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Sexual Health I want to have a hookup... but I'm worried the guy will only last for 10 seconds because he won't care and just wants to cum. So if we do slow and gentle sex, could he still do that? I noticed that guys always thrust extra fast for a minute or 2 right b4 they cum.
Or if we had slow sex, and mixed in some hard thrusts occasionally could he still cum fast?
Can guys still cum fast even when they have slow sex?
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I'm talking about a hookup, who could not care about me, not a bf!!!
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9 40There's no problem about cumming fast. Just wait another 10 minutes and have a second one, it will be longer :P
It's the main reason I'm not into hookups. Most guys are only interested in their own satisfaction when it's a 1 night stand.
if he won´t care, he won´t go slow for you xD and if you expect that from him, you shouldn´t hook up with him. i mean ususally going super slow would make him not cum as fast but it will probably also make you cum even slower too xD
He'll go slow if I tell him to. Although form the comments it's pointless, but if he's having sex he better go slow when I say.
it´s fun dude... let him treat you first with oral and fingering.
I think I will do that! I didn't want to at first, but I'm liking the idea more. I mean if he goes down for 15 minutes and cum in 1 minute for himself, I got 15 times the pleausre.
why do you even think he´s only gonna last so short? why don´t you wait untill it happens instead of loading it with expectations beforehand?
Because of the stories I've heard.
about that guy specifically or guys in general?
For hookups in general. Bfs are fine.
ok that´s basically a bad stereotype. I don't know how much of it is true for all guys but for me, i last really long in hookups. sometimes i don´t even cum, cause it´s just emotionally not the best. i guess it´s about what´s the point in having sex for the particular guy. my point in having sex is making her cum. everything else is extra xD
I think it's true really often. But I can just get off from oral before...
don´t stress so much about it. just watch him and give instructions :P maybe he´ll start caring for you on his own anyway. you never know.
Yeah. One guy on here said not to fuck until he goes down, no matter what. I would prefer to cum from sex, but after reading so many answers... I'll just do foreplay.
in a hookup, it´s about cumming at all xD i think you´re expecting a LOT if you want to cum while penetrative intercourse on a freaking hookup. usualy people need to get used to each others preferences before they can have satisfactory intercourse. also certains emotions are not present in a hookup, which makes it tricky. if it just works like that it´s just a fluke.
Yeah, it's just that guys usually cum so easily. I feel envious.
Exactly the opposite for me xD that's why I don't get the stereotype
If he is very much aroused, touching a few times can be enough to cum.
Give him a short break after he had cum and start all over again. The second time it will take longer for him to cum.
Or give him a blowjob first and have sex afterwards.
yes they can
When i have a hook up.. I sure as hell still want it to last more than a few seconds or minutes haha
But depending on how long our last "release" was, or if there is much teasing leading up to sex, sure we can still cum fast even if its slow
We tend to go faster just before we cum in order to intensify our orgasm. If the guy doesn't last as much as you d like, then slow and start/stop can definitely help. Done that aswell and the results are really great.
I like how every guy said yes lol
Yes if he gets excited enough and has been saving it for a long time.
yes, some guys are not sexually healthy. body shapes doesn't mean they're sexually healthy
We can cum when sex is slow.
haha, yeah.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLnWf1sQkjYslow sex might help him not cum so fast but is no garuntee. but make sure you are on top so you control the speed otherwise if he gets close he will start thrusting fast and cum instead of staying slow and making it last. plus if your in control and notice he is getting close you can just stop and chill for a minute until he is good again then just keep doing that until you want him to cum.
actually if d guy holds his thigh muscles and d muscles near his pubic area tight than it will result him into Cumming faster... but if he holds these muscles loose and do sex gently than he may take more than 4-5 mins or even more time to cum... and at last it all depends on d individual involved... when I hold my pubic muscles loose I cum in 4-5 mins and if not loose than 1 min or 1½ min
And slow or fast sex doesn't matter?
actually if sex is faster than eventually the pubic muscles and thigh muscles become tight... and extremely slow sex can also create little similar situation... so slow sex is gud but not very slow... but don't go for fast sex if u want him to last longer
Ok, thanks!
anytime😊
perhaps it depends on who wants to be pleasured more. Some are selfish while others wish the partner to be pleasured. Sometimes you can wing it and decide halfway through whether you yourself want something out of this or your personally just in this to satisfy him. It all usually boils down to intentions from both in the end.
Guys know when they want to ejaculate or to hold of. Slow passionate sex definitely helps keep things going for a nice long while casual sex does tend to be really quick can often times feel less meaningful, but can be fun sometimes.
Plus endurance is also a key factor. Some guys are conciously aware of what can trigger their climax and can sometimes be more wanting to satisfy his partner before ejaculating. But that's just the description of a more courteous fellow. Every guy is different and have different triggers. Depending on the trigger (being his particular fetish) and how you either go about at finding it or purposefully acting it out in the right way will depend on how quickly he can climax.
If you don't want him to climax so quickly slow sex tends to help. It's a gesture that this is something more meaningful to you and he may take on the mindset of wanting this to be appreciated more by you than him. Men normally can very easily orgasm very quickly, while girls are very different and have a wide range of triggers to much like men.
Ask yourself what your intentions are and maybe even talk with your partner about it even. If it's a nice long enjoyable experience you want, then slow sex may be your best option.
hopefully this helped a little bit. I hope all is going well for you either way and hope it works out for you.
Yeah, in fact guys with premature ejaculation, it can happen pretty fast after penetration. But it's -easier- to last with slow sex.
He's more likely to last longer if you initiate the sex than vice versa.
Nope
Yeah older guys will want to enjoy it longer and have more control
Wearing a condom makes me last longer and I wouldn't mind being finished off with a bj
Yeah, even when my guy tries to go slow and stop for a second he cums super quick in certain positions
Give him a BJ first, then have him return the favor, then get him inside you. He will last much longer the second time.
Or just leave after the beej. Happened to some other girls I know a little