Constant excuses and rejection from husband. What are your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are in our early 40's and have been married 3 years. When we were first married, we had sex 2-3 times a week. It quickly dwindled and now it's one time every 6-8 weeks. I initiate often and get turned down most of the time. I will wear cute lingerie and I recently lost quite a bit of weight - mainly for myself but also an attempt to get him to want me. The last couple of times we have tried, he will start talking about something random (ex. Where did you get that bruise or you're starting to get a tan). By the time I answer or respond, he's went limp and that's the end of that. There have been times blowjobs won't arrouse him. He says he has low testosterone and needs to go to the doctor. However, he has used that excuse for 2 years and has yet to go after I've encouraged him to do so after speaking about how the rejection is making me feel. Today he came in early from work. I had a cute little outfit on and when he got out of the shower I asked him if he wanted to just go to the bedroom. He said - Now? I will give you a hug. Maybe later we will give it a whirl. Later is always the response and the constant rejection is really affecting my self esteem. Any thoughts or suggestions?

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