Are you sexually frustrated due to self-quarantine?

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Please read all options before voting :)

[nightdrot]

Voted "not sexually frustrated as I am living with my sex partner." My girlfriend and I have a great sex life, but typically it is a morning and/or evening thing.

We have been together for 14 years, lived together for 12 years and have three children together. Frankly, it may seem cliche, but we have an amazing sex life and are - as the old saw puts it - "sexually compatible."

Our sex tends toward the animal and instinctive. With licking and even some biting and scratching. Not always, but generally, with me as the dominant alpha male and my girlfriend the submissive and obedient female.

My girlfriend even believes - and she admits that she is rather old fashioned - that a man needs sex and that she should make her naked body available to me whenever I want it. That works because, although there have been times, I admit, when I pushed things, in general I do not because I love her. She is - and the three little Munchkins she gave me are - the center of my universe.

That is the funny part. Our sex is very raw and primal, but that becomes deeply intense, romantic and loving. We are naked, just us, reduced to our most base selves. We are exposed and vulnerable and open and sharing and it becomes deeply loving and connected.

So, with all that as predicate, we have sex on average - and this is a little bit of a guess - about 5 times a week. Mostly at night, sometimes in the morning and on rare occasions when circumstance permits, in the middle of the day. Right now, though, if the kids are down for a nap, we get a little "afternoon delight" and I am NOT unhappy about that.

Far from frustrated, frankly, for all the sturm und drang about a national crisis and how the nation is in the equivalent of war and all the rest, it has not been horrible. In fact, of course, I prefer to see things back to normal, but if the nation has to have a simple nervous breakdown, I could easily get used to this.

[DonCachondo]

r/ihavesex

[Sensmind]

I am not sure about this one because to me every emotion/feeling has become heightened during quaratine. Is this a real thing or an illusion, what I mean is I have more time to think about how things are affecting me, I would not be surprised if any level of frustration is the same as before but just feels more, those that count though I believe those with contact partners seem to be noticing increased libido unfortunately I am in a long distance relationship with outside stressors , so my example is a bad one for general comparison. I think if all things were equal, it might have increased. For the single person, I just don't know , I see a dual element here, with more times on their hands (Pun Intended) a certain amount of frustration could build but on the other hand (that one was unintended haha) you could plan and have very pleasurable masturbation sessions.

[Tiffany_Taylor_Made]

Quite the opposite. If anything, I have been sexually rejuvenated due to the COVID-19 crisis. If I am sexually frustrated about anything, then it's probably the fact that the sex eventually has to end for a little while. Although we are under lockdown, because I work in the medical field, I still go to work at the hospital on a regular basis, usually for 12 hours a day and four days a week. When I get off work, I come home to my fiancee, who has been laid off from his job due to COVID-19. Because he is confined to sit in the house all day, he has been a lot more hornier than usual, which is saying a lot because he's a pretty horny guy. Every time I get off work, it seems that his dick has become my new seat. It seems like I don't sit anywhere else in this house anymore. Whenever I'm off work, I don't go anywhere. Instead, I just stay home, and my fiancee and I usually spend a good chunk of the day fucking. I'm surprised that COVID-19 hasn't gotten me pregnant yet.

[Rudon00]

I'm one of the front line workers and believe you me when you work a 12hours shift and you come home.. There is nothing more better , therapeutic than to have some good sex with your partner

[Jones_T]

Lucky you

[SezzySwann]

I've been sexually frustrated since before covid and now everything is just so much worse coz a) I have nothing else to do except think about it, b) I can't just hook up with someone to get some, and c) I live with my family who are all home 24/7 due to this shit so I barely have any alone time to rub one out!! I'm honestly so fucking done man... Lol

[Gwenhwyfar]

You need to duck in the bathroom and push your little button till you spontaneously combust

[SezzySwann]

Unfortunately for me it takes me having at least 4-6 orgasms before I feel satisfied... And I honestly have been feeling like humping everything lol I grind against my hand under a blanket while watching tv or movies, or as soon as someone leaves me alone in a room just to try and keep myself under some sort of control 😂 it's baaaadd

[Gwenhwyfar]

Just slip your hand down there and hump your fingers to a nice quick juicy orgasm before anyone sees you. It’ll give you a little relief and whet your appetite for a real session later. I bet you really need it...

