#CasualSexOrNo How long do you prefer to wait (or not) before going at it?
DizzyDesiiEditor
I’m not into one night stands. I do miss waiting til marriage but its hard to keep up. It didn't last with my first ex, but it was so much easier to do when single. Like I still got hit on and got in some almost relationships, but nothing that interfered with my 8 year celibacy. My second ex and I did it after a year and a half of waiting. I was tempted to give in much sooner to whoever came after him but I haven't yet. I just prefer to get as close to a year of waiting because thats what feels comfortable to me. I want it to be sometime between 9-12+ months if im being honest... 6 at the least. I guess I just fear that he’ll get the sex and then be done with me so it makes me not wanna get busy at all. Its hard to tell who will stick around #FeelFreeToList #DirtyDesii #TheDesiiDiaries #Sexvey
Well waiting tell getting married is best. Dont give in to the pressure. Sex ismt everything if the guy can't wait then he is not worth it.
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
I agree
Ronald_25Xper 7
+1 y
Sex with your SO is part of a well functioning relationship both to vent stress and anger so an argument is resolved in a more civil manner, also to stay on a good endorphin high, as per the teachings of the Karma Sutra.
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
And thats why when we have it, we’ll have it nonstop. But im in no rush to have it. He has to be patient
Anpu23Master
+1 y
Oh I don't mind the one night stand, though I have yet to actually have one. It always seems to expand into something else, it started as a ONS next thing you know your casually dating.
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
But why would it be casually dating and bot a committed longterm relationship
Anpu23
+1 y
well when I was playing the field I often was floating multiple relationships. Everyone involved knew that I wasn't exclusive with them,
Phoenix98Master
+1 y
Well I've been waiting hmm almost 27 years lol.
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Thats good though. Keep waiting til marriage/for the right one. Sex can feel good but its not all that. Like it is but it isn't. Its best to wait
Phoenix98
+1 y
Preaching to the choir.
AngelLilyYoda
+1 y
I just wait till marriage.
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broken_heart_at_48Xper 7
+1 y
Really it depends on the vibe between us. Now a days I would prefer to get to know you before we knock boots, but 6 months that is crazy. No if that works for you then cool. For me I figure 4 maybe 6 dates and it's on, but I am a man and if we're both feeling it I can't guarantee that I'm not going to blow her back out on the first night. When I met my wife (we're separated it's complicated) she held out for 3 days and I was fixing to bounce when she finally gave it up that was close to 30 years ago. Back then I wasn't use to chicks holding out like that
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Sexual things will still happen before 6 months. Just not sex/oral 🤷♀️
broken_heart_at_48
+1 y
Yeah for me I just don't see the sense of denying ourselves pleasure I mean we're both grown and if I'm into a chick I'm all about it. I'm not looking for one night stands even when I was younger and had a handful of friends with benefits I was honest with all of them and never tripped on what they were doing and if they were with another guy and we ran into each other we never put each other on blast. I would talk to them about all this up front and they were always cool with it and I was fairly popular. I think it was because I was different than other guys they had messed with I didn't chase them for more than a minute and I was usually younger than they were and the more I didn't trip on what they were doing and I think because when I came at them I was direct. It made them chase me. Plus they all knew each other and knew I was messing with all of them. Even my wife when we were first dating. Yeah so waiting like that isn't for me but if I wasn't looking to just be with you I'm not going to lie to you to try and get with you I would just say you do your thing, I'll do my thing, and if we do it together then cool.
DizzyDesii
+1 y
there's a difference for me in denying the pleasure and wanting it. I just dont want it that soon
logik11Xper 3
+1 y
So for me it's about understanding what both people want out of the relationship and as long as we both want the same then it's game on. I've had both one night stands and long relationships. Usually it's about 2-3 weeks before we have sex and I have never let it change me or pretended to want something else just to get sex. I also understand that not all guys are like that though.
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Thats a good point
Pink2000Master
+1 y
6 months for me
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Good, same
ultimegaGuru
+1 y
Tried it a few times and I hated it.
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Yea its not for me
ultimega
+1 y
It's just feels like your being used.. there's no love in it. That's why I'd rather being in a relationship. The sex is better for me that way
Shark_61695Yoda
+1 y
I couldn't put a time on it but I'd much rather get to know them first. A couple of months of seeing them every day or longer if we don't see each other.
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Oram52Yoda
+1 y
I'm not waiting a month let alone 3 months. If after 3-4 dates she's not into it that's fine but time to move on. It sounds prudish. Sex is natural nothing to be ashamed off. It brings couples closer. So I certainly would not wait too long. Its best to be upfront at start so both know where you stand.
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Im always upfront
lookin64Xper 6
+1 y
Just to be sure there is something there other than lust lol
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perislav85Xper 5
+1 y
I can make any arrangement, but sooner is better, always 😜
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Titanic1912Guru
+1 y
I’m saving my body for marriage.
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Good!
CreepazoidYoda
+1 y
I guess if I really clicked with the person I'd be more willing to wait... as long as she isn't tempting me often I'm sure I could be successful. And that a reasonable worry. in my opinion
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Crap... ya got me there 😂 im such a tease but i have tricks up my sleeve tonkeep him cumming without sex/oral for those first 6 months
Creepazoid
+1 y
I'm sure you do😏
DizzyDesii
+1 y
😏😏😏
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Creepazoid
+1 y
Yea I like this opinion too lol
DizzyDesii
+1 y
😁😁😁😏😏.
XavierSteeleXper 7
+1 y
I have done it all it seems, I remember the one night stands are by far more kinky
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dragon3791Xper 3
+1 y
i see no need to wait, let the fun BE the first date
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Thats you lol not me
justcurious2019Explorer
+1 y
this is a great question i'm not sure it depends on if i meet the right girl
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
Say she's the prrfect girl. Whats your minimum wait
justcurious2019
+1 y
prrfect girl i will let her pick when we have sex
DizzyDesii
+1 y
So if she said same week you met, you're fine with that?
