Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Could you date someone (male or female) who was raped or sexually assaulted?
RJGraveyTrain Editor
I haven't been, just FYI, but there are people who I am close to who have experienced sexual assault during periods of their lives and I'd be lying if I didn't feel bad for them. I could only imagine their experience, so I did, and it inspired me to beg the question: "Would it scare someone away if I told them I was sexually assaulted?" Note, I would never do such a thing, but I can only imagine how many assault survivors have to ask themselves this question, and how many don't speak up out of fear of scaring someone off. So my question for you today is: could you date someone of your preferred gender even if they had been sexually assaulted/raped? Why or why not?
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15 42Im not sure. In a way if you date them you have to pay an emotional debt that the other guy created, help pick of the pieces that he broke. She will be more guarded with you because of what the other guy did, which is understandable but its extra drama and effort that I wouldn't have to deal with of I was dating someone who hasn't had that kind of traimatic past.
That said, I guess if overall, the pros outweigh the cons I would consider it. But if I think it would be easy to find someone else who has similar positive qualities but without all the extra baggage then there isn't much incentive.
Yeah of course. It wouldn't make a difference on whether I'd date them or not
i would.
I cannot think of any rational reason to not date someone who has been the victim of a sex crime.
They have done nothing wrong.
Some time might be necessary to help them through the process of recovering, psychologically and perhaps physically, but that is something that any decent human being would be willing to do.
I really don't understand why any woman outside of the middle East would be scared of this. If having been raped is a deal breaker for him, then he obviously sees you as damaged goods rather than a person. and how many guys like that do you think there are outside fundamentalist Islam?
yeah why not?
and I really don't get "I'm scared to be with someone who has been raped part". What should I be afraid of?
Wouldn't bother me, it wasn't a choice.
Once upon a time, I liked and fell for a girl who later told me that she was assaulted as a child. She was one of the sweetest and most accepting people I knew. But alas, we took different paths.
Yes I definitely would. We could help each other out and build each other up.
My girlfriend has unfortunately been raped and sexually assaulted (forced to give guys head etc) in the past - it never put me off, it doesn't make her any less perfect to me.
I have been and yes i could.
Dammit. I wish i made this private.
Most of the people I've been in relationships with were sexually assaulted at some point in their life.
yes... but damaged people need to fix themselves before going into relationships
Sure! I just won't ask too many details beyond that fact, lest she relives the event.
That would be in the Faux Pas Hall of Fame. Or is it Shame, technically?
hell yeah. I'd date girls who get robbed or even been in an accident too. but I never date a girl who commits robbery, homicide and stuff like that.
well only if they don't have incurable STDs 😹
The reason that scares people away is because they dwell on it WAY too much. It WAS a traumatic experience. But I can't constantly relive that in my love life. I can't adapt my behaviors, beliefs and desires just for that.
I'm not sure if I'd be ready to handle that kind of drama. I mean depends on the woman and how she handles it.
Yes. In fact, I'd be glad to help them through the recovering process. No one deserves such a fate.
Of course I would. One of my best friends has gone through it.
It wouldn't scare me away, but I can see how it could make it awkward for some people as to what to say or how to act toward them.
I would hope that people would not be scared off by that.
I did. It didn't work out. She didn't trust me.