[DonJuanPabloMiguel]

@Gwenhwyfar Eurgh had no idea girls were this nasty.

[Gwenhwyfar]

@DonJuanPabloMiguel 😂😂😂

[Cookie_Lyon]

Yell yeah, but i was before the quarentine

[poneglyphs]

Same I've been single before the quarantine and I'm still going to be single after it.

[DonCachondo]

ai não que pena, porque?

[Cookie_Lyon]

Same 🤷🏾‍♀️ porque é a vida?😂

[xLyndseeyx]

Not really, though I crave it sometimes.. Lol.
I'm talking to somebody who is DYING to cuddle with me. We've had sex, but it's like.. Ugh. Let this shit be over with..

[drsatan]

I'm living with my partner in quarantine, and I'm very sexually frustrated 😣 it's hard to get time to myself to have a wank and we haven't had sex in at least a month, which is admittedly partly my fault, but still.

[Cookie_Lyon]

Why is that?

[drsatan]

We live apart normaly. I spend a few weeks at my place and then 3 or 5 days with her, and for us that keeps things exciting and fun. I can't wait to see her and get her clothes off. But living together in this lockdown, both of us being stressed and seeing each other stressed, the last thing on my mind is doing anything sexual with her at the moment.

[Cookie_Lyon]

Hum its def complicated. Im single and the last time i had sex was two months ago. I am quarentining by myself for about a month or so. Its funny how everyone wishes they wore in a different situation. Maybe surprise her by making dinner and just talking to eatch other like a date.

[drsatan]

It's not a natural situation to be in for anyone at the moment. I'm glad I'm doing this with her, I would feel terrible knowing she was alone for such a long period, but it's still not easy or very enjoyable for either of us. How are you finding it being by yourself for so long? And I don't think it would surprise her if I cooked her dinner 😅 I make lunch and dinner every day because I'm the better cook out of the two of us. I get your point though, it's good to make nice gestures in these times. I do what I can to give her a smile now and then. I ordered some coffee beans to be delivered that are from her favourite coffee place that she can't go to at the moment, and managed to secretly sneak in a big Easter egg for her while getting groceries.

[hi_it_is_me123]

How old is your partner? That is weird and irresponsible of your partner.

[drsatan]

She's the same age as me, and I think I have given the wrong impression if it's come across that she is irresponsible for something, as it is me who does not wish to have sex with her at the moment. I'm the weird one here 😅

[hi_it_is_me123]

Ohhh... okkk. I mean if she is ok with it, then I see no problem

[Cookie_Lyon]

What? I dont think hi_it_is_me123 got the point at all.

[drsatan]

She's not ok with it, neither of us are. It's frustrating for us both. I'm sure she wants sex too but we are both too emotionally draining on each other in this situation we are forced in, to be in the mood to actually desire sex with each other. I'm still incredibly horny, but I'm in no mood for sex, I just want to fix that issue as quick as I can, alone in the bathroom and then try to go about the rest of day. I'm sure once things are back to normal and we have had some space and time apart from each other, the sexual desire will return for us both. Just... Not right now

[hi_it_is_me123]

Ohh so you guys had an argument

[Cookie_Lyon]

I don't know its hard sometimes knowing that i have to do everything, specially since my family is in another country. Sometimes im glad because i dont think i could deal with being with other people 24/7 but i do miss having company. Even though everyone is at home it just seems no one really "has the time" to talk, ya know? Mixed feelings

[drsatan]

@hi_it_is_me123 we have lots of little arguments most days at the moment, no shouting or screaming, but there are tears most days... We are kind of opposites in a lot of ways.

