Are you into BDSM?

[coachTanthony]

BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged in by people who do not consider themselves to be practicing BDSM, inclusion in the BDSM community or subculture often is said to depend on self-identification and shared experience.

[Anonymous]

I am, it's one of my favorite fetishes. I don't engage in anything too kinky or extreme; I mostly do roleplay, Dom/sub, light bondage, and paddling/spanking- to name some of my favorite aspects.

Most people associate BDSM with extreme fetishes, pain, and torture- like whips and chains, or being dominated. But it's much more to it than just that. With someone you trust, it can be a fun and sensual experience.

[coachTanthony]

Yes it can! Trust is the key! Hmmm

[hi_it_is_me123]

No, i just think it is mostly mental illness. It is not healthy to want someone to suffer for sexual satisfication. Some of the bdsm pratices such as blood/knife play or chokin are fucking dangerous. It is also sad how especially young women are pressured to do more and more extreme/painful things when it comes to sex and if they dont do it they get "vanilla/ prude shamed". I mean i am not saying that the whole bdsm is mental illness but many fetishes/kinks are not normal/not healthy.
It is also fucking ridiculous to make every shit a kink. What is the next kink, killing people for sexual pleasure?

[NorthwestRider]

Says what, the bible or the Quran? Also, you know there are also dominant women in BDSM?

[hi_it_is_me123]

No, i am pretty feminist and the dominant women are very few and many young already have disturbing idea of sex due to porn. More and more women suffere because of this

[hi_it_is_me123]

Many young men**

[hi_it_is_me123]

Also many women who are into (especially extrem) bdsm were abused in the past. I mean i have no problem with light bdsm as long as it is safe and healthy but nowdays bdsm is turned into a sadistic/"non" consensual, extrem sexual practice

[raddisn]

Some people need harder stimulation and foreplay and others dont. The act of getting spanked is just that a firm of foreplay. It can be mental stimulating as well as physical

[WillFrancis]

I was taken advantage of as a 17 year old by a woman who was 43, she had 2 boys. I would see her almost every day after school after football practice for nearly 8 months, I was tied up to do things and was probably the first person in my school to eat a booth while my hands and neck were tied up. Then she had be dominate her. I can't even share this stuff with girls I've been in relationships with... she turned me out and I made her cum... hard to go back to simple missionary after that... I need to find a girl that's into that stuff so I don't feel so bored during sex.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I'm into some aspects of it, but I don't really have an in-road to the community itself. I just see myself as quite kinky in general, I'm not concerned about what category or label my kinks fall into.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Yes. I'm a switch, but mostly sub. Into collars, choking, whips and switches, and bondage.

[harry7825]

You like to be sub

[AndriaAlex]

I want to be degraded and raped.

[tripptt9]

By definition u want it so it's not rape . actual rape is not something you want... fantasy vs reality

[AndriaAlex]

@tripptt9 ah technically I can think for myself. And you are wrong. Just because I fantasize being raped doesn't mean it can't happen in reality against my will. I never said I was going to ask someone to do it. Although I could ask a guy to find me at a later date within a given time period, but if he's disguised and I dont know that its him , perhaps just some random guy that I didn't consent with, then again that would be rape. Please no response necessary for taking my perfectly legitimate kink and mansplaining it to me.

[strawberrylipstick]

@tripptt9 CNC is an actual kink , it stands for consensual-nonconsensual

[tripptt9]

Ya I know... but it's consensual so doesn't quality as rape. Don't matter tho

[strawberrylipstick]

but its about going through with that fantasy lol , its not to say that its actual rape

[katiesmuff]

Some of it might be ok, but not anything that is totally demeaning or causes severe pain.

[Chriscunning]

It's awesome.

I also enjoy FemDom life style. Mixed with BDSM she only has the best of the best worlds.

[electromagnetic]

I don’t mind getting spanked here and there.

[strawberrylipstick]

yeah , major masochist

[DesolateRain]

Not really.

[racecarx]

Yes, the Dom/sub and spanking aspects of BDSM are my absolute favorites... and a lifestyle I'd like to take part in, with a future SO. Specifically a Male-Dom with a Female-sub.


When it comes to other things, I generally have the mentality that I'd try it at least once (my hard no's are: blood, feces, group sex & including anyone else who's not the two of us). This is also along with it: everything MUST be consensual and safe.


There are two layers of BDSM that I like:
1. "Fun-ishment"
2. Harsher BDSM (might be foreplay, but also for providing her with cathartic release)


1) Fun spankings in my mind revolve primarily around her pleasure. Take her over my lap, spank her a bit... slowly stripping off layers of clothing. Then, give her a nice long sensual massage, with lots of teasing/anticipation... basically switching between pleasure and pain with the end goal of getting her as aroused as possible. It might include some role-playing, it might not. This would most definitely end in sex.


2) This side of BDSM REALLY arouses me. An example might include some roleplay, such as daddy/daughter or teacher/student. There would be some made-up reason that my girl would need to be punished and deserving of a spanking. Possibly starting everything off with a lecture. Then, ordering her over the kitchen table, bed or my knee. Start on the pants/skirt with my hand and work my way down to the bare. Other implements might be used, such as a paddle, belt, wooden spoon or crop. [Note] The ending point would be to reduce her to tears/sobs... and absolute vulnerability. Then, aftercare would begin. I'd hold her in my arms, comforting, caressing and reminding her how much I love her. This may or may not lead to sex, but will always end with me applying lotion and us cuddling to sleep or watching a movie.


