Are you always nervous during your first time with someone?

Question

First kiss, first oral sex, first "regular" sex etc

BillHe1 · Accepted Answer

Personally, I was for years. "Nutting" or Premature Ejaculation was always a problem for me. Even on my wedding night (I was still a Virgin), when we were ready to have intercourse I did Premature Ejaculation before I could even enter her vagina. And it was that way for quite awhile until we'd do it more slowly. It was really embarrassing. It was just too exciting and I'd be working myself up to failure... too horny and not able to control myself.

Even today over 40 years later, I still get nervous about trying some things... Like wanting to try ANAL.

Jusin · Accepted Answer

I was before my first kiss as I wasn't really sure how to do it properly but my girlfriend at the time was really understanding and explained how and showed me how and she said I did good. For first time oral I wasn't too nervous really as I was more happy then anything. Haven't experienced first time regular sex yet though, as much as I want it I am nervous about it.

likelyOK · Accepted Answer

It really depends even if it is only kissing I get nervous if I feel he is coming on too strong. Sometimes the first time having sex I’m not nervous at all it depends.

IveGotNoName · Accepted Answer

I've only kissed one guy in my life, but I assume that you're nervous every time for a first kiss with someone

DrunkAss · Answer

I don't think I ever did so much but my dates usually involved an icebreaker of sorts like ice skating, or rollercoaster rides at an amusement park, or straight-up drinking and dancing. So we got comfortable real fast -- lots of laughs and touching.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Absolutely.

weysally · Answer

I use to be but not any more

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

No not really

Couple times when with a new girl and going to BDSM party etc and nervous she will decide not to go.

I think it’s really just experience and knowing it is harder (or maybe not lol) for the guy.

He has more to preform

Relaxing and taking it slow helps.

Red_Arrow · Answer

No, not nervous. But cautious. I do not want to overwhelm or scare the girl I am with.

SweetTay · Answer

Yeah

summiter · Answer

A little bit but also excited that I was having sex with a new girl and great orgasms await both of us!

Blackgirlasja · Answer

Being nervous is normal but it can also be a sign that you aren’t ready.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I have had sex with over 200 women, the good part is that the nervousness goes away. The bad part is that sometimes the novelty goes away too

helva · Answer

Always been.

hasdrubal164 · Answer

only if im still interested in her and scared to lose her i would be nervous if not than i would be myself

JosyJosy · Answer

Of course, but the good kind of nervous, the "I can't believe it is finally happening" kind of nervous

jspl90 · Answer

im usually somewhat nervous during the first time

scott04sa22 · Answer

I was nervous a couple times then I got used to it because it was natural.

shade_19 · Answer

Of course, it's something you've never done b4, so it's a new experience  So being nervous is more expected than being confident

collie22 · Answer

I didn't know that would happen.. so no

Schizoaffective · Answer

Yea always But that's the fun part

Born-for-sex · Answer

Well confidence is a personal thing. You need to give yourself the affirmations that you are good enough or beautiful or all that he wants. As long as you are struggling with confidence then will always feel uncomfortable. But once you are confident those nerves just build you up to be more crazy! It is great!