Are you generally dominant or submissive in bed?

[Physics-Man]

[jgirl99]

More submissive I guess. Nothing is hotter to me than when a man just takes what he wants, and has complete control of the situation, literally my biggest turn on is when a guy initiates, id love to just be pushed up against a wall and have a man stick his fingers inside my panties

[Physics-Man]

Sizzling hot! Thanks for sharing!

[purplepoppy]

It's more like a waltz. He should lead but it takes 2 to make it work.

[KatherineJ]

@purplepoppy I love this answer!!!

[nightdrot]

Voted "Dominant." However, that is a bit overstated. Most of the time I am dominant, but there are times and circumstances where that is not the case.

In general, my girlfriend and I have a very primal kind of sex. We are like two animals breeding in a field, with licking and even biting and scratching. I am the dominant alpha male and she is the submissive female.

Invariably I am on top, usually doggie-style, although my body is close to her's. Pressing against her body and not with back straight. Even when it is missionary I will be on top and laying over her, thrusting deeply. I expect her to be obedient to me and give her body to me for my use.

It all sounds quite raw and even impersonal, but that is the funny part. My girlfriend is a very independent woman. We have lived together for 12 years and have three children and she is an incredible mother, partner, and career woman who knows her own mind and can speak it forcefully.

Yet the funny part is, when we have sex we are at our most exposed and vulnerable. I need and want her and we are sharing our bodies and we are all that we are - nothing but just us. It is the most deeply intimate and connected and loving - even as it is raw and animal.

Truthfully, my girlfriend even believes - and she admits that this is very old fashioned, that she should have sex with me - and I agree - even if she is not in the mood. She is to be there to meet my needs and submits to me. Here again, the funny part, is that this works because I love her and therefore I try to be sensitive to her moods and feelings. I can have sex with her whenever I want, but I won't because I love her.

Also, even in our sex there are times when it becomes less about my male dominance and more romantic and loving. When I suck her breasts I get mellow and I just want to be held and loved. I just lay in her lap, nursing at her breasts and I just need that sense of closeness.

When she sucks me and I cum in her mouth and she swallows or shares it with me in a long loving romantic kiss. Again, I am in the dominant role but in those moments it feels like total giving and total acceptance and I am no longer the dominant male, but my love and what we share is what matters.

So in theory it is a sharp divide, but in truth it blurs. I need to be the alpha male and my girlfriend needs to be submissive. For her it is a strange sense of being used and possessed and dominated and protected and cared for and loved all at once. For me, I need to be inside her and feel her warm skin against mine and to know that she is there to breed with me and that my penis is the source of the most raw pleasure. We need that sense of nature and of a male and female animal in nature.

She is there to be used by me and to have my babies. (We have three, as I mentioned.) Yet it all becomes more complicated and loving and romantic. The animals become deeply loving partners who cannot live without one another. So put me down for dominant - but with a twist.

[Physics-Man]

You should write erotic novels.

[nightdrot]

Thanks. I do politics right now, but if I ever get bored I will consider it!!

[Wicked_Heaux]

If I’m being paid, I’m whatever the man wants me to be. Usually it’s dominant, but sometimes I’m asked to be submissive.
In my personal life I prefer to be submissive.

[edjee4]

both depending on circumstances
i’m finding that i’m a little more toward dominant these days, so it would be nice to get to be submissive

[Apple1996]

I'm pretty dominant during sex, occasionally I'll be submissive but that is rare

[Elliegirl]

I can be a switch, but I’m more submissive.

[Blubby1234]

100% sub 🙈

[BlondeGoneWild]

Definitely sub

[NEW_YUKI]

S...

[foxrider77]

Would enjoy being a sub though.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'm Submissive Male who likes Dominant Women

[BillieJean1070]

Very submissive.

[MiamiMadness]

Dominant if I'm being honest

[subsphlover]

Submissive UwU

[KatherineJ]

More on the submissive side.

[Stan_Control_]

Submissive to men and I don't know yet to women.

[Agem123]

I like to switch, but mostly submissive

[JennieF]

It varies. Sometimes one, sometimes the other.

[billluc69]

make me your pet

[Anonymous]

I'm 100% dominant.

[Anonymous]

This question has already been asked before.
Dominant.