Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My boyfriend and I haven't had sex in 5 months. I am 24, he is 26. We've been dating for a year now. He's been wanting sex for a while. He's been so frustrated by a lot and he deals with so much stress from his job. The reason I haven't been giving to him is because of his ways. Talking to other girls, flirting with them, etc. He's been doing a lot to disappoint me and he says the only reason he's like that is because I don't have sex with him and I don't give him attention. But he's always been like that before the 5 months no sex phase. He will be a good boy for me but only like a day just so that he can have sex. This includes helping me, taking me out, treating me right, meeting his friends, etc (stuff he normally doesn't do). He has told a few people on how I don't give him attention and how we don't have sex. He doesn't just get angry when he doesn't get it but he will say or do something to hurt my feelings. I'm afraid to give him so much sex and attention because when I usually do, he will feel too good about himself. Not just in his confidence but his ego.
Advice?
Boyfriend gets mad when we don't have sex. Help?
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14 47You need new man because he's doing all that flirting with other woman your beautiful
You should break up asap. You are both terrible. And tbh if i was him id just cheat on your ass right in front of you.
If he doesn't treat you right why do you stay with him tho? Not giving up your pussy it's not gonna take you anywhere. Just saying...
Why don't you want the sex since your his girlfriend? It seems like you don't enjoy it with him considering how long you're holding out. You're treating him like a kid. He's probably going to get sex somewhere else. I would if I were him.
Controlling him with sex is absolutely the wrong way to go about things. If you're going to be an adult act like one, sit down and communicate with him about what bothers you and what bothers him. And just so you know sex is a great stress reliever for a man when he's under a lot of stress. If you love him and respect him give it to him but don't control him by sex. Just a word of advice LOL
I would have left you months ago
If he usually flirts with other girls, you not having sex with him will only drive him to other girls which is good for him because you sound manipulative
I dont think its right to hold out on sex if ur in a relationship... because u dont feel he has been behaveing as a good boy. if u love a person or even just genuinely care for a person enough to be in a relationship with this person.. u should not use sex or the lack of as A way to gain leverage over him or her. Talk out ur issues.. br kind.. open minded and unselfish. communication is key. Haveing sex or makeing love with ur partner will usually help close A communication gap and bring lovers closer. By holding out on sex you could be doing more damage to your relationship. shower your man with affection and hook him up sexually and your man will show appreciation with loveing affection in return.. unless he is a completely selfish jerk. Most men are not... Good luck
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You’re right!
You better fuck your boyfriend before you don't have one, you silly cunt.
do it every day!!!
Sry, but he is acting like a dick.
He just needs to find a few fuck buddies. Sex should never ruin a perfectly good relationship.
Just give him a hand job, bj or let him wank over your tits. My ex used to do that when she wasn't in the mood or was on her period.
Move on.
It’s not a good idea to play this game of with holding sex , I see this relationship failing soon
sex is supposed to be something that both of you enjoy doing, it bring people closer together in an emotional and intimate way. but it seems like your using it as a tool to control him... do you not enjoy it? then may be your with the wrong guy or there's some other factor at work here. I know it feels good to have leverage on a person like that, it makes you feel more in control of your life and what happens in it, but in my mind your essentially ruining a great life-affirming act between two people. you two need to sit down and talk about what's bothering you about each other, or you both need to move on, you owe it to yourself to be happy and to find someone who you won't withhold anything from...
Kill yourself?
Hmmm