Caught my boyfriend sucking another guys dick?

I came home from work yesterday to find my boyfriend blowing another guy in our bedroom, I freaked out and started hitting him with my bag (I don't know what came over me). I asked him what the f*ck he was doing and he said "that this didn't mean anything and this is just something guys do when they play with each other" I was so freaked out that I ran out of our home and went to stay at a motel. He has already texted me several times saying things like "babe, guys can't cheat on girls with other guys' and that they were just "playing". I honestly don't know what to think... should I go back? Do guys really do that to each other? I'm so confused.
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  • I am a Bi-Man, and I think I can shed some light on this situation. He did cheat on you, he is bi-sexual, and he deserves whatever you end up doing to him.

    All that being said, guys don't tell their girlfriend, because they react as you did. Now I am ABSOLUTELY NOT defending him, I'm just saying that most women will NOT accept BiSexuality.

    A friend of mine in college was Bi-Sexual, His girlfriend was Bi-Sexual... a match made in heaven right? Nope... she was fine making out with her GF's (yes more than one), but one day she catches him getting a BJ from one of his friends, and it was all over.

    Being Bi is the Best of Times and the Worst of times. You get to experience all sorts of awesome sexual experiences, but you are in the minority... Gays don't want you (not always, just my personal experiences) Straights call you a "Faggot, or Gay, or Freak), You can't have a Str8 girlfriend, she won't accept it... so they either hide it, and sneak around (Your BF) or they stay single. It really does suck. (Sorry bad pun there).

    I'm Lucky in that I found my soul mate, married her, and was completely honest about my sexual. I was Monogamous for 15 years until she went through menopause at 45 (yeah really early). She lost all desire for Sex, and told me "Go ahead with your boys, just don't tell me about it."

    Ultimately this is your choice, If you can't handle him with other men, then dump him.

    You sound like an awesome person, I'm sure you can find someone who is better sexually aligned than your present boyfriend.

    I wish you only the best,

    JOe

    • Straight women reject bi men but so do bi women. As a bi male, you pretty much cannot be open about it with any woman.

    • I'm not bisexual nor do I want to be bisexual in order to think about guys I absolutely love women and no disrespect to any bisexual people out there but after reading what this guy wrote at least I read the first two paragraphs and then I stopped at the third one I would have to say what he's saying is 100% legit. It is cheating and I'm sure women probably do flip out because they don't know that their man is like that. If I was her I would dump his ass and be gone because he lied didn't say anything about what was going on and it's cheating

  • He was doing something sexual without your knowledge, so he was cheating on you. In my opinion, he deserves to be dumped for it. That depends on you though. If you're fine with him cheating, then... um just keep doing whatever you were doing.

    "Do guys really do that to each other?" Straight guys - no. Gay and bi guys - probably. The way I see it, it's pretty much the same as if your guy was straight and was going down on another woman. He's probably bisexual, so instead he's going down on a guy.

    "should I go back?" - How do you feel about it? He cheated. He is also bisexual or gay in hiding. He is also lied. Make your mind how you feel about it and decide. I personally wouldn't keep a relationship with a liar/cheater. If you're really happy with him and you don't mind him doing other guys you're his perfect girlfriend, he'll be all over you. In that case just tell him that he needs to be honest with you but you can't really believe that since he's already cheated and lied to you. It all depends on how you feel, really.

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  • Maybe u boyfriend is gay an hasn't come come of the closet yet? That's one very big possibility. I used to hang out with a guy that I had a huge crush on which I'm not friend with anymore cuz he didn feel the same way and it bothered me... but Ya he didn't like looking at boob which a normal normal guy would plus I heard rumors he was gay so that's the end.
    It's VERY posible ur boyfriend hasn't come out with being gay yet... be aware of that

  • So fucking hot. It's one of my fantasties to see the guy I'm with sucking another guys cock. it drives me while seeing two guys together! I love men, I love cock! What's better than one cock? Two! I would have wanted to ether sit in the corner and masturbate or join in. And no im not kidding, im totally serious that's why I'm anonymous... My man is on here too and he'd die if he found out I like that shit.

    • This is the best answer. I wish more girls were like you, it's regrettable that you felt you had to make this comment anonymously. Technically it was cheating, but he's almost definitely being honest when he says it was meaningless. To me that's not as bad having an affair or something. Contrary to popular opinion here, you can be a masculine straight man and also have a cock sucking fetish. A lot of straight guys do this, but they don't talk about it because so many ignorant people go into hysteria.