[drsatan]

@cookie_lyon my partners family is in another country too, that's partly why I didn't want her to be alone for so long. And I'm completely with you on not being able to be around someone 24/7, I'm definitely some one who prefers solitude. I try to check up on all my friends with a few messages every day or so, just to make sure their mind is okay, especially the ones who are doing it alone. I'm used to being alone, but for most people, such a long period of being alone is damaging to their mental health. I hope you can find someone you can talk to at least once every day. But if you can't, at least you have this place, right? 😕

[Cookie_Lyon]

Exactly, i try to find ways to keep myself busy. Im used to being alone but i have a hard time coming to terms with it. Its nice of you to keep in touch with your friends. Im sure you'll find a way to get your mojo back. Good luck 🤗

[drsatan]

Thank you 🙂 Good luck to you too, and stay strong! This will all be over before you know it!

[Lliam]

I'm frustrated by the quarantine in general. It's bullshit nonsense.

[CoffeePossum]

Not sexually frustrated and single so home alone. But i'm not that sexual so i'm fine 😂

[musicbrain5]

Not one bit, lol. Voted F.

[Chubby_Tasha_]

I am getting it when ever i want.. what else we could do instead of getting notes at home

[Mamamialetmego]

Well you look hot that’s why

[DonJuanPabloMiguel]

Don't let him gas you. You ain't hot. You look plastic.

[hayley_may]

Always sexually frustrated but I can’t do much about it now ahah

[becks3]

Yes. Because I lost my virginity before lockdown and my partner gives me the cold shoulder now, after he led me on.

[edjee4]

Wait you’re 25 and just lost your virginity? That’s admirable if you’re doing it for your own personal beliefs. No way I would’ve made it 25!

[becks3]

@edjee4 Not really beliefs but I am conservative about it and not reallythe person to fuck around with as many guys as I wanted. In hindsight I guess it would have been easy as hell to loose it earlier since it took me just 2 months now the first time I actually made an effort but I just never tried actively. So I now was the right time and right way I guess with someone I actually like.

[thisdude25]

Damn I'm in the same boat but I lost it 4 months before lockdown and broke it off 2 months before lockdown.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Sex isn't the only thing on me that's frustrated. But all it's done is exacerbate everything I was already dealing with.

[GigiMary]

My husband and I have been keeping things lively over the quarantine. We tried out some new stuff, and have a lot more time for sex!

[summiter]

I think the levels of masturbation across the world have increased due to the quarantine.

[ZackBan]

Well I was even before quarantine started, botched attempt at dating long story.
But now it's gotten worse I'm not just craving sex I'm craving basic human contact with someone I'm not related to.

[BuckWild]

Surprisingly, I'm doing okay. As it happened, right before all this virus shit started happening, I got one of those "flesh" light things. It works pretty fucking well! I think it really puts females on notice. Women need to adjust their attitudes because they officially have competition. "Flesh" lights are always happy to see you and there never in a pissy mood. It's never said, we have to talk... I love you but I'm not in love with you. :)

[Listenhear]

Just looking forward to the end of things really

[DevikaButts95]

Everyone's actually real horny here. Lmao. Exact opposite of sexually frustrated.

[ashish_2210]

Yes because we all are covered with our family members all time

[DevikaButts95]

@ashish_2210 Ew what the fuck is wrong with you?

[ashish_2210]

Nothing just explaining my situation.

[DevikaButts95]

@ashish_2210 EW. That's fucking gross dude.

[blkgold33]

Man I been frustrated way before the quarantine lol

[Ellie-V]

Yeah but I don’t care

[Paige90]

That's what masturbation is for!

[cunnilinguist]

Where is the option "I am sexually frustrated but it's got nothing to do with the quarantine"? I bet that would be the most popular answer among men with a partner.

Frustration caused by bad sex (incompatibility, poor quality, insufficient quantity, etc.) is why about 50% of marriages end in divorce in most countries. The other 50% is made up of separated couples and others that stay together only because they have kids, financial reasons, what others / family will think, because they don't like change, because they've gotten used to each other, they're afraid to be alone again, etc. not because they're happy. Nearly no two people in a marriage are together because they're happy and not frustrated with each other sexually.