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justcurious2019
+1 y
good question if she is willing to sleep with me in a week who knows where she's been
DizzyDesii
+1 y
Exactly thats nasty to me
lucas262Yoda
+1 y
You know my take on it, Me personally I think waiting makes for a much better intimate relationship at least i hope it will. My drive isn't sky high but I hope she will be chaste in public and a slut for just me.
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DizzyDesii
+1 y
I hate the word slut but yes i’d be a lady in the streets and a freak in the streets
lucas262
+1 y
There is no shame in being slutty for your guy.
DizzyDesii
+1 y
I dont feel the word is slutty. there's nothing wrong with naturally being a superfreak. But slut is just not the correct term for myself
KezzzXper 7
+1 y
I'm not a fan of one night stands. I'd really like to get to know someone from outside before getting inside.
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12 67Well waiting tell getting married is best. Dont give in to the pressure. Sex ismt everything if the guy can't wait then he is not worth it.
I agree
Sex with your SO is part of a well functioning relationship both to vent stress and anger so an argument is resolved in a more civil manner, also to stay on a good endorphin high, as per the teachings of the Karma Sutra.
And thats why when we have it, we’ll have it nonstop. But im in no rush to have it. He has to be patient
Oh I don't mind the one night stand, though I have yet to actually have one. It always seems to expand into something else, it started as a ONS next thing you know your casually dating.
But why would it be casually dating and bot a committed longterm relationship
well when I was playing the field I often was floating multiple relationships. Everyone involved knew that I wasn't exclusive with them,
Well I've been waiting hmm almost 27 years lol.
Thats good though. Keep waiting til marriage/for the right one. Sex can feel good but its not all that. Like it is but it isn't. Its best to wait
Preaching to the choir.
I just wait till marriage.
Really it depends on the vibe between us. Now a days I would prefer to get to know you before we knock boots, but 6 months that is crazy. No if that works for you then cool. For me I figure 4 maybe 6 dates and it's on, but I am a man and if we're both feeling it I can't guarantee that I'm not going to blow her back out on the first night. When I met my wife (we're separated it's complicated) she held out for 3 days and I was fixing to bounce when she finally gave it up that was close to 30 years ago. Back then I wasn't use to chicks holding out like that
Sexual things will still happen before 6 months. Just not sex/oral 🤷♀️
Yeah for me I just don't see the sense of denying ourselves pleasure I mean we're both grown and if I'm into a chick I'm all about it. I'm not looking for one night stands even when I was younger and had a handful of friends with benefits I was honest with all of them and never tripped on what they were doing and if they were with another guy and we ran into each other we never put each other on blast. I would talk to them about all this up front and they were always cool with it and I was fairly popular. I think it was because I was different than other guys they had messed with I didn't chase them for more than a minute and I was usually younger than they were and the more I didn't trip on what they were doing and I think because when I came at them I was direct. It made them chase me. Plus they all knew each other and knew I was messing with all of them. Even my wife when we were first dating. Yeah so waiting like that isn't for me but if I wasn't looking to just be with you I'm not going to lie to you to try and get with you I would just say you do your thing, I'll do my thing, and if we do it together then cool.
there's a difference for me in denying the pleasure and wanting it. I just dont want it that soon
So for me it's about understanding what both people want out of the relationship and as long as we both want the same then it's game on. I've had both one night stands and long relationships. Usually it's about 2-3 weeks before we have sex and I have never let it change me or pretended to want something else just to get sex. I also understand that not all guys are like that though.
Thats a good point
6 months for me
Good, same
Tried it a few times and I hated it.
Yea its not for me
It's just feels like your being used.. there's no love in it. That's why I'd rather being in a relationship. The sex is better for me that way
I couldn't put a time on it but I'd much rather get to know them first. A couple of months of seeing them every day or longer if we don't see each other.
I'm not waiting a month let alone 3 months. If after 3-4 dates she's not into it that's fine but time to move on. It sounds prudish. Sex is natural nothing to be ashamed off. It brings couples closer. So I certainly would not wait too long. Its best to be upfront at start so both know where you stand.
Im always upfront
Just to be sure there is something there other than lust lol
I can make any arrangement, but sooner is better, always 😜
I’m saving my body for marriage.
Good!
I guess if I really clicked with the person I'd be more willing to wait... as long as she isn't tempting me often I'm sure I could be successful. And that a reasonable worry. in my opinion
Crap... ya got me there 😂 im such a tease but i have tricks up my sleeve tonkeep him cumming without sex/oral for those first 6 months
I'm sure you do😏
😏😏😏
Yea I like this opinion too lol
😁😁😁😏😏.
I have done it all it seems, I remember the one night stands are by far more kinky
i see no need to wait, let the fun BE the first date
Thats you lol not me
this is a great question i'm not sure it depends on if i meet the right girl
Say she's the prrfect girl. Whats your minimum wait
prrfect girl i will let her pick when we have sex
So if she said same week you met, you're fine with that?
good question if she is willing to sleep with me in a week who knows where she's been
Exactly thats nasty to me
You know my take on it,
Me personally I think waiting makes for a much better intimate relationship at least i hope it will. My drive isn't sky high but I hope she will be chaste in public and a slut for just me.
I hate the word slut but yes i’d be a lady in the streets and a freak in the streets
There is no shame in being slutty for your guy.
I dont feel the word is slutty. there's nothing wrong with naturally being a superfreak. But slut is just not the correct term for myself
I'm not a fan of one night stands. I'd really like to get to know someone from outside before getting inside.
Same
Just one more thing we agree on 😂