    • My girlfriend loves to watch me with other guys. She keeps my dick locked in my cage and enjoys watching him fuck me till I start leaking out my cage. She said when she is watching me blow him it’s the hottest thing especially when I make him cum and swallow every drop. I still prefer women over men and never would do anything unless she approves.

    • @Stroker4 That sounds very hot! I've never made a guy cum before but if my girlfriend was really into watching it I'd suck and swallow for her.

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  • No that's not something guys just do.

    Break up with him.
    He has cheated on you and he's in the closet over whether he is bi or gay. Either way that behaviour is unacceptable, and breaking your trust. Doesn't matter if you are a boy or a girl, he is using someone else for sexual satisfaction behind your back.

  • He is so wrong. Hell yes it's cheating when he has sexual interactions with another person no matter their gender. Whether you give him another chance is your choice, but first he'd need to stop lying to you and to himself. Him being bisexual doesn't mean he can suddenly sleep around!

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  • 1. If being gay isn't a crime then being bi is not one either
    2. He is bisexual and so there...
    3. Yes but it'd be best if bi guys and girls can come out in the open to state they are bi but acceptance is an issue so they don't
    4.. Today Gays are accepted largely in most societies so they wind up accepting their orientation
    5. Bisexuals however, are looked upon with more suspicion
    6, No unless the guy isn't at least a bisexual, they don't do that with each other. No confusion there
    7. However, deciding whether you can live with a guy that's bisexual is your call
    8. There are many people that live with their bi partners even if they don't indulge in sex with their partner's same gender partners sexually. But again it's an individual call
    9. Try not to criminalize sexual orientation that's all :)
    10. I'm sorry you had to go through all this. But take a moment & breath to think...

    • Regardless of whatever orientation he is, he was having a sexual activity with someone other than her. Since that is obviously not okay with her, he was cheating on her.

    • @Red_Arrow stop shooting arrows at me (😜) I'm just letting the young lady make her own decisions by using her own thoughts on it

  • No they don't. Sorry to say your boyfriend likes penis
    Best case situation is that he's bi I'm afraid hun
    otherwise your his beard and he's gay...

  • No, most guys would not do that in a million years.

  • Yeah... I'm pretty sure guys don't do that...

  • STRAIGHT guys do NOT really do that to each other. End of discussion.

    • was he really straight though , NO you posted in here so your curious to huh your curious to huh come on give it a try whats it goanna hurt huh , Its like suckin a lollipop huh one lick is just a tease si=o you want more huh one sucks not just enough

    • @Hillbilly666. your wallet is full of $3 bills, but I am straight.

  • LOL. "just something guys do when they play with each other" , bullfucking shit , the least he could do is own up to what he's doing but nah too much work ain't it?

  • Wow he bullshit straight out lied to you, guys dont play that way. Babe you can cheat on your girlfriend with another guy... he's a true dumbass.

    Guys dont do that to each other AT ALL, unless theyre gay! Dont go back to him, break up.

  • No, guys don't usually do that and the idea that he can't cheat on you with a guy is ridiculous. I don't think you should go back.

  • you are a girl right? hell no... if he likes girls, he won't do that. This guy is different, possibly gay. Its up to you, but he just cheated on you...

  • If he said "no homo" you're good. 🙋

    • he was just playing lol.

    • @anonman32 I don't know... @fearless_banana what do you think? #NoHomo?

    • i was just joking. guys dont play like that you know, at least not straight ones.

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  • No , time to throw up them dueces and walk. He is obviously to homophobic to admit he is gay.

  • A liar, a cheater and unmanly gay, sorry for you for being with a guy like this.

  • that's so messed up lol !

    • Don't u suck dick though?

  • If this is real, then he's full of shit and he cheated on you with a man and is still not being honest with you. All signs point to dumping him on the curb.

  • Leave, he's delusional.

  • I think that's cheating in my book, regardless of whether it is with a guy or girl. It also puts you at risk for stds, etc., so I think you have a right to be angry.

  • I think that's hot, but he cheated so break up.

  • I would dump him in a second...

    • Why would you take so long? lol

  • LMFAO

  • he is into guys... and yea its cheating

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