Did I fuck up by telling a guy I'd rather die than be with you that was confessing his feelings for me?

[Anonymous]

[boredgal]

OH NO. yes you did fucked that up. I don't think you've ever confessed your feelings to someone before because if you have, then you would definitely know how much courage it takes and to hear an answer like that is just heart-shattering. you may have changed that person's life forever, and I hope it will make him a better person.

[WizzardGirl]

Damn... big time

Poor guy

Wtf is wrong with you

You are one nasty bch

[Shyfemguy]

Girls like her brake us into a hundred pieces and we can never get back up again because of how hurt we are.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

@Shyfemguy I know this isn't fun advice, but it will get better. But not if you obsess over the hurt. Think of it like Bruce Lee's approach to learning martial arts. Take what's useful (and sometimes with a rejection like what OP did, there's nothing useful in it except for the fact you've shot your shot and you're still alive), and leave what isn't (it doesn't help you to wallow in hurt). Do things to restore your spirit, take the time to heal your hurt and lick your wounds, then get back on the horse. Don't give the women who hurt you more power than they deserve. You control your reactions, and actions.

[Shyfemguy]

@Smoke-n-Growls But i wonder why some women have to like that? Just plain evil 😭

[Smoke-n-Growls]

@Shyfemguy Some people - not even by gender, just humans being humans - are shitty people. No redeeming them, just leaving them behind.

[Shyfemguy]

@Smoke-n-Growls True , fortunately good people like you exist.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Depends, but you were definitely meaner and more exaggersted than you needed to be.

I can see that sort of bite back response if he's been a "Nice Guy" misogynist who hasn't gotten the hint after many attempts to reject him politely.

But if he had just come out to say it to you and he wasn't being inappropriate, you definitely fucked up.

Practice rejecting people politely, and understanding where they've come from. Again, if they are inappropriate or cross your boundaries, do what you will. If they haven't done anything to earn your ire, though, calm your tits and handle it like a big girl.

[DaveJord]

Nope not at all. I mean was it a little harsh and maybe over the top and unnecessary to be that brutal... well maybe, but then again maybe not. I always say best to be honest and as a direct as possible. I think some people men and women in general, try to be to polite and the other person doesn't get the message.

No, I would Rather Die!!!

[Aerissa_Jade]

Depends, did you try to be nice to him first about it. Guys have a hard time confessing feelings to begin with, and now he may never ever do it again to anyone, so destroyed forever.

If it was his first time and you went nuclear on him, that was mean and uncalled for.

If he has before and you've already said not interested and he just won't quit, then your fine... he deserved it.

[MTC29]

That is just downright mean.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes that is beyond brutal.

when someone says it to you, then you will likely realise just how traumatic a thing to say it is.

which someone may do when they reject you

[MCheetah]

That's not even in the top ten worst things I've ever heard a girl say to someone who liked her. Even as a troll post.

[SeekingSubmission]

No you're not a bad person for having to say that because I have had to say that to a female sometimes you got to be that ignorant and blunt to get it through their heads like so yeah I'd rather die than f****** be with you if there's no crime in saying that to anyone if it's the truth!

[Harleigh90]

You probably just broke a decent man 🤦‍♀️

[Shyfemguy]

And then they wonder why they always end up with douchebags

[MCheetah]

@harleigh90 It's okay. Women do it everyday and then wonder "where have all the good men gone" in their late thirties by the time all the Bad Boys and Chads leave them.

[whereismyjohnny]

Shitty move.

[Asker]

It's literally the truth lol

[boggboss]

Pretty shitty thing to say

[Asker]

I mean I told him the truth lol

[boggboss]

Claiming to hide behind the truth don't change the face that it was rude if on a daily baises anybody that found u unattractive went upto u and said u was ugly it would be rude but the truth to them

[Asker]

I mean I'm not ugly but even if they would say that I know it's not true lol

[boggboss]

U being ugly is not a objective thing its subjective any stranger can view u as ugly so to them it would be true

[BlackBeauty90]

@Asker - you ARE ugly. In fact, you're disgusting. A prime example of beauty is only skin deep and UGLY cuts straight to the bone. Your personality is UGLY.

[UniquelyBasic]

Yes you did

[RealMarek]

That’s junior high level behavior. It’s okay to say no. If the guy doesn’t stop asking you can tell him not to ask again. If he ignores that, tell him to f-off. But there is no need to be so ruthless and crush a guy for simply expressing interest in you.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Ehh you did. Not a good thing to say to someone who just gathered all his courage to ask you out.

[FilmGuy93]

It was kind of a rude thing to say lol. Did you intend to reject him so harshly? Is there some reason that rejecting him would come back to bite you?

[IveGotNoName]

Damn that's harsh

[Asker]

It's the truth lol

[IveGotNoName]

The truth shouldn't always be told so directly. Luke Jesus Christ have some humanity.

[IveGotNoName]

Like**

[Asker]

I always tell it how it is

[IveGotNoName]

Then you must not have a lot of friends.

[Rockstarrrrr]

This is how mass shooters are made lol

[Trpkjr]

Wow that is a pretty cold hearted thing to say

[Ironic_Method]

Yeah, you're kind of an asshole for doing that.

[Hairylegs222]

Wow... That's fucked up. Bad move. That's how you lose respect from others. You're asking that question on here like you're not sure... That's even worse. You should know better. Maybe your parents never taught you that along with being polite, no offense.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Damn that’s pretty messed up