Are you looking for love or just looking to smash?

Question

SMASH: Just having casual sex.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm probably unusual for having this view but finding love is actually my main goal in life. It's actually the only thing I really care about. I know most other guys are usually more interested in fun sex rather than love but that's not me at all. I'm not sure why but I have always had this feeling telling me that I'm supposed find someone who will be my "other half". All I have ever wanted is a woman who actually reciprocates my feelings. I always make my girlfriend my number one priority but unfortunately I have never been theirs. I actually do care about the sexual aspect of our relationship a lot. I am actually very adventurous in the bedroom and have a very high sex drive. However, for me sex is very significant and is only something I will do with someone who loves me.

Feelicks · Accepted Answer

Both are good, but I'd be just as happy to have an intelligent conversation with and attractive companion.

It's rare to find someone who's interests and passion is anything like mine.

Is there a woman out there who's into futurism, economics and engineering who's also DTF? I feel like I'm only going to find half of that in any one person.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I'm currently looking to love... myself that is.

I'm not after sex, especially with random guys that I have no emotional connection with.
And it's hard to love someone if you don't love yourself first... I'm still working on that.

Are you looking for love or just looking to smash?

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

both. I'm not into casual hookups so ideally the guy I'm with atm will turn into something longterm.

Mandycandy42 · Answer

Smash, but not sleeping around. limited to two guys (FWBs) I meet casually. Not ready to devote the energy into a relationship again at this point

muscularbumblebee · Answer

Neither.. well love. But I’m not trying for it atm. I’m not in the place to date right now with my busy lifestyle whether casual or long term, it just wouldn’t be fair for the other person… sometimes I consider casual but that’s a pain too. So I restrain from both

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Right now, neither.  But when I do, a good mix of both. I'm not into hookups, one-night stands, or friends with benefits.

Jake99999 · Answer

Love. Because you get a best friend and a great lover and someone to share life with. Just looking for sex is empty really. The best sex in my opinion is with a woman you love - who loves you too - and you both care a ton about each other and you both want to please the other and you get to know each other really well - and the sex just gets better and better. You don’t get any of the BS gameplaying and weirdness that you get with random sex with someone you barely know.

Sex feels safe and loving, you can feel very accepted, you can have adventures and explore and at the same time you’re with someone you really care about and who cares about you.

Random hook ups with people you don’t really know, you are not getting the best sex you are just getting what the stereotypical guy is supposed to want. Lots of sex with lots of people. I find that experience to be very empty and meaningless. And it gets old. Being in a relationship with somebody special is where it’s at. For me.

Guys who are down on love and say they don’t want to be in love and don’t want a relationship… They are usually people who are lonely and don’t feel like they can ever find someone that special. So of course, tell yourself you don’t need love, and love doesn’t matter. It’s a lot easier maybe than admitting that you wish you had it but just can’t find it.

To be in a love relationship with someone, you need to be authentic, you need to be willing to be vulnerable and show your true self. You need to be a good listener and care about somebody else beside yourself. You have to want that kind of relationship that makes you forget about every other woman. Some of you out there will say that’s impossible never happens. But it does. I found it and so have many others

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

I'm tired of popcorn, nachos this time 😉

MCheetah · Answer

Love. Smashing gets old.

Sonorous · Answer

Neither. There are too many risks with both right now in my life. So, I'd likel to wait until I'm ready to handle the consequences of both.

electromagnetic · Answer

I’m in a relationship but if he’s willing to play police man tonight 😏

Alyssa11 · Answer

I want love. That’s why I’m still a bloody virgin ah.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

I am never looking for just smashing, love. My interpretation of love and everyone sees love differently.

Alpha09 · Answer

Depends on the person. Most of the time just sex, but once in a while someone turns out to be an interest.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Both

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Right now I just want someone to cuddle with honestly

Miah02 · Answer

It's definitely ain't love rn that I'm lookin for, but I ain't lookin to smash either

sunshine69er · Answer

Are these questions, computer generated at all.. I keep getting the government census vibe on the back of my neck.. 🤣😂

anon1903 · Answer

I'm looking for a guy who reads me poetry in his sexy, rusty voice on Instagram voicemail.

JosyJosy · Answer

Love, love's nice

beebella · Answer

I have more important things to worry about, Coach.

fr44c3iqqs · Answer

However, love is something you find, not something you look for. You make yourself available while expecting nothing but also impress and turn on the interest mode in the right way, and you are set, but it also takes work to make it last forever, to prevent break up or divorce after marriage.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I'm not looking.

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