Are guys into virgins that want to wait for marriage?

[Heyitsalexis]

[Anon621]

In my opinion I think it shows the non verbal dedication that the girl wants to protect her body completely until marriage. I have a lot of respect for girls that do that despite the fact I have personally chosen to remain a virgin for my entire life even after I marry someone if that happens because I want to find a deeper meaning to love past sex but that's just me. I can say from my experience if you are a virgin past 21 it really becomes a whole new meaning and it brings the perspective of protecting your body as a result of whatever made you decide to protect your body. Even then, the sad reality of life is that sometimes you may fall in love with someone that was in a previous marriage and actively engaged in sex before meeting you. At the end of the day some guys will respect you and respect your decision and other guys won't care for whatever reason so it just depends on the guy.

[PrudentGuy]

From what I know of promiscuous guys, they will say yes as long as he feels that he can get her to bed before marriage. And he'll chase for a few months, then leave, whether he gets her to bed or not.

Then there are those religious guys who are virgins themselves. Yes, they will wait if they feel that she is the right girl. (Of course many ends up marrying. But that doesn't mean they won't file for a divorce before even 5 years is up.)

Hence although the line is between promiscuous or not, I still voted B because of the high divorce rate internationally.

[zeitgeist057]

A lot of people will probably say that's great, you're making sex special and sacred, but I disagree. I think by not having sex before marriage you are devaluing sex and just making it part of the package. You will enter a marriage knowing nothing about sex, what's good, bad, what you like, how to please the other person. Plus, if it is a bad sexual chemistry between the two of you, you've just made a commitment so the only way out is divorce/dissolution.

I am into virgins, I think it is very special to have a girl want to lose her virginity to me, and I always do my best to make their first experience wonderful and a good beginning to their sexual life, but I don't think waiting is the best idea. As a person who enjoys sex, I think it is better to start sooner than later, working on communication, exploring, practicing, and of course giving and receiving pleasure with someone you care about.

In my experience, many virgins who are trying to keep their virginity a long time and pass up opportunities to share a fulfilling experience with someone they care about, have some kind of underlying issue such as fear or they have built up illusions about sex in their mind to be something other than what it is. Everyone has their own time and place when they are ready, and that's valid, but also there are some people who are not making any progress towards that time.

I think because I place a high value on sex, I did not wait. For example, if I want to be a proficient doctor, athlete, or some other pursuit, I am not going to sit around not practicing because "I'm waiting for the Olympics to get in shape". I'm going to start training and learning right away.

I also disagree with people who say that it is less special or something like that. A moment is beautiful when two people share it, it is not saddened or lessened by the past or future if those people are truly present with each other. As I said, it is special if a girl wants to lose her virginity to me, but it is also special if she has already had sex with other people and now has decided to have sex with me. We are sharing something special.

Same as if we went to an amusement park and rode the rollercoasters together. Of course it would be special if it was her first time, I would be excited to show her. But if she had already been before, it doesn't mean we aren't going to have an amazing special time all the same.

[Msgaïj]

Sex don't interest me but I appreciate your way of thinking (especially rollercoaster comparison)

[zeitgeist057]

@Msgaïj If sex doesn't interest you, then fine. You are on the other end of the spectrum where you are saying sex is not something important. My argument is that if it is important, you don't show how important it is by deciding not to participate. If it is unimportant to you, then of course it makes sense not to do it. :D

[UnStealthyNinja]

As long as its clearly communicated and held too. Also respecting the guy if they didn't wait. Not all people may have grown up with the same beliefs.

No teasing saying "Maybe I won't wait" that's not fair. If you make a choice do not use it against your partner. Its not a wepon.

But also don't let them guilt you for it, any disrespect about it is a red flag. They are either willing to wait or not.

[MrOracle]

Only a rare few are. The vast majority will not wait that long.

[djmzes]

Simple

But each one is free to do what he wants and accept his consequences. If it is not what he expected, then take responsibility of it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Most guys are not willing to wait for marriage before having sex and most girls aren't willing to wait, either. That narrows your field of potential companions but you only need to find one good guy who is a match for you. Stand by your principles and understand that how you go about looking for a companion needs to be different from what most people do to look for a mate. The guy you want will not be hanging out in a bar or a club.

[ChrisMaster69]

Guys are in to anything with a pulse.

[Sonorous]

Considering that's often the only reason why guys even want relationships in the first place, not a whole lot are looking forward to that even if they say they are waiting.

[ohshee]

I would try it it would be hard to do but if done right I could do it I would have to ask her a few things tho

[ZackBan]

Thats a big no for me and prety much all the guys I know. Im sure someone somewhere wants a virgin to marry but me and most of my generation don't really belive in the absolution of marriage anymore and I personally don't let some government paper decide if I can have sex with someone. So any girl who is saving herself for marriage can go save herself elsewhere because I won't make an honest woman out of anyone anytime soon

[abc3643]

I waited but, honestly, I would not wait again because I waited for 17 months expecting I would marry her but then she dumped me. So, not only did I waste 17 months of healthy prime sexual maleness, but I threw away almost all the rest of it because I was heartbroken pretty much for the past 29 years.