Boyfriend didn't come from oral?

[Anonymous]

So, I've been dating a guy for 3 months. Before him I dated many other guys, and have had sex with a fair amount of guys. I went to his place and after giving him a handjob, he didn't finish. Actually, I was never really good at handjobs tbh XD I find them tiring etc, so I gave him oral after that. Ireally like giving oral, but this time it was different. I gave him head for some time, and then he pushed my face down so I started giving him a blowjob. He was very hard, and he did moan like he loved it, but after a while he still hadn't finished. It was weird because I have given blowjobs to other guys as well, and most of them came really fast. After 4 minutes i think, I stopped. Not because my jaw was in pain or something, but because I felt like I couldn't breathe at all while giving him a bj. I was a little sick at the time, so i could not breathe well from my nose, but he really wanted this to happen so I decited to do it. After a while, I asked him how it felt. He replied "it was good". What I usually hear is "it was perfect" etc. but this time not. I asked him if there was somethng he didn't like and he said that somethimes i pulled his skin down too much (he's still a virgin) and it was kinda annoying, but other than that there was nothing (i didn't bite or something). I've been with a vigin before though, and he didn't seem to have a problem, then he said that maybe he was nervous. After a while I started giving him a boobjob, and then he started playing with himself. He came, a lot... But I feel so bad now. Why didn't he come with a blowjob? A friend of mine said that he probably didn't like it... What to do now? Will he lose interest? I'm so angry at myself..

[TheCunningLinguist]

The best blowjob I ever had I didn't finish from. In fact, I haven't finished from a blowjob in over 20 years. But, I still love them. Relax, the most important thing is that you are into it. You will learn each other's bodies overtime. I would much rather have a partner who desires to do well and is generally willing to do so, then one who is highly skilled Yet never in the mood. Anyone who loses interest over one less than Stellar sexual performance Is not worth having been with in the first place so, as I stated, relax. I'm sure you're good.

[qwert1234]

He's a virgin. Probably nervous or is used to the sensation of masturbation - aka death grip.

Give it a while - and he also needs to stop masturbating for a while. :)

[Asker]

he also said he gave himself a handjob before i got there.. I mean, come on -_- and the first time he couldnt even finish off on his own. I really dont get it. Or it could've been my fault.. I dunno, really. But I've heard praise for my blowjobs :'( a guy has even told me i could make a career out of that XD... I feel bad now

[qwert1234]

Hey hey. Not your fault if you gave every technique you got. Most likely he's just nervous. Go easy on yourself and give it time. :)

[Cuteusernamehere]

It's amazing how when a guy can't even finish himself we will still find a way to blame ourselves.
He's a virgin, chances are he's to used to his own hand and does it himself way to much.
Don't blame yourself. I'm sure it's not you.

[AustinMan]

Don't be angry at yourself. Some of us have a very hard time cumming from a blowjob, no pun intended.

[Mack111]

See, for some people , sex/oral is not just at d physical level, it's also a mind game where erotic thoughts play a vital role while fantasizing.
What I feel is that , u lacked in developing emotional/ erotic connect with ur boyfriend.

[BonniePipers]

Just let him face fuck you. Let him be in charge.

[Nice222]

He was probably very nervous

[Norbmi]

Well, don't take it too seriously. Sometimes it happens to me... Just try to give him other heads and see what happens. Probably it happens occasionally.

by the way, keep in mind that every cock is made in its own way xD
So, it happens that someone likes something and someone likes something else. If you really wants to suck him off real good try different techniques and see what he likes the most.

Little tip: it seems like he was trying to recieve a deep throat from you... can you do it? If you don't, try to do some exercises

[gabri239]

Not your fault, don't feel bad.
It could be lots of things, starting with the fact that he might've just been nervous. However, if he didn't like it, or there was something wrong about the way you dis it, he should tell you. Trust and communication are essential for having good, pleasant sex.
So, again, no worries! If he said it was good, let's just stick to that for the time being. But be sure to communicate with him: tell him what you like and dislike, and make him know he should do the same, always. Both need to feel confident enough to say what you want.
Oh, and by the way, don't even worry about him losing interest in you because of this... honestly, if he does lose interest bc of this, he's just not worth it XD