I was having a convo the other day about whether sex makes me feel closer to the person I'm involved with... The truth for me is that sex (or even PDA) can have a bit of a "red herring" effect if you jump into it too soon. Physical attraction can be very intense... but I'd rather wait a bit... get to know the person more.
Would love for you all to weigh on this one...
It should, if you're doing it right.
Lots of people like to treat their sexual partners with borderline contempt though, so your lived experiences might not line up with nature's intended reality.
"If you're doing it right?" (My goodness... that will be a different question.) I'm not sure about contempt... I just think... if you get into it too soon, before knowing if you ONLY like the person's outer appearance or appeal... you're setting yourself up for a bad overall experience. For me sex isn't "the end game" but part of a larger experience.
We live in an extremely disjointed and disconnected world. People actively shut down connection. It's tough to connect with people who don't want to be connected with.
Fair.
Yes, 100%.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It certainly made me feel closer to her. What made me feel even closer then that though was falling asleep with each other during the afterglow. It felt like we were exactly where we were meant to be. I might be a bit of a hopeless romantic though.
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Obviously having intercourse with my husband is the absolute pure and sheer ultimate intimacy... Nothing will ever get remotely close.
(Agreed. I think with your spouse... you've hit all the other markers and are together, committed, etc.)
Yes it does for me , I can’t just have sex with a girl for the hell of it , If I don’t feel any chemistry and connection with her , my dick will not go inside of her , I have to feel like it means something for me to even consider having sex with a girl. My intentions is to have her coming back for more and more hoping she feels the same way about me. I have always asked myself as to why I am this way , because I know there are a bunch of guys’ that can just screw any girl and get off on her for the hell of it. I think I am this way because I was molested by an older woman when I was a child
the way they treat me n their actions make me feel closer to that person
sex comes later when we r both sure n ready for full commitment, marriage.
yes, is not that the idea?
It is! But I'm asking more about the bigger situation within the relationship -- the "when" not the "if".
I don't understand people that DON'T feel closer having sex with someone. It is the ultimate form of physical intimacy. You're letting them see and be with you in a way that you wouldn't let just anyone be with you.
Yes I feel much closer when I have sex with a girl. It makes me feel accepted and not just "a friend".
As @probablyclueless points out, "if its done properly" -- not just a random hookup or physical exchange, which seems pretty common nowadays.
It could or could be entering into it as strictly NSA. It varies. You can fuck and not live!
Under the right context, yes
Absolutely it does
yes little bit.
Yes it does
I would rather get close to someone before doing the sex. Otherwise the sex can be rather lame.
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