2) - Note: It may or may not be harsh every single time, or always end in tears... I'm well aware that it's not always desired.


I am a firm believer that all sexual activities should be consensual and should be thoroughly discussed ahead of time. I also believe it important to have safe words (Red, Yellow, Green) for ANY of the above topics (even discipline), in-case a scene goes too far or a break is needed.


At the end of it all, the safety of, trust in & communication between a sub and her Sir is of absolute importance.


Just as one of the girls posted here (quoting her), "Most people associate BDSM with extreme fetishes, pain, and torture- like whips and chains, or being dominated. But it's much more to it than just that. With someone you trust, it can be a fun and sensual experience."

[TOTEMPLASTER]

People who are into BDSM are emotionally disturbed, usually a result of sexual abuse when they were young and defenceless.

[NorthwestRider]

Let me guess, you are a religious nutcase?

[raddisn]

Totemplaster its all in what two people agree on. Bdsm is just a littke harder stimulation to get the receiving person turned on. This is why they have so called SAFE WORDS. In case the receiving person says its too mucn or too hard

[strawberrylipstick]

see but you're also a homophobe so i dont think your opinion on this is needed

[TOTEMPLASTER]

@NorthwestRider Absolutely not! Religion is a curse on Mankind that has caused more wars, deaths, and misery than any other movement in human history. The only constructive use that can be achieved by religious fanatics is to be fed through wood chippers to keep them well greased.

[TOTEMPLASTER]

@strawberrylipstick Any decent person with ANY moral standards, even Democrats, should be disgusted by the activities of male homosexuals, particularly their never-ending quest for 'twinkies'. I have yet to meet any parent who hoped that their son would become a sodomite or catamite - have Y^OU?

[strawberrylipstick]

thats just *twink by the way. not twinkies XD plus no, im into Muscle-Bears sorry if you feel personally attacked by someone else's life XD

[TOTEMPLASTER]

@raddisn I can agree with your explanation: well stated.

[TOTEMPLASTER]

@NorthwestRider God NO! (couldn't resist the irony) Religion has been a plague on Mankind throughout history and is responsible for more deaths than any other cause.

[TOTEMPLASTER]

@strawberrylipstick Not completely so: I'm OK with dykes, femmes, and lesbians as they are trying to survive in a masculine world. However, as for sodomites, catamites, and faggots, I doubt if I'd shed many tears if they were all consigned to being processed by wood chippers.

[strawberrylipstick]

you're still letting other guys doing something that doesn't involve you control your emotion and make you mad XD I don't know seems kinda gay to me sis

[jdonhere77]

No not into that. Nah just. Not. I'm not just being a prude because I'm a very passionate sexual person, but at my opinion after all it is called love making. The BDSM sometimes looks like anything but love.

[jdonhere77]

I will say this though if the woman I'm with wants me to spank that ass. I will smile while I'm spanking that ass LOL

[Erinawolff1412]

Its kinda fun , but i avoid that dominating and submissive part. Having fun with your partner is the best way to have a satisfying relationship i guess.

[swettannie]

the dominating and submissive part can be fun !

[missy52]

BDSM is defined by Domming and Subbing. At the end of the day, it's a power play. What you're doing is just kink, not BDSM.

[missy52]

Characterized not defined*

[Erinawolff1412]

I just thought it is fun, i am still single so i dont know what powerplay is, i think that will be fun too.

[missy52]

Power plays are in every interaction you have in life. One person is always more dominant or persuasive than the other and they control the interaction. In BDSM, there's one person in the rope (the sub) and the other is holding the rope (the dom). Though you don't need physical chains or any toys for BDSM. At the end of the day, it just defines a relationship between two people

[Erinawolff1412]

Thats deep, i really like you. Well then i had been submissive all my life. So, i know i m gonna suffer more if i ever try it in future.

[missy52]

Thanks. I like you too. Don't speak of yourself or your future like that. Being a daytime sub is not the same as being a bedroom one. If you do not enjoy being submissive in your regular life, take up being a dom. It'll empower you and give you some sense of control over your life. You don't have to suffer and you also don't have to make someone suffer to do so (look into sensual domination). But even so, if you were a sub, you wouldn't be without power a dom cannot dominate without a sub to play with. You ultimately control what happens to you with the power of your consent. I think that it's worth giving a try. There's a whole lot more to it than spankings and 50 shades of bad

[slatyb]

A bit, mostly the "B" part.

[CubsterShura]

Never had sex but I'm open to trying it out in the future. I like the idea of being open-minded and exploring.

The only things that I don't wanna do in bedroom besides the ones forbidden in my religion is doing things that are too humiliating or drgrading. And I don't want to be called or treated like a slut or whore or something along that line, I know some women are turned on by being treated like that but it's not my thing.

[rebeliouse]

@cubstershura good to be open minded

[BlondeGoneWild]

It’s fun!

[CubaPirate]

Are you Sub or Dom

[BlondeGoneWild]

Definitely sub

[CubaPirate]

Mmmmm interesting

[Citizenkirk]

No, my health insurance won't cover it.

[strawberrylipstick]

lmao your health insurance? what? 😂

[Egirl28]

I haven't done it yet but I have always been fascinated by it since fifty shades of grey

[rebeliouse]

@egirl28 what do u want to try?

[rjroy3]

Bondage and Domination yes.
Sadism and Masochism no.

[JoyGirl]

Who knows. 🤔

[DavidFox]

Sure

[humanearth]

You bet, me and wife are very much into it