves her man? Also why would she use these sex toys if the real thing is present... You do know that such things might make a man feels insecure about himself, if he knows that his girl is using such things with his presence in her life! I can understand if she owned 1 or 2 sex toys if her husband isen't available at home everyday but to have a big set and keeps asking for more, it means there must be a problem right? I'm used to your rich and smart answers miss brains muffins and that's why your miss BRAINS! 😊 Just wanted to make it clear for you...

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  • Absolutely, not.

  • No. Masturbating is not cheating

  • No, a dildo isn't cheating. Cheating has to be with another person, whether emotional or physical

  • Not in the slightest I think. Is it cheating if she jusf uses her hand?

  • Not at all. Just a normal fun toy.

  • The only thing i can say is I WANT TO SEE IT HOW YOU SEE IT 😊

  • Don’t think so. No emotion involves. My boyfriend told me he won’t mind be using it if he is not around.

  • Are you going to leave you boyfriend/husband for a dildo and marry it (OK I bet someone has but let's stay in reality) no.
    A dildo is a tool that helps you get off its never going to completly replace a real person it just substitutes the function of a real penis.

    If you are however thinking of leaving your partner to marry your dildo I whish you luck in your endeavours and have you picked a best man to hold onto the cock ring yet?

  • Guys consider them cheating because they are worried it is bigger than theirs.

  • Huh? What idiot says that is cheating?

  • yes they can be seen as cheating from guy´s point of view because you use them to do what the guy brings in the intercourse/sex session.
    It´s same as a woman saying a guy is cheating if he´s watching porn and jerking of to it. In both situations one is feeling left out of the equation.
    It´s not a big thing to me.

  • Imagining explaining to your man why you gotta break up because you were unfaithful and cheated on him with a dildo... 🙃

  • NO don't be silly... how absurd

  • It’s not cheating. If guys can masturbate without being accused of cheating, so can we.

  • I don't think it is... we can masturbate and think about our boyfriends at the same time lol.

    • The naughty miss alyssa, one day if you married and became a housewife, your husband comes in and you will jump in his arms and scream and that you need him right now and the poor man doesn't knows why his wife is acting sexually wild like that because he didn't knew that alyssa was masturbating all the time thinking about him 🤣🤣

    • Your girls are naughty 😜

    • *you

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  • No it’s not cheating they are just insecure. Probably the dildo is bigger than they are.

    • what about fingering her with a vibrator between his fingers?

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